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It's normal to buy things for your girlfriend as a boyfriend! But one is always asking for it, and it causes you a lot of pressure, and it is necessary for you to have a good chat with your girlfriend.
If you are afraid that talking about this will affect your relationship, I want to say that you are wrong, and a person who truly loves you will not blame or resent you for this little thing. Just because your girlfriend always asks for things doesn't prove that she just doesn't love you, how about money? Maybe it's because you don't give her enough security, so she has to use material things to make up.
It may be your own problem, or it may be caused by your failure to express your financial situation and make casual promises.
I think everything has a reason, and when judging things, we must think rationally and fairly, and not be random and foolish. And don't take the advice of others lightly, including what I said, and learn from it appropriately, because only you know your feelings or relationships, and even if you are a bystander, you still have to follow your own heart and don't blind your own heart. <>
Everyone's view of the problem is different, this matter may be the woman's fault for many people, always asking for things, which in itself is not so pleasing, but who can be sure that the man has no fault?
If the two parties really want to be together, they must learn to express their feelings, learn to respect and understand each other's feelings, if they can't even do this, it won't last long, but no matter what, the experience brought by these things is only known to me, others can only suggest, the decision is in their own hands, just don't deceive yourself, the same way, feelings are also afraid of misunderstanding or provoking to obstruct, so communication is very important.
I personally think it's normal for a man to buy something for a woman, but it's not something that should be taken for granted. After all, you don't have anything real to prove it, it's all voluntary. Moreover, these are also based on economic conditions, and it is even more important that both parties do not hide or understand each other
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If you're really feeling stressed, you can bring it up to her. Tell her that every penny you earn is earned by hard work, the money that should be spent must be spent, and the money that should be saved must be saved, and when you get married and have a baby in the future, the cost will be very large at that time.
In fact, girls have a vanity, sometimes they also want to show off in front of the same sex, look at this is my boyfriend bought for me, look at this is also my boyfriend bought, everyone will have a heart of comparison when they get together, so you also have to understand this, as long as it is not too demanding, in the case of your economic conditions, or try to meet her, if it is too much of a request, you can move a feeling, know the reason, I think as long as you are truly in love, she will understand, If you don't understand, you can't help it, for your future, in order to be able to catch up, you can only compromise yourself.
If your relationship is not very deep, she will ask you for this and that, I think it is okay if such a girl does not pay, I am afraid that when you get married, you will not be able to raise her, and you will not be able to satisfy all her desires, and then because of this reason, you will continue to fight, and it will be too late to regret it.
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Two people together should be mutually understanding and tolerant, if your girlfriend keeps asking you and causing you a lot of pressure, it means that she doesn't love you enough, and she keeps asking you for gifts I have reason to suspect that she is a vain girl.
Before thinking about how to deal with it, the first question you need to think about is whether she loves you or not, what is she with you for, is it for money? If you can tell if she has feelings for you or not, then the problem is well solved.
The next time she asks you for a gift, try to reject her and see how she reacts, whether to lash out and reprimand you for not being a qualified boyfriend or for understanding you and giving up the thing she wants to buy.
If she loves you, you can tell her directly that you think two people should work together to create a good future, instead of one party blindly asking for it. Be sure to emphasize to her that you are not unwilling to spend money on her, if you are a local tyrant, then you must be very willing to buy her what she likes, but your current economic conditions are not good, if two people work together, it must be very meaningful. <>
If she's only with you to find someone to help her swipe her card, then it's better to break up as soon as possible, if you make yourself so tired for someone who doesn't love you, you can only say that you really love her, but to be honest, it's really stupid to do it, and it's not worth it at all. If you don't have her request, you don't know how much easier it will be financially, you don't have to worry about money all day long, and it will be a lot easier psychologically.
The relationship between boyfriend and girlfriend is not so formal, and there is a lack of a marriage certificate, if the relationship is not really determined, you should not agree to her blindly asking for it, even if she really loves you.
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I think this kind of girl is too self-loving, I think girls should not lose themselves in the relationship, like the kind of person who thinks about his boyfriend every day and asks for a gift, I really don't know what to think in my heart, it's just burying my feelings in vain. In fact, there are really too many such people in this society now, and I have come into contact with a lot of such people. We all know a very famous character, Wang Sicong Everyone should know it, he is surrounded by many, many girls anytime and anywhere, all kinds, I really don't know if it's for true love, or those fame and fortune.
Your girlfriend has been asking you for gifts, and I think you need to think about it and think about it, does she love your money or your people?
Many people are always lost in love, many girls think that they are actually a little princess, and their boyfriend should be a good spoiler of my existence, but everything is asked for from the man, is this kind of life what you want? The most important thing in love is balance, many people just can't find their own status on the scale of love, so they gradually lose themselves, and this relationship is of course in vain.
I've seen too many things like this, and I'm really speechless. Girls keep complaining to me about how their boyfriends are, not buying things for themselves, unlike others, but a man has a hundred dollars and gives you ninety-nine dollars, and a man has 10 million dollars and gives you 1,000 yuan in it, which kind of man do you think you will like. Love is inseparable from bread, but it is not material, and loving someone well is the most important thing.
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Since it's a girlfriend, what's the pressure is that the gift you give is too expensive? It may be that his heart has not fully accepted you.
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Your girlfriend always asks you for a lot of expensive gifts. You've only known each other for three months, and he asked you to buy her a gift of more than 30,000 yuan, I don't think your relationship is so good? Maybe she's testing you.
Otherwise, it would not be possible to ask you for such valuable jewelry, and you are not yet to the point of talking about marriage. This should not be bought for him, if you buy it after possible. He may not be.
If you use money to measure the relationship between two people, then I don't think this relationship is too pure.
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In his eyes, these valuable items are more important than you, if he really has you in his heart, he will not give you any pressure and burden, and will think about you.
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My girlfriend always likes to ask me for some expensive gifts, what should I do?
As a wealthy and handsome person, you meet all her requirements, spending some money for her is nothing, and the things that money can solve are not a problem, but if you change the situation, don't say it, if you can't solve all the problems that money can solve, then don't buy it for her, by the way, remind you, check if you are a fish in the other party's fish pond, and see what you call in her mobile phone.
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If you continue to exceed your financial capacity again and again, you will have to give up early, or you will be in trouble in the future.
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She didn't think about it for you, so you can't send it, but you can't say that, I promised her that I would definitely send it in the future.
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You should tell her that there is a valuable gift like this, and I hope to buy it for you when I get married, because I want to use it as a wedding gift now.
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She thought that men should give gifts to women, and if they couldn't get the gifts, they wouldn't suffer a loss.
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I asked you for such a valuable gift after only three months of acquaintance, and I advise you to think twice.
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If you can't bear it, you can break up, do everything within your ability, don't exceed your ability, otherwise you will have a hard time.
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If you can't give it to him, tell him directly, and if he still wants it, then just break up!
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I think, look at yourself, if you feel that you can't afford the needs of the other party, then you just tell the other party, you are not a mobile ATM, your girlfriend's ATM, no money, no money, if you don't want to give money, you don't want to give money, if you don't want to buy a gift for her, don't buy it, can it be said that your relationship will disappear?
We must know that in the process of dating men and women, it is normal for boys to give gifts to girlfriends, but if girls always ask their boyfriends for expensive gifts, there may be problems.
You must know that if you don't give voluntarily, but ask for it, then the other party will not get the corresponding gain in the long-term process of being asked, and you will definitely question your feelings. "Do you love me, or do you want me to buy you a gift"? I'm sure many men have such doubts.
Moreover, there are quite a few of them, and they are still expensive gifts......
Think about it, on today's birthday, the girl said that she wanted a birthday gift, okay, I have prepared tens of thousands of bags for you.
In a few days, it will be Qixi Festival, you said that it is Chinese Valentine's Day, and you want to express it, okay, then send another Qixi gift.
Although, girls bluntly say that if they want something, they can reduce their boyfriends and give some things that they don't like and are very expensive, but if they change from giving gifts to things they have to buy, this kind of shopping conversion will make people feel like being arranged and calculated.
So, I can understand your headaches.
I have a friend, he is married, and he is also very troubled by all kinds of holiday gifts, the salary is not high, and the income level can barely arrange family life, once there is an extra festival every month, the purse will hurt very much.
Giving gifts will not just go home and give it, you need to go out to eat, eating a meal outside is not cheap, you can eat meals at home for many days, and you can take out for many days. But for the holidays, you still have to go out and rub your teeth on the holidays.
Not to mention, if you specify an expensive gift, it may really be unaffordable......
So, when you can't afford it, don't slap your swollen face and become fat, and don't buy it if you don't want to.
Of course, if she usually buys you a lot of expensive gifts, then you have to reflect on yourself, whether the financial ability is too poor to keep up with the pace of the other party.
Maybe the problem that bothers you is just a small thing that is not worth mentioning in the eyes of the other person. It's just yourself, too "low" ......
But no matter what, since you have doubts about giving gifts, asking her directly and communicating well is the best way to deal with it. What do you think?
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Two people get along, mainly in love, material is just to stabilize the relationship between two people, gifts are a small trick to make each other happy, in various festivals are a good opportunity for both parties to send each other. However, if you change from active to passive, the nature changes. When getting along, you should grasp the proportions.
The two people are not sure whether they are engaged or going further, and the value of the gift is also subject to change. It's normal for a girl to ask her boyfriend for a gift, but she can't afford it, so let's have a showdown. Tell your girlfriend about the current situation of the funds, and if it is unpleasant because of this, it is better to break up.
Because, if your girlfriend doesn't understand your feelings, it's not a very moral thing to blindly ask for what you want.
We take too many things for granted, whether it is family or friends or even boyfriends, their efforts need to be grateful, and occasional requests are acceptable, but always, asking, expensive gifts, it's a bit too much. If the rich second generation is not short of money, it is okay, but if they can't stand such a request, it is ordinary economic income, and they can't support the economic situation of expensive gifts.
It's a bit bad to have such a girlfriend, but the boyfriend is also at fault, and it must make the girlfriend mistakenly think that these gifts are easy for you, otherwise, you wouldn't ask for it like this. Just like I choose a gift for my birthday, I choose a ring He asked me to buy gold, and I chose a silver ring myself, because it doesn't match my identity, if I get married, the requirement with diamonds is not too much. The reason is that I know what my boyfriend's real income is.
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