Children are afraid of things that don t exist, what can parents do to get their children to overcom

While allowing fear to be felt, parents should also give their children the strength to face their fears, which is to make them feel safe enough. Don't measure children by the demands of adults, everyone is entitled to fear, and parents should give enough comfort and companionship.

First of all, follow them to do something like this, and help them overcome it by telling them that there is nothing to be afraid of this thing, and that Mom and Dad are there for you and that nothing can hurt you.

You can spend more time with your children, because children are generally insecure these days.

1. Don't force the child to do it, he thinks that the things he is afraid of, the child's personality is inherently different, and their reaction to different new things is also different, some children are particularly bold, and some children are particularly afraid. And the scared child may have a strong resistance to this matter in his heart. If parents still force their children to do such things at this time, then not only will they not be exercised, but they will leave a strong shadow in his heart.

Therefore, parents must provide their children with a sense of security, and do not force their children to strengthen their courage, so that children will gradually develop self-confidence in a familiar environment.

2. Teach the child to overcome fear in his heart, the child's fear is generated from his heart, then we must let the child overcome it from the heart, we can let the child imagine what will make her feel very safe, and then when he encounters the fear of things, we must improve their sense of security through their own imagination.

For example, if an Ultraman hero comes to help him, he will eliminate the fear in his heart. At the same time, it is important for your child to take deep breaths in the face of fear, which is also intended to relieve tension.

3. To affirm the child's daily behavior, some parents will often deny the child's behavior, because the child is too young to do these things, but in fact, we are killing his spirit of exploration. Parents must let their children take the initiative to explore under the condition of ensuring their children's safety, and we must affirm the results of children's exploration. This will help the child gradually develop courage.

4. Hinting at the child before going to bed can also increase his courage, every day before the child sleeps, you can tell him, we believe in your ability, you must be the best, the bravest, etc., in this way, to increase his courage, when he accepts these hints, he will continue to cheer himself up in the speech, and he will cross the hurdle in his heart.

5. Allow the child to bring his comfort, the comfort is an item that the child uses to cheer himself up, it can be a blanket, or a toy, etc., he usually uses things, when we bring the child to a new environment, the child usually wants to take these things, we parents must not be afraid of trouble, do not bring the child, which will make his heart very empty.

1. Parents should lower their posture, listen patiently and understand their psychology.

2. Parents should help their children recognize and understand different emotional responses, and they can do fear imitation games with them face-to-face to enhance their ability to express their feelings and feelings in words. At the same time, parents can help them adjust their emotions and vent their negative effects in an appropriate way. When there is fear, parents should stay by their side in time and soothe their emotions in an appropriate way, such as stroking their heads and patting their backs, so that they can feel safe to the greatest extent.

At the same time, when they have brave behavior, they must be praised in time, and at the same time they should be motivated, so as to increase their self-confidence and gradually eliminate their fear.

3. Parents can try to be more courageous in front of them, or tell inspirational stories and read inspirational articles, which can also help the model to eliminate fear.

Studies have found that more than 90% of children will have varying degrees of fear, 40% of 2 4-year-old children are afraid of at least one thing, and 43% of 6 to 12-year-old children have more than 7 things to be afraid of.

1. Fear of things that are terrible in themselves.

Many things are scary to children, such as darkness, loud noises, masks, wriggling bugs, small animals, monsters described in storybooks, scary images seen in cartoons, etc.

2. Fear of imaginary things.

Psychologist Piaget pointed out that children aged 4-8 years old are in a chaotic state where the subjective world and the material universe have not yet differentiated, lack the necessary knowledge, and do not know anything about the physical and logical causal relationships between things, so their thinking is often animistic, that is, everything they see is alive or conscious.

During this period, children's imagination begins to explode, and they will combine everything they see in life to imagine and form all kinds of things, some cute and some scary.

In the show "Mom is Superman", Alyssa Jia's daughter Boo Bu is afraid of the sweeping robot, and whenever it approaches, Boo Bu quickly runs to the sofa and screams for her mother to hug her.

Alyssa Jia said that Boo is afraid of this sweeping robot because it moves around on its own and may create something terrifying.

3. The fear of having a bad experience.

This is very understandable, Xuan Xuan liked to take a bath when she was born, but once when I put her in the bathtub, I accidentally slipped her hand, and she slipped into the bathtub weightlessly.

Several times after that, she started crying, kicked her feet, and refused to go into the bathtub several times in the shower.

4. Fear caused by parents.

If you don't eat well, the big bad wolf will take you away. "If you don't sleep, the big cat will take you away." "If you cry again, the police will take you away."

Do these words sound familiar? The speaker has no intention, but the listener has the intention. You know that this is a way to coax children, but in fact, for children, they will think that these terrible things are real.

When they are alone, they are very afraid of their appearance, and thus leave a shadow in their hearts.

There is also a kind of parents quarreling, living in a family that often quarrels, it is like a time bomb planted around them, I don't know when it will be **, the child will become afraid, restless, nervous ......

Xu Jinglei revealed in a talk show that her parents had been very quarrelsome since she was a child, and in that environment that was often full of quarrels, her heart often collapsed.

Actually, sometimes I really don't understand who can ask such a question.

It reminds me that there are some children on the Internet who are allergic to eating a certain curved grinding thing, and then the parents insist that it is a physical problem, and let the child eat it, and they are very speechless.

Isn't there something annoying about adults? Is there nothing to hate, nothing to be afraid of?

Why do you know that the child is afraid of heights, but also to exercise him in the name of love, I am afraid that it will be okay to bury the bucket in a place where I am afraid of renting and searching, and I have a personal opinion, it is really annoying to this kind of parents.

This is the sharing of family education and love in family education.

First of all, we need to know why children are afraid. Find the problem and overcome it with him! The premise is that we have to accept the child's fearful emotions, let him feel that we are protecting him, and with a sense of security, the child may try to touch the things he is afraid of.

We can take the child by the hand and say goodbye to him"It's okay, there's mom here"

When my son was young, because I was alone, he lived in a small mountain village, the transportation was inconvenient, the information was relatively closed, the population was sparse, and the only things I could see every day were mountains, small rivers, chickens, cats, dogs, and pigs! Although life is very happy, but because of less contact with people, the courage is particularly small, to kindergarten, teachers, classmates will blush when he is called, in school unless the teacher takes the initiative to call him, otherwise he never plays with children, see people, unless it is a particularly close relative, will call! Otherwise, ignore it!

Later, I talked to my son for a long time about this question, and asked him why do you ignore people? Don't play with children in kindergarten? Why do you never take the initiative in the classroom to ask the teacher's questions?

He said:"Staring at Mom, I'm scared! "Since then, I often take my child to play in crowded places, and let him shout when I see someone, and gradually become more courageous, and I am not afraid to call people!

He never takes the initiative to ask questions in class, because the teacher is not very good at teaching knowledge in class, and he is afraid that if he makes a mistake, others will laugh at him! After the knowledge reason, every night after school, I will help him re-review all the knowledge he has learned during the day, so that after the knowledge is solid, he is willing to take the initiative to ask the teacher's questions every day! With the improvement of his grades, the students are more and more willing to play with him, and after gradually gaining self-confidence, they also love to go to school and play with children!

Preamble: In the process of children's growth there will always be a side of fear, if parents want their children to overcome their fears, first of all, they must lead by example, set a good example for children, but also to protect children's self-esteem, parents should not spoil children too much in the process of children's growth, which is not conducive to the growth of children, but also pay attention to control emotions, usually you can choose to take children to outdoor activities, so that you can also exercise children's bold character.

Now many parents are more impatient, and the temper is not well controlled, if the child does not do another thing to satisfy the parents, many parents will lose their temper, children's imitation ability is very strong, but also a critical period of character building, this time will be with the parents to hide their inner fear. Therefore, parents must control their temper in front of their children, set an example, and don't let children feel that tantrums are very scary behaviors, which will only make children have psychological shadows, which is not conducive to children's physical and mental health.

Children will definitely make some mistakes in the process of growing up, parents should not blame the child, take into account the child's inner feelings, usually choose to listen patiently to the child's explanation, and pay attention not to hurt the child's self-confidence when speaking. If the child makes a mistake, the parents blindly blame, will only make the child feel that making a mistake is a very terrible thing, and will become cautious when doing things in the future, and the heart will be very entangled, at this time the child will become unhappy, which is not conducive to the healthy growth of the child.

Many parents are very doting on their children, overprotective children, which will also make children become very dependent on their parents, when children face setbacks will not have the courage to bear, will become very afraid of fear, will choose to avoid responsibility, so appropriate let children accept some setbacks, but also exercise children's endurance. You can usually choose to take your child to outdoor activities appropriately, which can also exercise your child's bold character.

We must give the child a sense of security, encourage the child, let the child become stronger and stronger, usually encourage the child, let the child do things by himself.

You can accompany your children more, encourage them more, cultivate their good character, and let them become brave and overcome difficulties; You can accompany your children, take them to participate in outdoor activities, talk about picture books, watch **, watch cartoons, etc.

Parents should be more patient with their children, encourage their children more, affirm their children more, let their children bravely overcome some difficulties, parents should also encourage their children when they encounter problems, and parents should also take their children out to play, so that children's emotions are slowly not so afraid, so that children can overcome their fears.