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Raising children has worked hard all their lives, and the elderly in rural areas are not happy late, can raising children prevent old age? I come to this question.

Raising children to prevent old age, Jigu to prevent hunger is from ancient times to the present, the Chinese people follow the unshakable creed of the family, and the family members of each family will use this creed to warn their children and grandchildren to be a good family, and they must have this ideological preparation, be a good filial son and grandson of the family, and have the idea of being prepared for danger in times of peace, be diligent and thrifty, and prepare for the material preparation of disasters and famines.

Now the state also has a policy, the elderly in rural areas after the age of 60, can also receive a pension, the specific amount, this depends on the actual local situation, different, the most may be 1,000 yuan a month. Although the money is not very much, it can still live on expenses. Because there is food and vegetables in the countryside, it saves money in all aspects than in the city.

So it's not much, but it can also solve some practical problems.

In addition, when the elderly are old, they must have their own savings, and they can't give them all to their children, you can provide for them to go to school, buy them a house, and give them a wife. Everything is handled properly for them. They're living a comfortable little life.

Entering the modern society, the big family has become a small family unit of a family of three, and it is difficult to raise children to prevent old age, because now there are many single-child families, and it is difficult for children and grandchildren to have the energy and financial resources to take care of their parents under great pressure in life, so now we must do a good job in Du Hui insurance, improve the social pension mechanism, and provide for the elderly by the society. In a year of famine, it is difficult to survive the famine by accumulating grain from one household to another, and we can only rely on the strength of the people of the collective country to produce and save themselves to survive the year of famine.

Raising children is not a single anti-aging consciousness, but a life goal that enriches life, takes root in folk culture and ideology, and makes people's outlook on life dependent. Now the wealthy rural areas have share dividends, although the elderly do not have pensions, this collective dividend is still helpful. Although the country is the last to enter the standard of developed countries, the financial end can meet the pension requirements of the elderly in rural areas.

The introduction of the national policy to tilt the distribution of rural asset rental income and rights and interests towards the elderly living in the village is to solve the problem of raising children and preventing old age and national finance.

All in all, elderly friends in rural areas, save more money by yourself, try to make yourself happy, live without worrying about food and clothing, and raising children can certainly prevent old age. But what you can solve by yourself is to trouble your children less.

I think the concept of raising children to prevent old age is outdated, and there are many sons around me who don't care much about their parents, so the most important thing is to live a good life, and don't put all your hopes on the children.

This is an isolated case, and it is illegal. Raising a child can definitely provide for the elderly, and the law says that this is everyone's obligation.

There is nothing to do with whether the pension is a son or not, the most important thing is the problem of education, and excessive spoiling of children is prone to this situation.

There are some young mothers in life, because they have a mother-in-law to help take care of the children, they don't have to worry too much, and they are very grateful to their mother-in-law for being willing to help them take care of the children. However, due to differences in parenting concepts and living habits, conflicts between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law are also prone to erupt, so does mother-in-law have the right not to let the child go back to her parents' home, and what does the mother-in-law think is helping her daughter-in-law take care of the child?

The mother-in-law has no right not to let the daughter-in-law take the child back to her parents' home, if the mother-in-law does this, it can only mean that she is too ignorant, the child was born by herself, and you have the right to bring it back to her parents' home. But you also need to see why the mother-in-law does not let herself take the child back to her parents' house, if she is worried that the child is not adapted, or the temperature outside is low, it is understandable. In this case, you can tell your mother-in-law that you will take good care of the child and don't take the child away, which is easy to affect the relationship between the mother-in-law and the daughter-in-law.

What is the matter with the mother-in-law thinking that she is helping her daughter-in-law take care of the children? Because the son was born by himself, it seems to be a matter of course to help his son take the child for granted, which is human nature and does not require anything in return. But the mother-in-law and the daughter-in-law are not related by blood, so some mothers-in-law said that she was helping her daughter-in-law take care of the children, and since she was helping others take care of the children, she must want to reciprocate.

The mother-in-law's request for helping her daughter-in-law take care of the child may be material, that is, she wants the daughter-in-law to give her money after taking the child. Of course, it may also be mental, and the spiritual reward is usually to say that I helped you take care of the child, which you owe me, and you should be grateful to me, and the demanding may feel that the daughter-in-law has to let herself. I don't know what such a mother-in-law thinks, a mother-in-law is not only helping her daughter-in-law, but also her own son.

The first is the environment, Li Fan can still tolerate the cement floor and red brick wall of his mother-in-law's house, but he can't stand the toilet full of maggots, and every time he goes to the toilet, he has to pinch his nose to get in and out quickly, in addition, the shower room is also full of dust, and it is very inconvenient to take a bath.

When he stayed at his mother-in-law's house until the third day, Li Fan decisively had diarrhea, because the food oil in his mother-in-law's house was very heavy, and his appetite had always been relatively light.

But compared with some of the practices of her mother-in-law, environmental issues are still trivial, and what makes Li Fan very disgusted is that her mother-in-law always "sells miserably" in front of her husband, and says that she has no money in her hands.

In the eyes of his in-laws, his son is a rich man when he settles down in a big city, and he should repay his parents when he goes home for the New Year.

In this way, on the basis of the 7,000 yuan festival fee, the husband added 3,000 to his in-laws to make up 10,000, and as soon as the in-laws got the money, they went out to show off with their neighbors, which made Li Fan very unhappy.

Compared with the city, the rural New Year is more lively, and the reason why it is lively is because there are more relatives in the countryside, and everyone has closer contacts with each other.

But this is a burden for the daughter-in-law in the city, who is not good at socializing, and in the face of strange seven aunts and eight aunts, the scene will become very embarrassing.

This is no longer very much! How many daughters-in-law are willing to live with their in-laws! It's more convenient for a daughter-in-law to take care of her children in the city! The daughter-in-law will feel uncomfortable when she goes back to the countryside! And the mother-in-law only wants to see more grandchildren!

Don't listen to them, it's not me who maliciously speculates, your parents are fine, your in-laws are definitely not like that!

In addition, this is very bad for the growth of children, children brought up by the next generation are generally more stupid than nuclear families (parents and children's family of three), and what if the child is instigated to scold you for not being close to you? My college roommate is like this, they all went to college and still snubbed and maliciously raised her mother --- grandparents. We all say her, she just wants to kiss, kiss up?

It's been 20 years!

If you don't work in an iron rice bowl, you don't work in PetroChina CNOOC, you don't work in a state-owned enterprise, you quit your job, and you take care of your children at home; If you want to be blind, ask the nanny to bring auspicious losses.

In short, it's not what they want, it's what you want? You will propose two:

1.--- strange that your in-laws left you to take care of your children, don't they need you to support your old age?

2.If you don't stay, you resign.

If you have to ask them to help you take care of the children, you can only listen to their opinions, otherwise you can only bring them yourself.

You can't have it both ways, so either give up time with your kids or give up your job!

Mother-in-law and daughter-in-law cannot live together, because if they live together for a long time, it will lead to disputes between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, and it will also intensify the conflict between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, which is not conducive to the harmonious atmosphere of the family, and in serious cases, it will affect the relationship between husband and wife.

Mother-in-law and daughter-in-law are able to live together. If the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law can live in peace, they will also be harmonious together.

In fact, no, it depends on how the husband handles it, and whether the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is good depends on what the husband does, and when the load directly plays a key role.

Of course you can't live together. Because living together will have great conflicts, which will affect family harmony.

Mother-in-law and daughter-in-law can live together, but the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law must be maintained correctly, some contradictions and problems must be avoided, and problems must be solved in the right way and method.

Personally, I think that children should be brought to their children, because now young people go out to work to earn money and live under great pressure, and the elderly in rural areas are relatively leisurely, so they can help their children take care of children.

No. Because rural mothers-in-law can dance square dances to pass the time, and taking children with children is easy to cause family conflicts, there is no need to take children.

No, because they don't have any reason to bring you a child.

<> Lingyan's husband Chen Changbao is the second oldest in the family, with an older brother above and a younger sister below. The three brothers and sisters are all honest people, and they have all started their own families.

Among the lovers of these three brothers and sisters, Ling Yan is the most active person, she saw that many people in the village went to work in other places, so she encouraged Chen Changbao to go to work in other places with her. Chen Changbao is an honest man, he listens to whatever his wife says. So, the couple entrusted their three-year-old daughter to the care of their mother-in-law, and then went to work in other places.

After arriving in other places, Ling Yan worked as a waitress in a restaurant with a salary of 3,000 yuan per month. Chen Changbao manages the warehouse in the building materials market, helping to load and unload goods every day, which is some manual work, and his salary is 4,000 yuan per month. The couple rented a single room to save money.

Because the child was brought by her mother-in-law in her hometown, Ling Yan sent 2,000 yuan to her mother-in-law every month. After sending it for a while, the mother-in-law called Song and said frankly that the child was about to go to kindergarten, and she had to prepare things for kindergarten, and 2,000 yuan was not enough. Ling Yan didn't say a word, and immediately added 1,000 yuan to her mother-in-law, and sent back 3,000 yuan every month.

After the child went to kindergarten, there was nothing to do in his hometown, and Ling Yan and Chen Changbao worked in other places with peace of mind. A few months later, Po Ye Wan Po called again, saying that the child went to kindergarten after the expenses were large, and the kindergarten often had to charge various fees, and now 3,000 yuan per month is not enough.

Ling Yan wondered, why did the child go to kindergarten with such a big expense? But although she was puzzled, she still didn't think much about it, so she gritted her teeth and added another 1,000 yuan to her mother-in-law, sending back 4,000 yuan every month. Half a year later, my mother-in-law called ** again and said that the money was not enough.

Ling Yan couldn't sit still now, she had to figure out what was going on. So she took a few days off and went back to her hometown. After returning to her hometown, Ling Yan realized that things were not what her mother-in-law said at all.

Instead, the mother-in-law felt that the second couple could earn a lot of money by working in other places, and the old family and the third family couldn't make a lot of money, so she used the money sent back by Ling Yan to secretly supplement the old family and the third family.

Ling Yan was very angry, she could understand it if she appropriately helped the old family and the third family, but her mother-in-law used this kind of deception and kept asking for money, she really couldn't accept it. Besides, it is not easy for her and Chen Changbao to work in other places, they earn hard money, but in fact, they don't earn much, but in the eyes of their mother-in-law, they make a lot of money.

Because she was angry, Ling Yan had a big fight with her mother-in-law. The mother-in-law scolded Ling Yan for being stingy, not talking about sibling affection, only recognizing money and not people, Ling Yan said that her mother-in-law was **, two-faced and stabbed, and cheated them and her husband and wife of their money. After the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law quarreled, Ling Yan took her daughter away in a fit of anger.

She decided that she must take care of the child herself in the future, no matter how difficult it is, she will not trouble others, so as not to be told by others and not know, and she will end up alone.

Then ask the mother-in-law to bring the child to the city to take care of the child, and you will buy the food, clothing, housing and milk powder money for the child's silver companion, and the mother-in-law will have no reason to subsidize the brother-in-law.

I think in this case, I should take the child back and bring it myself, or find a nanny to help take care of the child, so that at least I have a balance of mind.

Some things should not be so clear, since the mother-in-law helps you take care of the children, then you should take the initiative to give the mother-in-law money, and how the mother-in-law uses it is her business.

I think you should refuse, as long as you pay the child's living expenses every month, more or less infiltrate the spine to give the mother-in-law some pocket money, this is enough, unless the mother-in-law does not give you the reputation of the child, take the child back from Cong Xuan infiltration with him.

You should tell your mother-in-law that if you don't want to take your granddaughter, then send the child back, and you can hire a better babysitter.

For this kind of thing, you can discuss it, after all, it is because of your own family's private affairs, so Gao Yuan can first exchange your own views and seek the best solution to the matter and thoughts, isn't it?