Is it worth advocating that many young people only live together and do not get married?

I don't think it's worth advocating that many young people now only live together and don't get married.

I am a post-96 generation, so I should be regarded as the young man mentioned here. Personally, I disapprove of living together and not getting married for 4 main reasons.

There is no sense of security and security

The difference between living together and not getting married and getting married is actually just a marriage certificate. But it is precisely the absence of this marriage certificate that there is no guarantee between the two people, whether they continue to live together or separate, there is no hindrance.

Because it's too easy and too easy, this kind of insecure life can make people feel insecure (especially girls).

In my case, I can accept cohabitation, but I can't help but get married. In my opinion, marriage is responsible for two people and a potential factor in bringing the family together.

Waste of time and youth

Nowadays, there are many young people who like to live together without getting married, such as a friend I know. They were happy at first living together, but as time went on, they quarreled more and more, and finally broke up.

It may be that for them, breaking up is just a trivial matter, but it is an invisible waste of two people's time and youth.

I believe that there are many such young people in life who live together without thinking through and end up parting ways, and although they have a short period of happiness, time and youth are gone.

Both parents do not agree

Cohabitation is not a trivial matter, and most young people generally stay together secretly without the help of both parents. Once the parents find out about this situation, the first thing they may do is to ask for marriage.

If the requirements of both parents are not met, it is not a long-term thing for young people to live together without marriage.

Subsequent life does not allow

Cohabitation means that two people live together, and although they can not get married, life will continue to push them forward. When life is harmonious, there may be children in the future, and it will be very embarrassing if you don't get married at this time.

Because if you are not married, whether it is the birth of a child or the subsequent schooling of a child, there will be a lot of trouble (I didn't say if you don't have children).

Actually, I am not a traditional die-hard person, and I am not blindly opposed to cohabitation. I think living together can experience life, but we must pay attention to grasp the scale, and at the same time pay attention to the length of time, if the two people are really suitable, then it is better to get married (after marriage, you can live together without a house).

In real life. There are indeed a lot of young people. Only cohabitation and not marriage. My personal opinion. Not worth advocating. But I'm not very much against it.

Now a lot of college students. Just after graduating. After working in a city.

their age. It is the age of marriage and childbearing. But.

Since the income is not very high. Buying a house becomes a big difficulty. It is very difficult to get married without a house.

After all, after getting married. Be legally married. The face is to have a baby.

There is no house to live in and have children. What to do? Meantime.

Sustain a family. There must be a certain economic foundation. That little bit of salary for two people.

It's not enough to rent a house. Don't mention anything else. But.

They need it physiologically, too. So it was derived, a group of people who only live together and don't get married. This is also a normal phenomenon of social development.

What do people have to do when they reach age? Now their age. When it comes to the time when you need to live together.

There is no limit to that. So since the biological age has reached this stage. There's also no way you can be overly restrictive.

You restrict him this way. He'll look for another way. In short, he is going to solve his problems.

Especially boys. He's definitely going to look for it. Various ways to solve his problems.

The address now arises only for cohabitation. The problem of not getting married. It's also good.

At least temporarily solved their physiological problems.

According to the traditional notions of the past. Do not marry two people. They cannot live together.

At least on a moral level. It is absolutely not allowed. But with the development and progress of society.

People's minds are changing. Now this kind of people only live together and do not get married. I think it is also the inevitable result of social development.

To say the least, it has played a role in the stability of society.

In fact, many people still think. This phenomenon. Offense against decency.

Meantime. Due to improper measures. It is likely to lead to unwanted pregnancies.

Therefore, there are also many people who choose to get married after unplanned pregnancies. This is what people often call the marriage of a child. But there is also a large group of people.

Despite being unexpectedly pregnant. Due to economic pressures. Forced not to have this child.

It caused a certain amount of damage to the female body. At the same time, there are many men, irresponsible. It has also led to the emergence of single mothers.

But these phenomena. It may also be the inevitable result of social development!

So I think. This thing. Not worth advocating.

How can their problems be solved? How can they have a house to live in? There are already a lot of ways to do this.

Low-cost housing. It's a measure. In short, with the progress of society.

Various measures will be put in place to address the problems of these young people. It is precisely because of this situation. Leads to a decline in the birth rate.

The population began to gradually decrease. Also. Progress and social development are very fast.

A lot of things have been replaced with modernization. It doesn't take as many people to work. Intelligence will gradually replace artificial.

There are fewer and fewer people who need it. So now only cohabitation and not marriage. There's nothing wrong with that.

What I think is worth advocating.

With free love, which is generally recognized by everyone, more and more young people, in this way, have met the true love of their lives and grasped a small luck in life.

In particular, for some people who have left their hometown and made a living abroad, through free love, they can help everyone find the other half of their lives faster and meet a love that is compatible with each other. And when two people, as a couple, appear in front of everyone, they will grasp the happiness of the moment. They will also plan their future life together, hoping that one day, they can join hands with each other and enter the palace of marriage, and from then on, they will walk in the streets and alleys in the name of husband and wife.

Therefore, in order to save living expenses and rent costs, some couples in love will choose to live together before marriage, in this way, to maintain the relationship between two people, and also to make certain preparations for marriage in the future.

Why is cohabitation recognized?

I have to admit that with the liberation of individuality, the pursuit of the life you want is the voice of many people. If the older generation advocates the kind of marriage that "starts from the beginning", then for today's young people, they are more looking forward to being able to live a wonderful and happy life for the rest of their lives, rather than choosing to compromise in love and marriage. If there is a lack of understanding and communication with each other in married life, and we cannot work together to manage a happy marriage, then for many people, it is better to get together and disperse, and then break up in two.

Since they are in love, they choose to start living together, to a certain extent, it reflects the freedom of young people and their unhesitating grasp of love. Before getting married, experiencing the time of "cohabitation" can not only reduce the pressure on young people's wealth, but also achieve the purpose of "trial marriage" well.

Marriage and cohabitation are two concepts that do not contradict each other and have no causal relationship. But I think it's better to decide whether to get married or live together for a period of time, so that you can carefully see if the other party is suitable to be a marriage partner and whether your sex life is compatible and harmonious before marriage. It's better than getting married only to find out that it's not suitable and incongruous and then divorce.

Note that there is an essential difference between a love life and a married life.

From an economic perspective, marriage is the maximization of economic benefits, because the cost of living alone is generally greater than the cost of living together. Now, you have lived together and have achieved the goal of saving the cost of living. It seems that there is no need for another marriage certificate.

On an emotional level, marriage is a symbol of the soul finding its home. However, you will say: We are not married, but we are together every day, isn't it equivalent to finding a home? Isn't it the same? Isn't there one less ceremony?

In fact, there is a ritual and no ceremony, and the meaning is very different. With the marriage ceremony, you will have a deep memory and be full of awe for your marriage. And without this ceremony, you will feel that this marriage is dispensable, and you will not really cherish your marriage.

From a legal perspective, a marriage certificate is extremely important. Now, you are still very young and do not have complicated economic relations. And as you get older and your life changes, your financial relationship will become complicated and even conflicted.

At this time, if you don't even have a marriage certificate, it will be very troublesome to deal with the dispute.

From the perspective of life inheritance, marriage and childbirth are the needs of human continuity. A person lives in the world, not only for himself, but also for the race. It's not a big deal, it's a law of nature—a law of nature that even animals understand.

For the sake of this natural law, animals still know how to abandon the enjoyment of the ego in order to achieve the mission of the continuation of the race, let alone humans.

Yes, getting married and having children is a responsibility, a burden, but without responsibility, without a burden, life becomes "unbearable lightness".

The greatest misfortune in life is not the torture and pain of life, but the emptiness of life! Without responsibility, there will be no real growth, and there will be no rich and profound life experience. The length of life is certain and difficult to change, but the thickness of life can be constantly increased.

And getting married and having children is the best way to increase the thickness of life!

In fact, when all these problems have been dissected, do you still think that it is a wise choice to only live together and not get married? Of course, everyone has their own way of life, we are just one-sided combined with the actual explanation of some truths in life, of course, those who have their own ideas can also choose their own thinking, after all, everyone considers and cares about things are different. It's all about following your heart.

This practice is actually the personal choice of the parties, and there is no advocacy or discouragement.

Officials never use this method to guide the general trend.

It may be that in the eyes of some conservative people, this behavior is not worth promoting. Because the reason given is irresponsible, since they are living together, it means that two people accept each other to the point where they can get married, but they don't get married, why is that? Is it just to play more freely for yourself?

But the reality is often not like this, two people together. Sharing one's own resources and sharing the fruits and bodies of both parties. Comfort each other's hearts, this is enough, but if you want to get married, you need to consider a lot of problems, there are many details of the economic strength of both parties' families, if the conditions for marriage are not met, both parties can only choose to stay together in this way of cohabitation to keep warm, which is also no way.

And it's very free and relaxing. Compared with divorce in a noisy relationship after marriage, cohabitation is actually a good life choice.

Not worth advocating.

If someone tells you that we can live together, we can live together, but we don't get a marriage license and live like this for the rest of our lives. Do you agree?

Perhaps, this matter is no longer such an assumption as "what if", and we see that there are people around us who are already living like this - only living together, not getting married.

For this question, perhaps each of us may have our own answer in our hearts. Naturally, some people agree and are happy to live such a day, because such a day is unrestrained for two people, and people who live in such a day seem so free and free.

Of course, there will naturally be people who oppose such a life. Those who oppose living such a day are not actually disliking such days, but they do not like the consequences caused by such days, and they do not like them.

Marriage is nothing but a product of maintaining social and emotional order after social civilization has progressed to a certain stage and degree. If people can control their feelings rationally, if people can not disturb the social order because of their feelings, then the marriage certificate is almost a piece of waste paper for our feelings and for the social order, and it is useless - because the marriage certificate itself represents a kind of legal recognition, represents a legitimacy of emotions and a proof of social stability of emotions. If each of us can control our feelings, not break the law and not cause chaos in society, then what is the use of a marriage certificate?

However, as far as the marriage system itself is concerned, I would like to share a problem with you: marriage, a marriage certificate restricts too many emotions, some people obviously have no feelings and do not love, but for one reason or another, two people who do not love each other form a family and have children together.

It is this kind of loveless marriage that makes the current marriage "full of devastation", and the occurrence of too many extramarital affairs has a lot to do with this kind of loveless marriage. Such a marriage, what's the use of getting married, is it really good?

However, marriage, if we only live together and do not get a license, then wouldn't it be chaotic? Will there be too many factors of social instability because of the jealousy of the rival in love?