Why is it now more and more difficult for some people in the countryside to marry wives?

At present, it is difficult for some boys in rural areas to marry a daughter-in-law, and the reasons for this are social and personal reasons, which can be summarized as follows:

1.There is an imbalance between men and women. In the last century, due to the patriarchal mentality in rural areas, boys were never given birth to boys, and female babies were quietly killed when they were found to be pregnant during pregnancy. As a result, there are now more than 30 million singles, and it is really difficult to marry a daughter-in-law.

2.Over time, young women in rural areas have also left the countryside to develop in the cities, and over time, they have become accustomed to life in the cities, and they are no longer willing to return to the countryside, and they all want to find a suitable person to marry in the cities, which has led to an imbalance in the ratio of men and women in the countryside.

3.The gift money is heavy, even ridiculously heavy. Tens of thousands, hundreds of thousands of gift money, the average rural family can not afford it, year after year, singleness is inevitable.

4.Comparison is prevalent. Seeing that other people's families got married, had a car at home, a house in the city, and a deposit on the card, I was envious. If the man doesn't have that, the woman will basically say goodbye.

5.Most of the boys from rural families have a low level of education and no skills, so it is difficult for them to develop at home. If you don't have the ability, you don't have the self-motivation, you have to get by, and even if you are lazy, it will be even more difficult to marry a daughter-in-law.

6.Bad character. There are some boys who don't learn and don't know how to do it, and they look like second-rate children all day long, wandering around. Either gnaw at the old, or take opportunistic shortcuts, or even take the road of violating laws and regulations, women can only respect it when they see it.

First, the imbalance between men and women is the main reason for people's ideological views. I remembered"Family planning"The work began to grasp in 1980, the implementation of one-child, to 1989 family planning crackdown, I have no right to evaluate the current politics, but since then there is a slight difference in the proportion of men and women, because there are still people who are fined at that time, why is this, China's thousands of years of feudal shackles men respect women and women, the incense of inheritance, resulting in one-child, independent children, the older generation like boys, and thus gradually under the influence of rural feudal thought, many have produced the ideological idea of not respecting the objective law, Disruption of the ecological balance (i.e., imbalance between men and women). It wasn't until 2005 that it began to appear obviously.

It's not that the author had foresight, at that time I often told the teachers that in a few years, there will be many people in China who can't find a target, the reason is that the class I teach has obviously had more boys than girls in a class of more than 3o people since then, and the past is basically balanced. This is one of the reasons.

The second is expensive gift money.

The third is that girls have become smarter. If you want a house, a car and other hard conditions, don't suffer in the future.

One is that many women born in rural areas now go out to study or work, and there are very few young and middle-aged unmarried women living in rural areas. Second, there is an increasing difference between the ideological concepts and cultural literacy of men and women in rural areas, so it is difficult for rural men to marry wives.

Because now the conditions for marrying a wife are really getting higher and higher, and for these people, the distance to marry a wife will become farther and farther.

The imbalance in the ratio between men and women is one aspect, the sky-high bride price, the gap between urban and rural areas, and the fact that girls from rural areas want to marry in the city have caused it difficult for some rural people to marry wives.

Because a lot of people go to the city, if you stay in the countryside all the time, you won't be able to get it.

First: there are more men than women.

Second: young people like big cities, who want to stay in the countryside.

Because the living conditions in the countryside are so poor, of course, it is difficult to get a wife.

Because modern girls have higher and higher requirements for their other half, many rural men have received relatively little education and cannot meet the requirements of girls; On the other hand, it is because many rural families have average economic conditions and cannot meet the material requirements of girls; In addition, many girls don't want to stay in the countryside after finishing college, and want to stay in the city, so the person they want to find has to develop in the city like her.