What if you are desperate and scared?

I recommend that you seek help from a professional psychologist or psychologist.

For a person to get out of this kind of betrayal brought by someone who once trusted him very much, first, it takes a lot of courage, second, it needs a strong psychology, and third, it needs to have a higher goal in his heart than love to take deep root in his heart.

In fact, time is the best medicine for everything. However, more than two years have passed since I found out that my ex-boyfriend had designed and forced me to break up, and I still refuse to trust men.

But having someone to help you get out of this shadow can at least bring peace back to your life.

I hope you live a peaceful and happy life.

Let's go for a walk! Don't sit in one place all the time! Some things used to take time! Don't be so yourself, live well to be worthy of yourself! The kind of man who is not worthy of your nostalgia, the good ones are still waiting for you! Women have to be right!

Your question is not in line with despair Despair is a feeling of hope and desperate desire that is sometimes unanswered. It's a painful feeling.

You're just afraid. Learn how to find happiness and hope, and you won't be afraid.

What can't you put down? Although it is difficult to part with the emotions of four years, you think about the moment he turned over and turned around!

If you want to get rid of depression, you can only rely on yourself, find another man who cares about yourself and loves yourself, let him help you get out of the dark world.

If he hides it too well, then it's useless for you to look for it, and you still trust him.

You can't simply trust others, but not everyone will be like this, if you are afraid, there will always be more, then you may be like this in the future.

Just find a better one, or wait a little longer.

Nothing to be afraid of.

1. Divert attention. When you're bothered by fear, there are ways to distract yourself. For example, fiddling with small objects that you are familiar with, familiar things will give you a sense of intimacy and security, and invisibly release your stress.

In addition, you can do some things that you usually like to do, such as listening, playing basketball, walking, singing, etc., to regulate your emotions and relieve your fear.

2. Perform muscle exercises. Fear produces not only psychological reactions, but also a range of physiological responses. When a person has feelings of fear, the body secretes more adrenaline.

Proper muscle exercise, that is, tensioning and relaxing muscles, is beneficial to the release of adrenaline and reduces fear. Therefore, if you feel fear coming, you might as well stand up and move your muscles, which is also a good way to decompress. It is important to note that vigorous exercise should not be done in this case, otherwise the effect will be counterproductive.

3. Take a deep breath. Deep breathing is the most common way to decompress. Deep breathing, also known as abdominal breathing, is a physiological way to absorb oxygen and emit carbon dioxide more efficiently, allowing the body to be in a more relaxed state.

It is more important to pay attention to the contraction of the abdomen when breathing, the chest does not move, and the inhalation and exhalation should be slow, pause before preparing to inhale and exhale, empty the brain at each pause, let go of distracting thoughts, exhale as if exhaling all emotions out of the body, and when inhaling, it implies that you are absorbing more positive energy.

Fourth, use psychological cues skillfully. Psychological suggestion has great power, and positive psychological suggestion will increase one's self-confidence and make one brave. When you face difficulties, you secretly cheer yourself up and cheer yourself up, this method makes people more confident and brave.

Fifth, well-read. Ignorance produces fear, and knowledge eliminates fear. Many people were afraid of thunder when they were young, and they were afraid of ghosts in the mouths of adults, but when we went to school and knew the principle of thunder, and knew that ghosts only scared us, we were no longer afraid.

The reason why people are afraid is that they are not aware and do not understand what the other person is, so they are afraid and uneasy, and they can calmly respond to what they understand and master. Therefore, reading a lot of books and learning more knowledge can often eliminate your fear of many things.

1. Divert attention.

When you're bothered by fear, you might as well divert your attention and control your thoughts in various ways. Let's say you can do something you want to do, listen to ** or play basketball. When you dedicate yourself to these activities, your fears will be relieved.

2. Participate in sports.

Fear produces not only psychological reactions, but also a series of physiological responses. When you're scared, your body produces more adrenaline, and exercising is the best way to burn it off. So, when you are afraid, don't do nothing, it's better to stand up and walk, move a little, and do some muscle contraction exercises appropriately.

You can also run, walk, or even play ball. However, there is one thing to note, the intensity of exercise should not be too high.

3. Actively participate in group activities.

Actively participating in group activities can enrich your boring daily life. What's more, we tend to focus less on ourselves in the process of engaging with our friends, so as to ignore our fears.

Fourth, use psychological cues skillfully.

Psychological suggestion has great power, and positive psychological suggestion will increase one's self-confidence and make one brave. For example, graduation phobia is a psychological problem that many college students have, when this kind of fear appears, you might as well give yourself a positive psychological hint, control yourself not to think about those limbs or the terrible results, tell yourself, graduation is the beginning of a new life, is a new starting point in life, there are so many classmates with me to graduate, if others can successfully find employment, then I will definitely be able to.

Fifth, well-read.

Reading books is a great way to dispel fears. A lot of fear is caused by our own ignorance. For example, in ancient times, people made up the story of "Tengu eating the moon" to scare themselves, which was caused by a lack of scientific knowledge.

When we read a lot of books and have a wealth of knowledge about the natural sciences, many of our fears disappear.

Phobias usually have an acute onset and are preceded by an outbreak of anxiety in the face of an object or environment, knowing that this separable unnecessary fear is still unable to restrain and produce avoidance behaviors.

Fear comes from your heart:

On the one hand, the drug **phobia, the drug ** is mainly aimed at the anxiety and depression caused by the phobia. Tricyclic antidepressants can reduce the symptoms of generalized phobias, but discontinuation has a higher **, because the drug can only be an adjunct**.

On the other hand, it is to let the fearful person have more contact, train him to face it slowly until he is not afraid, plus it is psychological counseling, so that he understands that this is just from his inner fear.

Fear comes from within you, it is the fear of things and things in your heart.

To overcome fear is actually very simple, one, take it easy, and always maintain a relaxed state of mind, which helps to overcome fear. Second, write down the fears and think about how you will deal with them. There are good intentions and bad intentions.

Third, have faith, and you will understand that with devout faith, everything is not to be feared. Fourth, replace fear with giving, and get a happy mood when paying. Fifth, shift the goal and use other things to divert attention, such as listening, walking, reading, etc.

In this way, you are not afraid to face it, and you need to maintain a calm mind in the face of everything, and I wish you happiness in the end!

First of all, you have to have a strong heart, a strong heart, which requires you to exercise, for example, you can go to the stage to give a speech in normal times, you can meet more people, then of course you will be bold when you see more, and you will no longer be afraid when you are strong in your heart.

Secondly, go to outdoor sports more, and you will be more sunny and positive and happy in outdoor sports. This will make you very happy.

Finally, spend more time with friends who have a good relationship with you. If you have a good relationship, you can hang out together, work together, and do something as a success, and you will have more confidence in your heart.

How to get rid of tension and fear.