I feel like I m stupid, and I have low self esteem and no self confidence

Many people will not be aware of their own problems, but your perception is not objective, and you need to see your true self comprehensively, rather than only seeing your shortcomings.

Maybe you are slow to react but do things carefully, maybe you can't chat, but what you say is reliable and sincere, maybe you are not confident enough, but you are willing to try new things, etc.

You can try to list a good point for yourself when you blame yourself for some shortcomings, and go through it in your mind every time you belittle yourself and are not confident, and constantly strengthen your own value.

Try to engage with people who you think are comfortable coping in relationships, take deep breaths when you're feeling stressed, start without forcing yourself to say too much, say hello for a while, and politely ask to leave when you're too nervous.

By trying and practicing like this, you may gradually become more daring to talk to them for a longer time, the topics will be richer, your state will be relaxed and natural, and most importantly, you will overcome your timidity.

Perhaps, when you change the weaknesses in your relationships and find other areas of your shortcomings (which is usually the case), you can continue to make yourself better, but you must not be too yourself, because no matter how hard we try, we will not become perfect people.

Everyone has their own advantages and strengths, on the one hand, they are insufficient, on the other hand, they will have advantages over others, to discover their own strengths, give full play to their strengths, and be a different self.

Many people have low self-esteem, and the same inferiority complex is often seen in the workplace, and everyone's coping methods are different.

When people enter an environment, they naturally compare and evaluate the people and things around them, so when you find your colleagues and are excellent, you may have an inferiority complex, the same job, your colleagues are faster than you, do well, and be appreciated by the leader, at this time, whether it is out of envy or out of anxiety about their own lack of ability, in short, inferiority complex will breed and then produce self-doubt.

There is always such a person in the work, in fact, his own ability is enough to cope with his work tasks, but in the process it is inevitable that he will continue to doubt himself and deny himself. Self-denial, sometimes through others, affirmation and self-confidence, once encountered the negative factors of the outside world will become more sensitive and suspicious, cautious, in the work can not let go of the hands and feet, and then do not do a good job, into a continuous self-doubt vicious circle, affecting personal growth, in fact, there are many reasons for inferiority complex, they do not distinguish between people, men and women, young and old, people with low self-esteem are more insecure, they are good at finding their own defects and shortcomings, Always magnified at work, they see themselves as a person who can't do anything well.

Therefore, when faced with such a situation, we should be good at discovering our own strengths, which will strengthen our social skills, improve our professional level, learning level, and get rid of inferiority complex is very effective.

People with inferiority complex in the workplace need to be constantly affirmed in order to be more convinced that they have advantages, so to overcome the inferiority complex, to retrieve information, external social skills are also very important, on the one hand, you can express yourself more bravely, on the other hand, in the continuous affirmation of strength, the importance of deepening self-confidence**.

You don't need to pay too much attention to yourself at work, or you don't care too much about the eyes of others, most of the time you are more focused on doing things at work, no one will pay special attention to your small details, and there will always be someone smarter than you around you, only if you learn from him well, increase the ability to confront the same problem next time, so it will naturally improve self-confidence, and you can get along naturally and deal with things easily.

Everyone is different, don't worry too much about yourself and look forward.

In this world, everyone can give up on you, except yourself.

— Me.

Hello, this kind of psychology is very different from you need to master some methods: First, keep the things you don't understand in your heart, think about it from time to time, and don't give up directly. For example, there was a period of time when I had a stomachache in college, and I began to think that it was because I didn't cover the quilt at night, and I covered it tightly that night.

The next day, it was still like this, and I suspected that the food was not good, so I changed to the cafeteria next door to eat. It hurts too. When I went back to the dormitory, I drank from the water dispenser, and I closed my eyes at the bucket.

Suddenly it turned out to be a little unfamiliar. I thought about it, poured the water, and went down to buy a large bottle of mineral water. After a day, my stomach didn't hurt anymore.

I discussed with my roommate that I would never buy that brand of bottled water again, and I rarely had stomach aches after that. Although the process was complicated, at least the problem was solved. But if you don't think about it, you can't find a problem.

Diggers. 2. Don't set limits on yourself, don't deny yourself. The common disease of people is that they like to be easy and dislike hard work, like simplicity, and are afraid of difficulties. When you don't like it, you won't, and your first reaction is to retreat.

But people with good grades, when they encounter a problem, they will think about how to solve it, instead of holding back. When you encounter something you don't understand, you think about how to understand it, rather than thinking that you can't learn it. Clause.

3. Absorb the wisdom and lessons of predecessors, and change.

Stupidity is also an instinct, don't have to be so inferior, sometimes you should think about the benefits, don't always feel stupid, as long as you do things steadily, no matter what others think, as long as you have self-confidence, although you will be slower than smart people, you will do things the best, so first you have to have confidence in yourself, confidence will not feel so inferior! Actually! Sometimes stupid people also have the benefits of stupid people.

Stupid people are simple and simple. I'm stupid myself! Maybe I'm much dumber than you.

But I'm still happy. So think about the good! That's how you can live happily!

From a psychological point of view, people with low self-esteem and low self-worth are mostly because they have not received enough care and lack of love in their own growth process! Support & Encouragement! Leads to the incompleteness and non-objectivity of the internal relationship model!

Psychologically speaking, personality, that is, personality in psychology, is a replication of the relationship pattern with the closest people to him, especially his parents, before the age of 6!

Change starts from the heart, and it can't be changed by simply giving some advice from others!

Rather, it is necessary to re-establish its own complete, objective and independent internal evaluation system.

Simply put, values).

You must have an objective understanding of yourself, the evaluation of others, that is the opinion of others, just as a reference, you must have your own values, because you are an independent life individual, with your unique growth experience and life experience that is different from others, so it is impossible to agree with other people's views and views in everything, this is normal, you must look at it correctly! Just seek common ground with each other!

The most important thing is that you have to put your strengths and weaknesses in perspective!

Believe that you are worthy of love and worthwhile!

There is a theory in psychology called self-fulfilling prophecy.

It basically means that if you believe that you can do something, that you can do it, then your involuntary consciousness will push it in the direction you expect, and in the end it will be as you wish!

On the contrary, if you are timid, afraid, and worried that you will not be able to do it, then your involuntary consciousness will push the event the way you think! In the end, it's really just as you want things to mess up!

This is not to say that we should not do things every day, but that when you plan to do this, if you can have an unwavering belief that you will succeed, coupled with your own hard work, then the success rate of this thing will be much greater! Success, it's only a matter of time!

In psychology, the so-called "aura" of a person is actually a kind of subconscious that people express.

Behavior! It's a kind of faith!

The idiom "wishes come true", in psychology, is supported by scientific theories, and it is not unreasonable, let alone pure blessing words!

I think a lot of people upstairs are talking nonsense, a bunch of theoretical knowledge from books, famous quotes, and Einstein or something. Big brother, the landlord's problem should be used to use his own life experience. This is the communication between people, just say it in the vernacular, what other wise sayings do you talk about, everyone knows those big truths, use you to say?

Einstein is something that everyone can do??? The following is my official landlord's question. I think the landlord's inferiority complex is the same as mine, and I often feel that my brain is very stupid, as a student in the third year of high school and the college entrance examination.

I worry about why I can't always think about the topic that other people will do, I can't figure it out, sometimes I want to give up going to school, why don't I just relax all at once, anyway, there are so many people in the world who haven't gone to college, don't you live well. If you don't have a clever brain, you may be deceived by others, your studies are worse than others, your communication is not as good as others, and your work is not as good as others. But I think the landlord should be level-minded, the most important thing in life is attitude, why not be a broad-minded person, stupid brain, can be a good person, optimistic, love to make friends with people, do what you like, handle interpersonal relationships.

You feel that your brain is stupid, it is compared to those smart people, the lifestyle I just said does not need how to play the wisdom of the brain, the landlord should put down these comparison mentality, adjust the mentality, stupid is stupid, it is not wrong to be born with a bad brain, you can live your own life. Low self-esteem is certain, but don't lose your original strengths because of low self-esteem and stupidity, you know. The owner of the watchtower can reposition himself and think more about the meaning of life. Hope!

It's innate, you can't. Some people just have flexible brains, and some people just eat more meals. There's nothing to be inferior to.

Because everyone has strengths and weaknesses, and when you see your own shortcomings, it is your own point, and in addition, it is also important to discover your own strengths.

Me too. Nothing. Wake up every morning and look in the mirror and say to yourself, "You're the best."

Make such psychological hints to yourself from time to time, and slowly you will become more confident. Work hard to learn professional knowledge, constantly improve yourself, and let you do things smoothly, then your self-confidence will be restored by yourself. Hehe, right.

Hope it helps!

Let others like you, like a problem, let others like you. There is always one that is your specialty, and you can always help others, and when you are not inferior, you will find that you are actually smarter than many people, and you have your own expertise. Don't compare your own weaknesses with the strengths of others.

Try to find the direction that suits you and what you are interested in, and you will become confident and don't care too much about other people's eyes, this is your life, so you don't need others to dictate you. Come on, dear!

There is nothing too absolute in the world, no matter how smart a person is, if he has no motivation and does not want to make progress, he will achieve nothing. And although a person's innate talent is not good, if he is willing to put in a hundred times the effort, earnestly adhere to his beliefs, and have extraordinary perseverance, then he can also be diligent and can make up for his shortcomings and get ahead. This is absolutely true, please trust me, unless you give up on yourself first.

It's not that you're stupid, you're inferior. It's because you have low self-esteem, so you don't dare to do anything, so you can't do anything.

Be confident, no one is perfect, try more things, find self-confidence, and you won't feel stupid.

There are no stupid people in the world, only lazy people, as long as you take the initiative to learn and listen carefully in class, ask if you don't understand, you will become an honor student, I also came here like this, come on, I believe in you!

Read more books, watch people, and watch movies, in fact, everyone is about the same......It's up to you to understand this society. I believe that effort is directly proportional to the result, but you have to do it with 200% effort.

If some of your ideas are just ideas and you don't do them, you can only say that you are stupid! Because you don't even dare to fail, what else can you do? If you are brave enough to go out, you may fail, but you will gain if you try! The more I think about it, the more I don't do it, the more inferior I become! Break through yourself!

Not stupid. It should be that my living environment is relatively simple.

Society is a university of all kinds of life.

Experience something more.

After a lot of good things.

You'll be smart.

So I want to change myself.

Don't be afraid of setbacks and failures.