What people and things have you forgiven that would not have been forgiven?

Ever since I was a child, my grandmother was very disgusted with me, and she would rather coax other people's children than care for me kindly. When I was a child, I always hated my grandmother! Now I understand and understand, forgive her!

Every time I go home during the Spring Festival and see my grandmother and us as a group member, I can see that she is really happy, including me....I'm also very happy, because this is a home, a warm home, and no one can do without it.

Forgive yourself. In the three years of high school, I feel that I get along well with everyone, and when I arrived at college, I knew that there were only three people who were willing to contact me in high school, and even my high school teacher added me to WeChat to block me This is the first time I have said it, and I feel very sad. I didn't do very well in high school, I always turned my emotions on my face, and no one would love to look at your expression.

Now I've gotten a lot better, at least, a little better. Greet people. But the real forgiveness is not to forgive myself, now I don't want to forgive myself, how can I let others forgive me.

Everything in the past is gone, and only change is right. ‍‍

When I was young, something happened that annoyed me very much, I was very good with a friend, we were friends in life, we were colleagues at work (he was the deputy head of our department at the time, but I was the head of the department), however, to my surprise, he went to the head office behind my back and said that I was not. People who violate workplace ethics will always be despised by the superior department, hurting others and themselves, I really couldn't forgive him at the time, after more than ten years, an unforgivable person has made me not hate, of course, we will not be as good as before, just a nodding friend. There is nothing in the world that cannot be forgiven, and when the years pass gradually, many unforgivable pasts and irresolvable contradictions will follow. ‍‍

Married for 18 years, a son and a daughter. He had an affair with a female classmate at a class reunion in 2015, sent birthday gifts to each other, chatted on WeChat every day, and was discovered by me, and promised not to talk about it, let me delete it or not, and said that they were still in touch! There will always be a thorn in my heart and hate him, but the two children can't live without their father, so they maintain it like this.

Now he is 45 years old, and the night before New Year's Day, he drank and got drunk and vomited all night. ‍‍

I once loved someone who was humble to the dust, and repeatedly broke his own principles for him, and as a result, you can imagine that the person you thought you loved to the bone slowly forgot it, and sometimes even couldn't remember the name. Now, for me, the person who can make me forgive again and again, at least he has forgiven me again and again, and the feelings are mutual. And people like me don't accumulate emotions, and the quarrel will pass. ‍‍

Once, in the best years of my youth, she broke into the depths of my heart. At first, I didn't care about her, at that time we were both in the student union, and we could only be regarded as ordinary friends, but she surprised me every time she changed her tricks, I was a slow-burning person, and after being together for a long time, I slowly developed feelings. Just when I was still enjoying the joy of love, she did not hesitate to give me another fright, she abandoned me, which made me almost unable to extricate myself at that time, but with the continuous experience of life and self-maturity, I felt that there was no hurdle that I could not pass, she was not worth my pain and sadness for her at all, so I was relieved, and naturally I was suddenly enlightened.

When the family was separated, my brother, I was the eldest, and my two younger brothers had jobs and earned about 300,000 yuan a year, while I only had a few houses with an income of 30,000 yuan a year. Now, after so long, I still choose to forgive, after all, I am a brother.

When I was a child, my family cared very little about me, and the way of education was to produce filial piety under the stick, and I was a girl, and I was often beaten because of my studies. Now parents can understand the feelings of their parents at the beginning. ‍‍

For a book lover, if you lose my book, I'm going to be at odds with you. My best friend lent her the books I loved, and she didn't even have a single one. I was angry with her before, but then I realized that I might be more and more like the Virgin, and I actually forgave her.

There was a person who sued me back then, so that I did not go to the University of Workers, Peasants and Soldiers (I had already been admitted and was brushed down), so that I could not join the party and become a soldier. It changed my destiny and changed my character. Alas, for decades, I have always felt like a thorn stuck in my heart, and I have always held a grudge.

Later, the man invited me to drink, and I formally asked him why he sued me, and he pushed on someone else's head, saying that it was not him. I knew in my heart who had harmed me, but it didn't matter, human life was like that. Buddhism, Buddhism, I've let go now.

My ex-boyfriend split my legs behind my back, but I just forgave it at the time, it will definitely become the bomb that I usually explode, and after a long time, I let it go.

Every time I go to dinner with my friend and ask her if she arrives, she says that she is almost there, but in fact, she has not set off yet, and she was very angry at first, but then she got used to it. ‍‍

My first love said that he liked my good sister, and he also said that he would marry us in the future, and I actually believed it, and my sister didn't know anything. ‍‍

We all forgive others, but the key is to see what the mistakes made by the other person are like?

There are people who are not worthy of our forgiveness, because their mistakes have caused others to lose their lives or suffer irreparable losses, such people are unforgivable. The damage he inflicted on others is lifelong and irreparable in words, so they are resolutely not worthy of forgiveness.

Some people's mistakes can be made up for with words, and the mistakes of people like this don't really matter, it's serious, it's just a slight injury, but after the matter is said, people won't have much impact, people like this can be forgiven, and after forgiveness, your relationship may be closer and better.

Of course, there are some people who make mistakes, and they still don't admit that they are wrong, such people will never be forgiven by others, and we will never forgive these people, after they make mistakes, they will do everything possible to find some reasons for themselves, saying that they are right, saying that they have no choice to make, then for such people, we are resolutely unable to forgive them, they have deviated from the conscience of mankind.

I will. The journey of life is high and wide, and the end of the world is far away; And we are always easy to get lost, so that we make wrong choices, but no matter what kind of mistakes, as long as we have the courage to bear and correct, it is not too bad. Buddhism has clouds:

The bitter sea is boundless, and the shore is turned back. "No matter how far we go or how wrong we are, as long as we are willing to turn back, there will always be a better way out.

To err is human; Moreover, making mistakes is indispensable for a long life; Life needs to make mistakes, because there are mistakes, will be self-introspective, self-awakening, self-realization; So as to be better treated with life. Don't doubt your own ability because of a momentary mistake, and don't deny other people's lives because of a momentary mistake, people live a lifetime, not because of a mistake can be changed. Don't be easily discouraged and compromised, because all the mistakes today are indispensable tests in life, and they are also for that more wonderful tomorrow.

Life in the world is always half good and bad, right and wrong; There is no need to be sad about some things and mistakes, and there is no need to panic when some roads and mistakes are taken. The journey of life is long, there will always be some ups and downs on the road, and there will always be some mistakes and regrets. We should be glad that on the journey ahead, every mistake is another growth in life, and we can only find our own right direction by constantly exploring and making mistakes.