Why do many young people now feel that marriage is painful? Is marriage really so unbearable?

For many years, young people feel that marriage is painful, but in fact, marriage is not so unbearable, and marriage also needs to slowly learn to operate and run in, so that they can grow and reap the sweetness of each other.

Part of the reason why many of us think that marriage is painful is because we have a lot of pressure now, because we have a lot of problems because we have different views from our other half, and two people often don't give in to each other, which causes marriage pain. For example, in the birth of children, as well as children's schooling, parents' pension, all aspects are complicated, two people are likely to fall into contradictions due to different views, in this case, many people feel that marriage is painful, not only can not grow with the other half, but also contain each other, so they feel that marriage is extremely painful.

How to change the pain of marriage, on the one hand, when you get married, you must first find someone who matches your thoughts. When looking for a other half, don't always look at your face or family background, find someone who can resonate with you emotionally to be your other half, and don't be too harsh on the other half after marriage, two people can complement each other, learn from each other, and learn from each other's strengths.

On the other hand, what we have to do is to improve ourselves. A good marriage is to grow each other, two people continue to improve, this process requires the joint efforts of two people, so in marriage we can not only rely on the other half, but also learn to grow by ourselves, share for him, improve ourselves, and turn ourselves into a person who loves life and works hard. Marriage requires a joint effort, not one person chasing one person and running away, or one person doing nothing and being completely dependent on the other.

To sum up, only if two people work hard and persevere, can they bear good marriage fruits.

In fact, running a marriage is a long-term thing, when we find problems in marriage, we must learn to change, negotiate, tolerate, learn to be considerate of the other party, both of us must learn to make concessions and make changes, and don't talk about divorce at every turn. After a long period of mutual running-in and change, we can slowly learn to manage the marriage and live a good marriage.

Marriage is not so unbearable, marriage is happy. But many young people can't stand the pressure of marriage, and they will feel that marriage is painful.

Because now marriage is putting more and more pressure on the man. People who have just gone out to work must prepare, and there are hundreds of thousands of bride prices for cars and houses. In the end, it doesn't necessarily make it to the end.

Because these young people don't really meet someone they like, they feel miserable, and marriage is not painful.

First of all, many people don't realize it, and they don't dare to admit it, that a considerable number of people are not suitable for marriage. Whoever he or she marries is not good, and the marriage in which he or she participates must be unbearable and miserable. Even if you are the right person, you can only be right for a while, not for a lifetime, because the hearts of many people are a black hole that can swallow everything.

A person is not doing well, and reluctantly getting married will only make the marriage more painful, and those who expect the marriage to change the current situation, 99% of 25 have no good results.

Secondly, the threshold for marriage is quite high, and it is not love at first sight that a good marriage can be achieved if you are a good couple, let alone make do. This high level refers to the fact that the individual has grown, has a certain understanding of the nature of marriage, has a certain psychological preparation, and has a certain ability to manage marriage. Understand that marriage is a combination of love, tolerance and dedication, responsibility, and mentality, and have an understanding of the possible disharmony in marriage, so that you will not be in a hurry to complain in the face of contradictions.

Just look at the marriage problems of Zhihu, 90% of 25% are caused by self-centeredness and not understanding empathy.

The reason why marriages that get married around the age of 30 are more stable and of higher quality is because they have both experienced a lot, and they are two relatively mature people with a certain ability to manage marriages.

There are many people who find marriage painful because they have not met the right person who truly loves them. Some people meet each other when they are young, they will feel that the person who loves them very much and can be good to them, and then they will think that he is the person they want to follow in their life, so they will often entrust themselves to him completely, but after getting married and having children, they will slowly find that the life they are living is not happy, and the other half's attitude towards themselves is getting worse and worse, so they will feel that their marriage is painful. In fact, I feel that marriage is painful because there are many people who do not correctly understand what the other party is like, and then choose to live with each other in a hurry;Because there are people who have not yet met their right person, namely:

The three views are in line with oneself, and everything will be for one's own sake. It is precisely because I haven't met the right person that I will inevitably be very uncomfortable and unhappy when living with my other half. Married life can also feel painful.

The other party is unreliable.

Whether or not you are happy in your married life after marrying another person actually depends on the ability of both people to live and tolerate each other. If the other party doesn't want to go out to make money, they just want to enjoy themselves at home, and push the housework at home and the tasks of going out to run around for you to do. Once you start doing things, you are not reliable at all, you will only cause trouble for yourself, let yourself worry about this, worry about that, and this kind of married life can be known to be painful without thinking about it.

The other party will only rely on himself and is extremely unreliable, and this kind of life will be more difficult and painful than his own life.

Stress in life.

Why is marriage so painful? From acquaintance, then to love, and finally into the palace of wedding. Both of them love each other very much, but when they have children, they have to run around for the children and for the children.

The stresses of life have the potential to crush a person. And sometimes it is very likely that the husband and wife will quarrel and make the whole family very uneasy for some reasons, which is why so many people don't want to get married. That's why many young people don't want to get married now, and they are unmarried.

The reason why many people say that marriage is so painful is that most of them are overwhelmed by the pressure of life. That's what you say.

There was a rift in the marriage.

If you feel that the marriage is painful, it is very likely that the relationship between the husband and wife will not be compatible. It is very likely that you think you know each other very well when you are in love, but after getting married, you slowly feel that the other party is not so good, and you are not as good as you were when you were in love. Then there were quarrels in the marriage because of various things, and it was the kind of person who had to quarrel to the death, and no one wanted to take a step back, and slowly quarreled more and more, more and more, although it did not lead to divorce, but there were cracks in this kind of marriage.

The relationship between the husband and wife is no longer as sweet as it was at the beginning, nor is it as deep as before, and it begins to fade slowly. If you are together without feelings, you will feel that the marriage will be very painful.

The main reason for the pain of marriage is due to the incompatibility of personalities, the lack of understanding of each other, and the different ways of doing things. The first reason is due to personality incompatibility, which is one of the main reasons for marriage, because when the personality is incompatible, it will naturally lead to a lot of emotional problems, which will lead to a very painful marriage; The second reason is not understanding the other party, that is, they do not understand anything that both parties do, then in this case there will be a lot of quarrels, so it will lead to a very painful marriage; The third reason is that the way of dealing with things is different, that is, when the way of dealing with things is different, then it will cause a lot of quarrels, and at the same time, it will also cause a lot of family conflicts, so at this time it will make the marriage feel painful. So in general, the main reason for the pain in marriage is due to the incompatibility of personalities, the lack of understanding of each other, and the different ways of doing things.

Caused by incompatible personalities.

It's easy to understand that a marriage is very painful because of personality. Because in marriage, because two people are different and not related by blood, it is obviously very difficult to talk about living smoothly in marriage. When the personalities of two people in the marriage are incompatible, or the personalities of the two people are completely different, the use will naturally lead to the abundance of blackheads in the midfield, so at this time it will only make the marriage feel unhappy.

It's caused by not understanding the other party.

Because it's easier to understand if you don't understand each other. Because two people think differently, they think about things and deal with them differently, so in this case, they will not understand the different solutions. Letting people not understand each other will naturally lead to a lot of quarrels, and when they quarrel often, they will usher in a lot of emotional problems.

Therefore, the main reason for unhappy marriages is that both parties do not understand each other.

Because of the different ways of doing things.

Getting married and starting a family is a major event in life. Those who are very happy in love think that marriage will allow them to rely on each other, and they will stay together happily and sweetly for a lifetime. Who knows that once you enter marriage, there will be no more beautiful romance and warmth in the past.

What follows is the hardship of giving birth and raising offspring, the trivialities and troubles of life. That's why many young people now feel that marriage is painful.

1. Life after marriage is a big disappointment for both men and women, a family needs economic support, women have to raise children, and men have to work hard to make money. Troubles and pressures often pop up, and couples have no patience to talk to me.

2. House, ticket, car, school education fee, etc. after marriage. There's a lot of stress these days, and it's hard for people to relax. The fast-paced society of material comparison is exhausting.

3. The woman has been housekeeping and raising children for a long time, and her life is tedious and hard, and she cannot have good contact with the outside world, and she is often lonely and depressed in her heart. If the husband no longer understands the need to care for her, the relationship between husband and wife will be distant and cold, and any contradictions will appear over time, which is chilling.

4. Many couples who have passed the seven-year itch will become more and more insipid and lazy to communicate intimately, coupled with unsmooth work and accidents in life. The troubles in a family are becoming more and more unbearable.

5. Although middle-aged couples have understood each other and have been running in their married life for many years. But years of contradictions and sadness will also be vented in dissatisfaction at any time. Some people don't want to endure it anymore and get divorced, while some are suffering because of the financial problems of the elderly.

In fact, there is also stability and happiness in marriage, it allows you to have a harbor. There is the laughter of children, the greetings and care of husband and wife. Plain is the most comfortable life, don't expect too much, occasionally bumps or don't care too much.

After all, life is a lifetime of ups and downs, bitter and salty, and open-mindedness can enjoy a lifetime.

That's because many young people choose to get married without thinking it through, and the pressure of life after marriage, firewood, rice, oil, salt, sauce, vinegar, tea, and other small things make young people vulnerable. Here's my opinion:

Nowadays, many young people are defined in the criteria for choosing a mate: they must have a car and a house. However, it ignores the issue of character and character. Around me, there are many people who think like this, they need to have a car and a house, and other shortcomings are not a problem.

Then, after marriage, I found out that after the two newlyweds formed a new family, they faced all kinds of tea, rice, oil and salt, and ran in life, only to find that they couldn't get along with each other. The daily noise is often caused by disputes caused by some small things in the housework.

So I suggest that all young people, before getting married, must consider whether the other party is really suitable for you, I think character and character are very important requirements, which will lead to whether you will be subjected to domestic violence in the future.

Don't choose to get married in a hurry because of the urging of your family, 70% of people who make this decision will regret their original choice, don't get married easily!

If you love, love deeply!

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