Those who really know me think so?

Zhou Jie, it depends on your specific problem, if there is any problem, what will the people who really know you think? So it's like that.

Each of us has said something like, "I know him well," and "He's the ......."”

After saying that, they will swear that they really know each other.

However, have you ever wondered what it is about lead rent that determines your perception of others?

Su Dongpo and Foyin are good friends, and one day they sat in meditation together.

Su Dongpo asked Buddha Yin: "Master, how do you see my zazen appearance?" ”

The Buddha seal said, "Like a Buddha." ”

Then Foyin asked Su Dongpo: "What do you think of my sitting posture?" ”

Su Dongpo said teasingly: "It's like a pile of cow dung." ”

When Buddha Yin heard this, he was not moved, but just smiled.

After Su Dongpo went home, he proudly told his sister Su Xiaomei about it, and Su Xiaomei said after listening: "Brother, you lost." If a person has a Buddha in his heart, he sees everything else as a Buddha. A man has cow dung in his heart, and everything is cow dung in his eyes. ”

In the past, when I heard this story, it was just a joke and I didn't think about it seriously, but now it seems that it is indeed not unreasonable.

I don't know if you've noticed: the shortcomings you find in others are precisely the ones you have.

A sensitive person, a look from someone else, an action, a casual word, will make him have a lot of ideas.

A scheming person always feels that others are also calculating him.

Actually, it all comes from ourselves.

Once, a little kid asked me, "You know'Wormholes'Is it? ”

I didn't even think about it, and replied, "A wormhole is a hole dug by insects."

He said to me with a look of disappointment, "I mean the wormhole in the sky."

I was confused, I really hadn't heard the word, and I didn't think that a 7-year-old would ask me this question.

In order to continue the chat, I immediately looked it up and learned that wormholes are possible celestial objects that connect two planes.

You see, the limitations of self-knowledge lead to limitations when you look at others.

Who would have thought that I would have known the word wormhole from the mouth of a child.

So, you don't know much about the people around you, and the part you know is just what you know.

Perhaps, your perception of others is only at or close to your personal level.

Schopenhauer wrote in The Wisdom of Life:

Most people's eyes of the world are made up of strange imaginations, strange thoughts, and preconceived opinions in their minds in their childhood and youth, which together form a fantasy that distorts and disguises the real world. ”

I think it's not just a matter of worldview, it's also about how we perceive others.

In the eyes of the average person, philosophers are either paranoid or insane.

The so-called "sanity" is just an illusion caused by the limitations of their thinking, and the so-called "paranoia" is only their inability to understand the value orientation of genius.

Stop talking about who you know, because you really don't know that much.

People who really know themselves have a sense of boundaries. Knowing your upper limit, but also knowing your lower limit, will not be boundless, unbounded.

I like to start from the heart, I like to have a transparent life. After the vicissitudes of life, the return is still his original appearance. Don't forget your heart and forge ahead.

Loving oneself is the transparency of one's own life, you can read thousands of sails, you can be scarred, and the only thing that remains unchanged is the original intention.

Loving the family is the protection of the family, looking at the outside of the flower world, still know where you love, this is the commitment of home.

Love children is the care of children, from the moment you were born I will always grow with you, walk with you through our road, all the way to the scenery, all the way bumpy and muddy, I am willing to walk with you, this is a commitment to your future.

Love is the understanding of oneself, the love of one's family, and the inspiration of children's hopes and dreams. Love is understanding, love is companionship, love is persistence, love is protection, love is a transparency, and love is also a growth.

There are three things in this world, the first is God's business, the second is other people's business, and the rest is your own business. If I don't even know my own business of the three things, then how can I know what is the business of others and what is the business of God?

Knowing yourself is a lifelong necessity.

Do you really know the people around you? Maybe very well, or relatively well, or vaguely. In fact, no matter the degree, there is a problem with the way we understand.

We all like to label others according to our own perceptions, thinking that this is the person we know, but in fact, it is very one-sided. For example, we are all very familiar with Lin Zexu, who sold cigarettes in Humen, and history textbooks label him a national hero. But Lin Zexu still has a side that we are not familiar with.

He is also a balancer who is good at dealing with interpersonal relationships, and is good at dealing with public relations crises, which can be seen from his family letters, he has two sons, one is an official in Beijing, and the other is a daily study at home, so he wrote letters to his two sons separately.

The content of the letter to the first son is roughly meaning: I am an official outside the country alone, and my health is not good, and I hope to see my son and meet him in Guangzhou.

The general content of the letter to the second son is: I am in good health, don't worry. Reading books is for use, not for theoretical research, but to walk around and see more. Encourage him to get in touch with the outside world.

Why is it so different? Because he is good at interpersonal public relations, he understands the warmth and coldness of society at that time.

The eldest son is an official in Beijing, and serving in one region for a long time is easy to make too many enemies, which is not conducive to development. As an official, you should serve in more places and accumulate experience as an official in different regions, so that you can be fully prepared for future development. So he asked his son to go to Guangzhou to see him, and actually arranged an official position for him in Guangzhou.

The second son has been studying at home for a long time and is easy to become a "nerd". So let him walk and watch more, experience more accidents and human feelings, let the book knowledge be used to help him grow.

Next, let's take the famous Humen cigarette sales as an example. Why did Qing ** let him be the governor of Liangguang, and he congratulated him on being the governor of Liangguang and dared to sell cigarettes in Humen? You must know that foreigners are afraid of officials.

Because he knows his principles as an official, in addition to the macro theories of allegiance to the country, he will also be remembered for centuries. He regarded Liufang Baishi as the highest level of being an official, and in line with public opinion, he decided to ban smoking. He knew very well that drugs were banned worldwide, and the destruction of what was originally forbidden was in line with the world trend and could stand the test of the future, so he sold cigarettes.

Lin Zexu is not only a national hero, he also has a far-reaching strategy for planning and shooting, is proficient in interpersonal relations, and his ideas were very advanced at that time.

History textbooks only tell us one side of Lin Zexu, and if we want to understand the shape of the whole, we must make a judgment from multiple details. Therefore, every person is a complex individual, just like a tall tree. What we see is only his branches, but his foundation is in the soil, and only through multiple details, to understand a person in an all-round way, can we draw the final judgment.

Summary. Hello, the conclusions drawn by the broad masses of the people in practice.

Hello, the conclusions drawn by the broad masses of the people in practice.

Everyone will feel the right thing and draw conclusions accordingly.

Hope mine can help you.

<> this sentence really cannot be proved in history.

Should young people live according to society's expectations?

Should young people live according to society's expectations?

Hello. Man is a person in society, but man is also an individual. If you don't expect yourself, how can you live according to society's expectations.

How many people in society have died due to high expectations in society.

How many people in society have died due to high expectations in society.

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The number of suicides in China has skyrocketed in recent years, reaching about 250,000 a year. At the same time, at least 2.5 million to 3.5 million more people attempt suicide every year.

Most of them have a tendency to be depressed, and women account for 70 percent.