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1.Give your child a chance to speak when he or she makes a mistake and ask him to talk about why he made the mistake.
When a child makes a mistake, be sure to call him in front of him. Ask the child calmly what this matter is about, and first understand what is going on in this matter. Then tell the child about the harmfulness of this matter, so that the child can understand the wrongness of this matter through his own analytical ability, and then fundamentally change the mistake.
2.Let your child talk about how he feels and share his or her opinions.
When a child does something wrong, be sure to wait for the child to finish the whole process of the incident and understand the reason why the child did something wrong. And then explain why the child does this, the benefit of doing so, or to follow the example of the people around him, so that the child can confide in the adult about his true thoughts, so that it can help the parents solve the problem from the root of the matter, and will not be disgusted by the child.
In general, educate children in the same way, be patient with children's education, don't be short-tempered, treat children with reason, be calm in the case of dealing with anything, and don't blindly follow the herd tantrums. It is easy to cause children's rebellious psychology and embark on the road of no return. Be sure to communicate more with your children, solve problems from the source, and pay attention to ways and means in communication with your children.
Let children take the initiative to realize their mistakes and know their own shortcomings. So as to change mistakes through their own efforts and mentality.
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It is normal for children to make mistakes in life because of their young age, and many parents are angry about this, but there is no need for this, after all, they are also slowly coming from this stage, on the contrary, they should give their children more tolerance and patience, so that they are more likely to accept the guidance of adults to correct their mistakes. So when they perceive that their children may be in trouble, how should parents control them? In fact, you can follow the steps below to do so, which can not only avoid mistakes but also maintain parent-child relationships.
Before the child makes a mistake, the parents must persuade him in time, reason with him and analyze the risks, so that the child can fully understand why this thing cannot be done. However, in reality, many parents do not have much patience, they will only "shout" with one move, and the child is frightened on the spot. Although it was also a timely stop to a trouble, the parents only repeatedly emphasized to their children that they could not do the next thing, but they did not explain the reasons clearly, let alone analyze the truth clearly.
The child knows that he can't do it, but he is obviously very curious about it, which lays the foundation for another attempt in the future. Therefore, if parents want to educate their children, they must use the form of persuasion in the field of speech, so that they can listen to both the ears and the heart, so that it can be truly effective.
If verbal persuasion is ineffective, parents must take action to stop it in time. Sometimes it's because you don't hear what the adults say, sometimes because you're angry, and the child is still ready to do something out of the ordinary, and then the parents have to stop it. Not only that, but adults also have to punish the child appropriately, for example, in the face of a child who climbs a high wall, the parent will hit him twice in the arm to make him dare not do similar dangerous things again.
The adult must act for two purposes, to stop the current behavior and to give a certain punishment, so that the child can learn the lesson.
Some things are wrong in the way, for example, the child throws the garbage on the ground every time, which is because the parents have to guide him to use the trash can correctly, and after the correct demonstration, he will naturally be able to correct his behavior in the future.
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Parents should not scold their children when they are about to make mistakes, everyone can make mistakes, especially children. Many parents begin to blame their children when their children make mistakes, and impatient parents will beat and scold their children, which is very detrimental to the healthy growth of children. If this is done for a long time, children will become unconfident, and they will avoid things and learn to lie.
When a child learns to lie, it is likely that the parent's attitude is too intense.
When a child is found to be making a mistake, parents can first listen to how the child expresses his feelings and know the child's thoughts, so that parents can take further steps to correct the child. No matter what the child's thoughts are, parents need to maintain a patient attitude, listen to what the child thinks, and work with the child to find a better solution. When children are about to make mistakes, parents should not correct them with a bad attitude, but should reason with their children and make them realize their mistakes.
After the child realizes his mistake, the child will try to correct the mistake. Although there are still many shortcomings in children's ideas, it is best for parents to respect their children's decisions. Parents need to respect their children and not impose their own ideas on their children.
When the child finds that he can't solve it in the process of solving the problem, he will naturally ask his parents for help, and when the child asks for help, the parents will help the child solve the problem, which is conducive to cultivating the child's ability to solve the problem.
Children may make all kinds of mistakes in the process of development, and parents must maintain a calm attitude towards their children's mistakes when they find that they have made mistakes. When a child makes a mistake and corrects it, parents can take this opportunity to educate their child and analyze with him how the incident occurred and how to avoid such mistakes in the future. Children will also learn from this mistake, and then continue to develop their own problem-solving skills, and will grow into a sound personality.
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It should be stopped in time, or not stopped, so that he can experience the harm of making mistakes. It can cultivate children's sense of danger, know what danger is, know the consequences caused by mistakes, and cultivate children's safety awareness.
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Parents who are too restrained in their children is a sign of parental strength. The impact on their children is as follows:1.
Let the child have psychological pressure and cannot grow up healthily; 2.Let the child be too timid, afraid of being punished or beaten by his parents; 3.Let your child have low self-esteem.
If parents are too restrained, the child will find that there is no self-confidence and everything will develop according to the opinions and interference of the parents. 4. Let the child lose his own opinions, parents agree to do it, do not agree to do it, and the child's own judgment and decision-making power, as well as thinking, dare not play easily. 5.
Let the child lose his freedom and happiness. Childhood needs to be released, and restraint is really a big stumbling block.
Chinese parents ruin their children with "too much management". This is a time of anxiety, and every parent is anxious about their child's future. They do their best for their children, accompany their children to interest classes, practice piano and learn Olympiad mathematics, buy 8 million school districts, and spend 30,000 yuan to support a summer vacation.
And want them to give more for their child's success. There is a kind of parent who hovers over the child like ***. They monitor the child's every move at all times, hoping that everything about the child is under the control of the parents, for fear that the child will lose at the starting line.
If the anxiety of ordinary parents begins in elementary school, the anxiety of elite parents is even earlier, until the child is still in kindergarten.
In order not to let their children lose at the starting line, more and more parents are joining the army of "running", they manage, teach, pull, and drag their children to run forward desperately. As a result, the more children who attend interest classes, the more they are not interested in anything; The more you praise your child, the easier it is to have blx, the more parents help your child in everything, and the more your child won't do anything. Is it because parents don't pay enough and discipline too little?
No, not enough, but too much. Too many parents control their children in the name of love, put heavy shackles on their children, and kidnap their children's lives. They are destroying children with their love.
There is a kind of love in the world called letting go; There is also a separate party. It contains trust, respect, and blessings. It contains the deepest and most selfless love, and your happiness is my greatest happiness.
So, I would like to ask parents who violate their children's lives in the name of love, do you really love your children? Or is it only yourself in your heart from beginning to end?
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Excessive discipline will make the child very rebellious in adolescence, you say east, he wants to go west. Moreover, excessive discipline will suppress children's creativity and innocence, and make children lack self-confidence. I think discipline is necessary, but there must be a degree, give children more space to give full play to their strengths.
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It will lead to the loss of the child's ability to think independently and live independently, and the excessive discipline of the parents often limits the child's possibilities, so that the child grows up in the framework of the parent, which will make the child lack the ability to innovate and break through himself from an early age.
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Parents who control their children too much will make them autistic and rebellious. If parents do not give their children freedom for a long time and overly control their study and life, it will make the child disgusted and depressed, depressed, unwilling to speak, and will make the child have confrontational psychology and behavior in the later stage of development.
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It may cause psychological or physical discomfort to one's children, psychological inferiority, inability to let go of oneself, etc., and physical may make people uninteresting, without personality, and so on.
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Parents are too harsh and loud when disciplining their children, and often lose their temper with their children will make their children timid, and sometimes they don't even understand why parents lose their temper, and they will suspect that they are not popular or that their parents don't love themselves, thinking that they can't do anything well, and they seriously lack a sense of belonging, and they are prone to inferiority and even cowardice, which affects the healthy development of children. If it is an excessively introverted child who yells and yells a lot, he will feel very inferior in the future, and he will feel that he can't do anything in front of others and has no self-confidence, and it will also make the child have no confidence in life.
If you yell at a naughty child, it will inspire the child to rebel. Such children will often work against adults and are not afraid of you. It also formed that he would yell at others in his later life, and a vicious circle would also be formed.
Everyone is in a different environment and has a different education. Yelling won't solve the fundamental problem. Parents are the first teachers of their children, they are role models for their children, living in a violent family, parents always use tantrums and violence to solve problems, and children will become very violent when they grow up, and they will also solve problems in a tantrum way, thus affecting their children's interpersonal relationships.
This kind of repressive education makes children feel that their parents cannot give them warmth and love, they cannot feel their parents' love for them, and children cannot express their pain or intimacy with their parents, and they are easy to feel pain in life and study; Affect children's self-confidence and lack of confidence in themselves. When children believe in their parents' "criticism", they will have self-denial, really feel that they are very bad, and lose confidence in themselves. If children are often reprimanded by their parents in public, they are prone to form an inferior introverted personality when they grow up, and even if they have a sense of self-optimization later, I am afraid that it will take a long transformation process, which will seriously affect work and life, and pay a huge price for it.
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Children can become very low-spirited, introverted, uncommunicative, and irritable, which is not good for the child's physical and mental health if the situation is severe.
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It can lead to lack of self-confidence and depression. Because loud scolding will frighten the child and become unconfident; And regular strict education will make children become untalkative and depressed.
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It can be very stressful for children. It can even produce an autistic mentality. Usually reluctant to come into contact with outsiders. And there will be suicidal thoughts. I don't like to study,
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It is very likely that the child will have low self-esteem, dare not speak, be very introverted, like loneliness, and produce the harm of depression.
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When it comes to educating their children, many parents have their own different approaches. Some parents are free-range education, they think that this can stimulate their children's potential and develop their children's intelligence. However, some parents believe that children must behave in a standardized manner from an early age, be civilized and polite, and be a mature and sensible good child.
So as a parent, will you discipline your children reasonably? <>
For me personally, I think that if there are no rules, there will be no circle. Children have too little understanding of this society and the world, so they need to be guided by their parents to a large extent. So as a parent, you must standardize and manage your child's various behaviors.
If parents educate their children in a free-range manner, then after the children enter the school, they will also be bound by the rules of the teacher and the school. If you are in a free-range education, then your child will be particularly "different" in the class, which will cause a lot of trouble for the teacher and the school. <>
Instead of handing over your children to the school spring sock management, it is better to guide the various behaviors and habits of children from the beginning. For example, when the child is young, parents let the child eat, but he still wants to watch TV, and even wants to bring the meal to the TV and watch it while eating.
This kind of behavior and habit is obviously very bad, and in the end, I can't watch TV well or eat well. Therefore, parents must restrain such behavior habits. When it's time to eat, you must eat on time, you can't eat when watching TV, and you must cultivate your child's concentration mentality.
In fact, this is just the tip of the iceberg of managing children, so there are no rules, there is no circle, and what the ancestors said must be not wrong. If a child has no rules since he was a child, then he will be hated by many people.
Seeing their own child's rude behavior, others will question the child's tutoring. Therefore, children's behavior must be guided and constrained by their parents. Parents must be good at managing their children, but they cannot completely restrict their children.
In the combination of being managed and free development, children can grow up more healthily.
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