What happens to people with social phobia when they enter society

1. Build self-confidence.

I found that many people suffer from social fear because they are not confident enough, so they will be afraid of making a fool of themselves. And when they go out, as long as there are many people, they are likely to sweat, and they will also feel that everyone is looking at them and talking about them. Social phobia will inexplicably be nervous about contact with the opposite sex, and will feel very nervous, and the same is true for contact with strangers.

In fact, I want to tell you that there are not so many viewers in life, and everyone is very busy. Not so many people will notice you, so there's no need to be overly nervous. And we have to build self-confidence, and we can imagine in our hearts, even if others look at us and ask ourselves.

It must be because I am special enough.

2. Socialize more.

If we say that everyone suffers from social phobia and refuses to socialize, it will lead to the phenomenon of social phobia becoming more and more serious, and then we will not be able to carry out normal work and study. In addition, if the phenomenon of social phobia becomes more and more serious, it will also lead to the inability to promote oneself and will keep you from moving forward. When we express ourselves, we can imagine all the people in the audience as immobile dolls.

You can also say something to the doll by yourself, so that you can also make yourself more bold.

3. Summary. In fact, social networking is not as terrible as everyone thinks, as long as we really bring people, we will always gain some sincere friends, even if we encounter some difficulties on this road, it doesn't matter. Especially in the workplace, the probability of making true friends is very low, but as long as we can treat people sincerely enough, we will let ourselves have a good friendship and make our popularity better.

People with social phobia enter the society and are afraid to contact people, resulting in no friends to live in their own world. Social phobia is not good for work and life, so it must be overcome. Social phobia is actually too concerned about their image in the minds of others and too much about others' evaluation of themselves, the way to overcome it is not to think about these problems, consciously correct them, and slowly overcome them.

In fact, as long as you really enter a circle for a long time, social fear will slowly disappear, because slowly there will be familiar people to chat and work with you, and you will not be so afraid anymore.

It's not good, it's not ancient now, the transportation is convenient, the occupations are diverse, and you don't need to live like others to survive.

I will slowly adapt to social fear, and slowly learn to interact with people or adapt to the present.

First of all, you need to accept that you are a social fear, only by accepting it, can you know him well, don't be an ostrich buried in the sand, in line with the mentality of joining if you can't beat it, People are like this, only by putting down the posture, can we solve the problem.

Secondly, tell yourself that you are not that important, and many times you care a lot about making mistakes and making mistakes, and others just laugh it off, and no one even cares.

I remember that my colleagues and I praised a show at the annual meeting, we rehearsed this show for more than a month, and I thought it was quite funny, it should be fun, but after going up to perform, the performance was not good, and the audience did not feel good, we were still frustrated, but we found that no one cared, only one or two people said to us, I don't have time to understand your funny, this is very funny.

People have a growth mindset and a fixed mindset, people with a fixed mindset care about proving their ability and especially want to maintain a positive image in front of others, while people with a growth mindset don't care about proving themselves. Some people do things, desperately want to prove their cleverness, feel that being smart is a particularly important thing, and hope to be seen by others that they are a smart person, while some people are not in a hurry to prove their smart and filial piety, all now see themselves as a starting point of the state, the important thing is to grow, not to be smart or not.

A growth mindset can turn setbacks into future successes. People with a fixed mindset believe that failure is not smart enough, and that a setback means that their positive image is undermined. People with a growth type think that they are failures if they don't grow, and they don't care about doing something challenging and not reaching their goals, but whether they grow in the process.

In the end, social fear is not a bad thing, as long as it is not harmful, it is not so terrifying, in fact, between social fear and social cow, there are many states, as long as you go a little bit from social fear to the direction of social cow, normal socialization is good, how to sail and how to be comfortable.

At present, with high social pressure and a fast pace of life, overtime work has become the norm for many office workers, and many people are doing "996" work.

When I got home from work, I was mentally and physically exhausted, and I really didn't have the energy to have social activities such as eating and singing with my colleagues and friends. Over time, many people will gradually form "habits" and become afraid of socializing, which is where social phobia arises.

02: The cost of real sail socialization is high.

In addition to the convenience and speed of information transmission, the biggest advantage of online virtual and boring social networking is that the cost of social networking is low, that is, it saves money. All you need is a mobile phone and Wi-Fi, and you can chat with friends without any extra costs.

Real socialization is different, friends meet, have a meal, watch a movie, sing a song, have a coffee, ......All of this increases the cost of real socializing. Therefore, due to cost considerations, many people will choose virtual social networking instead of real social networking.

03: The need for self-protection.

For the post-90s and post-00s, it is too difficult to meet a new friend, and it takes a long time to get along with each other to confirm that the other party really has the same interests and has no malice towards themselves, so that they dare to open their hearts and truly accept each other as their friends.