Advice on depression and sexual orientation problems, what should I do if I have sexual orientation

I'm the same age as the landlord, but I'm a man.

I also had a similar experience with the landlord, for example, you said that you love life for a while, and then feel that life is very depressing. When you reach an age, you don't dare to believe and try love easily. Emotions are often at two extremes. Think you can do things but never do them. Wait a minute.

I knew I had a psychological problem, but before I needed to see a psychiatrist, I read a lot of books on psychoanalysis, and there was one book that I thought had enlightened me. I recommend it to you. Karlen's "Neurosis and Human Growth".

Let me give you a piece of my own impressions after reading it. Although you'd better find the original book.

I read Karlenhenee's "Neurosis and Human Growth" for the third time, and I think my friend was right. Although he just thinks I'm naïve and stubborn. As stated in the first few chapters of the book, I do have what is called a "compulsive personality."

My "self-idealization" made me give up my true self, and the "self-idealization" secretly promised me to solve my painful and unbearable emotions (such as the loss of a failed relationship, the anxiety of the mistakes I made, the low self-esteem and alienation), and promised to realize the final, mysterious self and his life (!). As recently as I blogged the other day, I said, "I believe that individuals can find a beautiful and noble state of existence and a future that suits them"! This is actually the false confidence that "self-idealization" gives me.

Honey describes it as a "quest for honor", a pathological solution to one's own predicament, and if one persists on this path, it will inevitably lead to low self-esteem and self-suffering, and the individual will lose his soul --- true self.

This gave me a little bit of an idea of why I failed in relationships. My demands for perfection, goodness, and the divine; My sense of independence, freedom, and wisdom, and my attitude of indisputability and subordination have all been concealed and modified by "self-idealization." The demand for perfection is actually my cruel demand for others, and it is a reckless behavior that arises from not daring to take responsibility; My independent and free wisdom is in fact indifference and selfishness; My indisputability and subordination are actually inferiority complex and compromise.

I used to feel how unbearable the length of time is, how empty my life is after realizing my ideals, how boring the dialogue with others is because I can't reach the level ......of faith, and how cruel it is for women to grow old and love to fade awayThese make me unable to make up my mind to face money seriously, face ideals, and face things that I can change but are too lazy to change; I can't make up my mind to seriously transform my life and treat others well; I can't make up my mind to fall in love seriously, although I often feel that my happiness is one step away. "

It's not that you love the same sex.

It's just that the person who happens to love is of the same sex.

As long as you feel happy, do it.

Do your own test??

Psychological tests can only be done in professional institutions, and the results of doing it yourself are extremely untrustworthy!!

It is recommended that you do not be afraid of trouble, or go to a psychological counselor, who can give you advice from a professional point of view.

You are a very cute girl, as you can tell from the way you express it. Actually, I've encountered your problems before, but it seems that this society doesn't allow certain problems to exist. Qu Yuan said:

The water of the waves is clear, and you can wet my beauty; The water of the waves is turbid, and you can wet my feet. "Some aspects of society, family, etc. may be unsatisfactory, but it is not something that can be fought on your own, but it is more realistic to adapt yourself to it. Try to think of something happy and realize the true meaning of love, which is the way of life.

What I said is not correct, because I am also living in trouble. Therefore, it is better to ask for others than to ask for yourself, and find a way to adjust it.

It doesn't matter, sexual orientation is no longer a problem! I'm gay, I just like young and handsome guys, how about it?

Sexual orientation is a person's innate talent, and there is no high or low.

There is no problem with sexual orientation, why do so many people not understand?

Brother, it's normal to have desires, that's something that everyone will have. Repression is not the solution, it should be channeled. Either you go for a regular friend, or you spread your energy to other areas, and the more you want to control, the more you will pay attention to it, the harder it will be to control.

As for the pressure, everyone has it, but the comrades will be a little bigger, it's nothing, the comrades have come over like this, although there may be no fairness at all, but now we have no other choice, we can only insist on persisting and persevering, you can't change the world, you can only adapt and face.

Basically, there is no solution to the problem, because your problems are different from person to person, and I can only suggest one direction.

Finally, on the issue of mental health, in addition to being a high-risk group for AIDS, gay people are also at high risk of mental illness, perhaps because of excessive stress, so be careful.

It's nothing, nothing else is to face it strongly, we can't change it, we can only face it head-on, let's work together.

You're not very clear, but I guess it's possible that you have sexual cleanliness and depression because you are sexually oriented.

Five years is a short period of time, and it means that you have not been able to identify with your sexuality and adjust to the changes caused by homosexuality. After all, homosexuality is very stressful in society now, although you have same-sex sexual behavior, but because of cultural influence and family education since childhood, it may be difficult for you to accept it because of the influence of ethics and morality. On the one hand, you can't deny that you really like the same sex and have sex, but on the other hand, you feel that it is unethical to do so, you are sorry for your parents, you are afraid of letting people around you know, and you are afraid that others will lose relatives and friends because of your sexual orientation.

This conflict will become deeper and deeper as you continue to have sex, you resist the fact that you are gay, you behave in a way that your head and hands and feet do not listen to your voice and resist sex, and at the same time, you are emotionally suppressed and depressed for a long time because you can't identify with yourself and worry about external feedback.

That's my guess, but don't sit in the right seat if that's not the case.

In addition, if you are very distressed, it is recommended that you find some relevant information to see, if you know an insider, you can also confide in them, compared to everyone who has experienced similar depressions, I believe that some people who have been homosexuals for a long time can help you deal with your self-identity problems.

Finally, many gay people are very good, I hope you will get rid of your troubles as soon as possible and not affect your academic career because of your sexual orientation.

Is it a speech and behavior disorder? Judging from your question, it seems that you are not very good at expressing yourself.

Homosexuality and sexual cleanliness are not a big problem, it should be your depression that causes your problems, so it is recommended that you ** good depression first. But I'm afraid that your symptoms will deepen your depression. Therefore, it is recommended that you stop having sex first, change your interest in life, and try to try something other fun to get rid of the depression.

Of course, it's not a bad idea to consult a psychiatrist.

Well, your situation falls within the scope of homosexuality, because homosexuality is not for every man, and if you don't believe it, you can find a girl to try it out, and if you don't have that impulse, you can continue to discover and associate with your friends, because if you are gay and you have to marry a girl, then you are not wasting your youth and happiness alone, so it is recommended that you figure out your situation as soon as possible, and tell you the trick of breaking a man: be good to him without asking for anything in return, and wait for him to be moved. You're two-thirds of the way out.

I have a little different opinion, I think this is a human instinct, a primitive reaction, both men and women have a mother-lover-father plot, in fact, I have been in a similar situation like you, I am very panicked in my heart, thinking that I have this tendency, try to avoid it, but there will be some thoughts that make me nervous and worried, but I am fine now, I have a good girlfriend, to sum up, I think it is a stage of mental change, no need for special attention or nervousness As long as you're conscious and know what you're supposed to do, you're what you are, like you said, you don't want to be like this, you're not, then you're not, it's just an instinct, an indirect need, there's nothing to worry about, you don't care too much about it, the more you think about it, the more anxious you are, the more you're afraid of what you're going to lose, the more you're going to lose more than you want. Don't think about it.

If you have had a similar experience, either be friends with him, keep a certain distance, and silently leave that emotion, and let it become a hazy memory of your youth with him; Either stay away from him from now on and don't let yourself fall into it.

Try to avoid spending too much time with men, and you can try it with a girl who likes you, even if you don't feel gay, it's okay.

I guess it's curious! Get a girlfriend.

Standard comrade! Identification completed.

In fact, your sexual orientation has been determined at a very early stage, you have been suppressed until now, and there is already a very heavy psychological barrier in your heart, and you really want to change, but you can't do it with your own efforts! You need to find a psychological counselor, cooperate, and carry out **! If you continue to be depressed, your psychological problems will be even worse!

Good luck! You can send me a private message.

You're gay, but homosexuality isn't a disease, just follow your heart.

I would like to ask how the landlord's sexual orientation status is now?

Sexual orientation can be changed, it's up to you whether you want it or not.

In fact, don't worry, everyone will have all kinds of troubles on the way to growth, your problem is not so serious, if you really want to solve this confusion, I suggest you still talk to the person you trust the most, this will definitely help you.

As for the method I give you, find yourself a girlfriend, feel that you are very good with the opposite sex, and after feeling her kindness to you, you will naturally face life squarely, and you will find your true self.

It doesn't matter, don't you know that there is a kind of person in this world called the rotten girl?

That's right, I'm a rotten girl.

Love has no gender boundaries, just like it.

There are also a lot of rotten girls on the Internet, and they will definitely support you.

It's definitely not a base, because you still like women, and will only like men.

I've seen you a lot, it's okay, I think everyone has a little bit of a mentality like you, at least I am, but I'm definitely not gay

I'm a boy, I also like to look at handsome guys on the street, I like to deliberately have an affair with a man, but I know, but I'm sure it's a girl, I think you're just too sensitive, like you said, you don't fantasize about you and men but you and women, in essence you're not. In short, it must be caused by your being too sensitive.

Let's find a girlfriend. Feel his kindness to you.

Although it is very free, it is better to find the opposite sex. There will be many benefits later. Looking for the same sex, there will be a lot of troubles in the future, there are many people who don't understand, and life is not easy. So you can find a way to change it now.

Generally speaking, it is mainly due to the influence of adolescence, and the psychologist Sigmund Freud once said: the most influential moments in childhood for children include the understanding of sexuality.

Genes and the acquired living environment, it is normal for a person to like what kind of person he likes.

Sexual orientation is an innate talent of a person.

It could be the living environment or the inheritance of the parents.