When someone is a little bit fierce to me, I m so scared, but I m so scared when I m right. What to

Hello! When you know that you are not at fault, you have to stand your ground.

Take the example you said, if the important document is not delivered for 6 days, you will directly take a tough attitude and let the document be delivered, otherwise you will complain to the other party. Don't worry too much about the other party's feelings, at this time, the more you give in, the more you will be bullied.

You have to learn to be strong, to be tough, and not to make people think you're a bully.

I have been used to being bombed since I was a child, and I have this kind of character. I used to be like you when I was young, and even when I was young, I sometimes felt like this, I don't know if I was afraid of being beaten or what I was afraid of, there was always a kind of vanity and fear, and I was cowardly, so that even my personality became very isolated. Later, when I became a soldier, I gradually changed myself, and even became very strong, although I haven't changed much in my physical state, but my personality has indeed changed a lot, can this be regarded as a kind of maturity?

When I was young, I was afraid of blood, I didn't care too much about the pain, unless it hurt and hurt I would cry, otherwise I could still laugh, but if I saw blood, I shivered all over my body and immediately cried and made a fuss, and when my mother saw that there was going to be a bloody fight, she asked me to turn my head away, otherwise my cry would disturb a movie-watching audience....And now I'm not only not afraid of blood, but I also want to watch some extremely terrifying movies**, and even want to experience this so-called horror somewhere! Actually, I don't know what to say about what you said, I feel as if we are born to be bullied, born like a damaged machine, and we must know how to repair ourselves in order to face the problem of fear correctly, but on my side, I feel as if I have overdone it. ...Haha....I feel like I'm still in danger at any time...Facing up to danger and being afraid is the right self-protection mechanism, but if you go too far, it is likely to make a big mess from time to time.

Seriously, I'm really scared!

Work on your guts and eloquence! To be justified is to have a straightforward attitude! Read more books, and have poetry and bookishness!

This is because your own character is a timid and cowardly character.

You're timid, get over it.

See a psychologist as it may be a mental illness that requires counseling.

Mental health refers to the fact that all aspects of the mind and the course of activities are in a good or normal state. The ideal state of mental health is to maintain a state of intact character, normal intelligence, correct cognition, appropriate emotion, reasonable will, positive attitude, appropriate behavior, and good adaptation.

Influenced by both genetics and environment, especially the parenting style of the original family in early childhood, has a great impact on the development of mental health. Mental health is characterized by being able to maintain good communication or cooperation with other people in social, production and life, and to be able to deal with various situations in life well.

The individual is able to adapt to the developing environment and has a well-developed personality trait; And its cognition, emotional response, and volitional behavior are in a positive state, and can maintain normal regulatory ability. In the practice of life, being able to correctly understand oneself, consciously control oneself, and correctly deal with external influences, so as to maintain psychological balance and coordination, has the basic characteristics of mental health.

The basic meaning of mental health is that all aspects of the mind and the course of activities are in a good or normal state. The ideal state of mental health is to maintain a state of perfect personality, normal intelligence, correct cognition, appropriate emotion, reasonable will, positive attitude, appropriate behavior, and good adaptation.

Corresponding to mental health are mental sub-health and psychological pathology. Mental health has different meanings and measures from different perspectives.

Because you are less courageous, if others are fierce to you, you will be very afraid, you will be nervous and afraid, so you yourself have to make yourself stronger and braver. So that in the face of this situation, you will not be afraid.

Lack of self-confidence and courage should be greatly influenced by the family in childhood.

In your case, you belong to a young person who has just come out of society and needs to hone more, or your character is the kind of person who is bullied, it is recommended that you be bold and not afraid.

If others are fierce to you, you will be nervous and afraid, this is determined by your character, you are timid, and you are still afraid, which requires you to hone your will more in society in the future, and it will get better slowly.

Dear, you are a manifestation of a lack of self-confidence and a lack of courage. It is recommended to be bold, don't be afraid, others will not eat you.

It's because you're a little worried and scared, a little bit scared.

Because you care too much about the attitude of others, and you care too much about your own image in the eyes of others. I am not confident in myself or have low self-esteem, and I feel that others are better than myself. A little fragile, sensitive.

It may be because of the living environment, you can try to cultivate your hobbies, improve your self-confidence, change your mentality, and tell yourself that it is impossible to please everyone, even if it is ** air conditioning, it is impossible to satisfy everyone, make yourself a little easier. Exercise your heart, you can try to tease with friends, and firmly say your thoughts when you feel that something is wrong (of course, you also have to analyze specific problems specifically, the boss is always not good to be directly scolded, you can knock on the side, euphemistically write a note or something).

Explain who you are.

Usually not confident.

Insecurity.

I may have had a shadow in my heart before.

Lack of self-confidence and boldness to exercise in society.

Dear, you are a manifestation of a lack of self-confidence and a lack of courage. It is recommended to be bold, don't be afraid, others will not eat you.

This is a relatively common situation, and it may be due to several reasons:

1.Fragile self-esteem: Maybe your self-esteem is fragile and you can't bear the criticism or accusations of others, so when you feel that others are angry or ** at you, you will feel hurt, which can lead to nervous and scared emotions.

2.Self-protection mechanism: Human beings have a natural self-protection mechanism, when feeling threatened or dangerous, the body will naturally enter a state of stress, showing nervous, fearful emotions.

When someone else is ** against you, you may perceive it as a threat and thus create a stress response.

3.Lack of self-confidence: It may be that you lack self-confidence and are not sure of your abilities and worth, so when others show strong emotions towards you, you feel that you cannot cope, resulting in nervous and fearful emotions.

To alleviate this, you can try the following:

1.Build self-esteem: Improve self-esteem by working hard to improve your abilities, recognize your strengths and strengths, and build self-confidence.

2.Learn to think calmly: When confronted with criticism or accusations from others, don't react immediately, calm down first and think about whether the other person's opinion makes sense before responding.

3.Change your mindset: Don't focus too much on your own shortcomings and shortcomings, see your strengths and strengths, but also accept your shortcomings and strive to improve.

4.Practice coping skills: Learn skills to deal with conflicts and challenges, such as communicating, listening, and expressing your own opinions, so that you can respond more calmly to criticism and accusations from others.

You feel uncomfortable when someone else is murdered, the reason is that you caused it, and you take it for granted that you are wrong, but you don't want to be murdered, so you will have ambivalence.

If you have a good or normal relationship with that person, it is recommended that you take the initiative to apologize to him.

If you have a bad relationship with that person, you have to recognize yourself first, ** wrong, and then you have to correct it, you can ignore that person, but you must continue to do the right thing yourself, live a normal life with a calm mind, maybe that person will be impressed by you later, don't you feel better when you think of this?

It's normal to feel uncomfortable, but don't let that bad mood get in the way.

You didn't say that my situation is normal, everyone's attitude towards things and judging criteria are different, so some people think it's good, and some people think it's bad.

After that, you didn't say that I was in a normal condition. Everyone's attitude towards things and judging standards are different, so some people think it's good, and some people think it's bad.

First of all, analyze why he is always so fierce to you.

1.You don't think things through, you don't pay enough attention to him, you don't take him seriously, you don't meet his requirements.

2.You have done something wrong and touched her interests.

3.You don't understand what he means correctly.

4.He sees you as an honest person and a bully, thinks that you dare not refute him, thinks you are stupid, and does not know how to refute him, so he uses you as a gas bucket.

5.If someone else does a good job, he must not offend others, so he does not be cruel to others.

6.Others are very strong and not hard, he does not suffer losses, he is not afraid of people, he does not dare to be fierce to others.

In fact, the main reason is that your words can't keep up and can't stand up.

So what's a good way to fix it?

1.Thinking about whether what he was doing was right or not, his reason for being angry was not valid. If you have not done anything wrong, you should say strongly that the problem is not with you, let him not blame others casually, if there is a reason to prove you wrong, let him show it, and if it really doesn't work, find leadership theory.

2.If it is true that you have not done the right thing, then you need to apologize and then tell him that you will correct it. In the future, you have to adjust your approach and get things done so that he can no longer find faults. Dry code.

3.Even if you're wrong, there's no need for him to be so angry at you. Who hasn't made a mistake yet?

If you're wrong, you know it's over, and it's over, as for counting people like that? You're not his child. So whether it's your fault or not, you can say this when he's vicious to you

You dissipate your anger first, don't be so excited, there's no need to be so angry, it's not good to hurt your body, let's talk slowly, okay? I did something wrong, please advise me, if I** did something really wrong, I will definitely accept your comments and suggestions, and correct it well. ”

4.If he is still angry, the reason is that what you did made him angry, he can't help but be angry, he can't help but vent. Then there is another trick, which is to take it as the best policy, and tell him:

I probably know what you mean, it's true that I did something wrong, sorry, I'll fix it, thank you for the reminder. But I have something urgent to go first, and the leader asked me to go to him. ”

It feels bad to be bullied all the time, and it will affect your mental state for a long time, so you can't accept any form of hot violence and cold violence, and resolutely go back.

Kidney deficiency, kidney can also solidify the human spirit, so, "Neijing" said: "The kidney is the main will." "People with strong kidneys tend to be strong-willed, have strong self-control, and can control their words, deeds, and emotions well.

If the will is not firm and the self-control ability is relatively poor, then it may be a weak kidney.

Therefore, whether it is people who have difficulty holding urine, frequent urination, and sexual life that does not last for a long time, or people who are not firm in their will and have poor self-control, they must strengthen kidney nourishment and become friends with the Chinese patent medicine of the Dihuang Pill family. Taking precautions and preventing diseases before they become ill is the idea of "curing diseases before they occur" in traditional Chinese medicine.

Traditional Chinese medicine believes that the kidneys are fearful. Excessive fear is the most likely to hurt the kidneys, which can lead to kidney qi depletion, sagging of essence qi, imbalance of lifting and elevation, incontinence, sperm loss, slippery discharge, abortion and premature birth. "The Soul of the Spirit" says:

If you are afraid of incomprehension, you will hurt your sperm, your essence will hurt and your bones will be sore, and your essence will come from below. "The heart is the master of the internal organs and the official of the monarch, so panic can also damage the heart, and there will be palpitations, sweating, and even confusion, convulsions, etc. As the "Su Wen Treatise on Lifting Pain" says:

If you are shocked, you have nothing to rely on, you have no place to go, you have no choice in your worries, and you are angry. ”

Find a Chinese medicine to regulate the body, the kidneys are not good, when you are a little older, your memory will decline, and your body, especially your teeth, will be prone to problems, which can be said to be a person who is aging before aging.

The kidney is the innate foundation, the spleen is the acquired foundation, the spleen and kidney are born together, do you often skip breakfast, indigestion...

Horses are good to be ridden, and people are good to be expected. If you are afraid of things, you will not be afraid of things. As long as you don't do anything wrong, others will be on the spot, and the more quietly you go, the more ghosts will come out!