Why are many excellent people unhappy despite being excellent?

I'm a depressive person, and we hate it when people describe us as cowards. Let me tell you about my situation. Highly educated, female, from childhood to adulthood all the way to a famous school, studied abroad, has strong independent ability, has been studying very well, what class cadres are in the class, the teacher's darling, good girl, won numerous awards, my parents have always loved me, I look very good, good figure, I have been engaged in some media, film and television related work before, the scenery is unlimited, and the money is fast.

People from big cities have a wealthy family and don't have to worry about eating and drinking. There has never been a shortage of suitors, and the ex-boyfriend is a rich second generation. Looks like I should have a smooth ride.

But it's also tiring to maintain excellence! It's more tiring to maintain a good appearance than you see! Quite simply, I have to go on a diet every day in order to maintain my figure, and I haven't eaten a full meal for 5 years.

Exercising every day, not eating anything every day, and insisting on exercising, is really bitter. It is very troublesome to spend time maintaining beauty, makeup, and maintenance every day. Watch the news every day, take notes, read every day, read, read, study, study!

No late, no early, no anger, elegant. I also want to take off my formal clothes, sit on the ground and pick my feet, I also want to eat junk food, but no, just can't, this is the price of excellence! It's hard to be happy.

People have different definitions and perceptions of happiness. Therefore, some people don't know a lot of words, but they live their lives happily, such as the pig killer couple who live next door to me, they are not short of meat to eat, but they are very happy when they can eat meat every day. Some people have an annual salary of more than 10,000 yuan and live a rich life, but their needs and perceptions are different from those of pig killers, and their happiness and carriers will also be different.

In fact, happiness is very simple, and it has nothing to do with being good or not. A friend of mine is an executive of a Fortune 500 company, and he is under a lot of pressure every day, and he feels like he is sighing all day long, and when he is rarely happy, he says that life is too painful, and every day is torment. And I'm different, although I'm just a small employee, but I'm very happy every day, because there are happy conditions, there is no pressure, and there are always good things around me.

Carefree happiness needs money as a backing, but if you don't struggle, you won't have money, and when you struggle, you won't have as much time to play, so naturally you're not happy. Because we have to struggle, we don't have so much carefree joy, and it's even less likely to indulge.

It is difficult to have a specific standard for excellence, and different people have different opinions! It's more about comparing yourself to others and creating a sense of superiority or inferiority. If you abandon the concept of the outer world and seek inner balance, then it is easy to feel the beauty of life!

I think this proposition is wrong in the first place, happiness is actually a very simple feeling, is it directly related to success? It's just that people think that simple happiness adds a lot of weight, so if there is no particularly direct relationship, why do so many people think that successful people should be happy. Whether you succeed or not, everyone is just the same.

Human nature is consistent, so I think it's a false proposition.

Excellent people, think about different things, contact circles are not the same, there are people outside the world, there are things outside the world that can not always be satisfied, the higher the level of things, the more difficult it is to obtain.

Smart people tend to be more miserable because they can always see more, and happy people are happy because they don't know something. Wisdom brings light, and it also lets people know that the light is deep in the night.

When your horizons are broadened, the desires that come with you will be endless....And your abilities can't match your desires, so you don't feel happy.

I forgot a sentence in which book I saw, and I have always used it as a Weibo signature: People are dragged into greater tragedy not because of their shortcomings, but because of their advantages.

1. Excellence is not just a appearance, a person has paid a lot to become excellent, and has some special qualities. This is an accumulation of advantages, and a series of social means and abilities have been cultivated by oneself. When there is motivation, the ability will naturally be cultivated.

In the process, qualities such as perseverance are also cultivated. It has completed the accumulation of advantages, the acquisition of capabilities, and the accumulation of advantages of a positive cycle of sales. Therefore, excellent people will not only be excellent in one aspect, but may extend to many other aspects.

2. Recognition refers to the fact that in the previous cycle, excellent people have gained enough advantages in liquid silver. Everyone else will know that he is a good person, so they will naturally favor him more, and then these will become the basis for further progress. Slowly, excellent people in all aspects will become more outstanding.