Why don t they live together before marriage? Why don t you live together before you get married?

First, the beginning of chaos and the end of abandonment.

Men and women live together during the relationship, until the two parties have conflicts with each other, neither the constraints of the marriage certificate nor the reconciliation of the family, the relationship between the man and the woman is very likely to fall apart, cohabitation is the initiator, the reason why men and women break up, it is precisely because of cohabitation, although cohabitation can accelerate the development of feelings, but the development of feelings comes quickly, goes fast, will lead to regretful consequences.

Second, I don't know how to cherish it after I get it.

Before cohabitation, men and women will look forward to cohabitation, and after cohabitation, men and women will be disappointed, and both parties do not have the life of an old husband and wife, but they have the disease of an old husband and wife, and the husband and wife at least have children as a bond, what do men and women who live together have? The relationship of cohabitation will be vulnerable, easy to be together for a while, and difficult to be together for a lifetime.

3. Infectious diseases.

If a man and a woman get married, it is very likely that they will go for a premarital check-up, but if a man and a woman live together in a hurry, they will usually be secretive, neither bright nor upright, if one party has a related disease, one party will infect the other party, and then there will be regrets, then again, if the pregnancy is unexpected, but if the man and the woman cannot marry with a child, it is very likely to have an abortion, which will cause hidden dangers and harm to the woman's health.

Fourth, reputation is damaged.

Premarital cohabitation is neither easy to say nor good, even nowadays, men and women will be rumored to become prodigal men and casual women, especially after the breakup, both men and women will never forget in the psychological aspect, after all, both parties have been in love with each other for a long time, although there is no name of husband and wife, but there is a reality of husband and wife, as for the physiological aspect, the impact on women is far greater than that of men, the reason for this is well known.

Fifth, women let men take advantage.

Men often cohabit with women under the banner of love, using women as a tool to vent their desires, unless the woman proposes to break up, otherwise the man will continue to live with the woman, even if the man is married, the man will live with the woman outside, the longer the time with the cohabitation, the more the woman suffers, consuming the youth as the capital of love.

Sixth, the consumption of materials.

Men and women live together, often the man bears the material aspect, usually the man's wife, but whenever a man and a woman live together and part ways, marriage has become a luxury, men will be greatly damaged in the material aspect, perhaps the reason why women will end cohabitation with men is precisely because the man's family is hollowed out by the woman.

Because of the urging of his parents, he married the object with whom he did not have a deep relationship, and such a marriage lacked enough understanding, and there would be many potential hidden dangers. Weiwei and Xiao Guo are college classmates and fellow villagers, after graduation, most of the classmates chose to go back to their hometowns, and they both chose to stay and work hard, in a strange city, two familiar people soon came together. Xiao Guo was born in the countryside to conservative parents, and in his hometown, many of his peers were already married when he was in college.

Once his parents took the opportunity to say that they were going to send some special products to Xiao Guo, but after arriving, they had to see Weiwei. Weiwei met her parents very passively, and after the parents of both sides got in touch, they took the initiative to discuss the marriage, and Weiwei felt that she was not ready. The days of working hard outside are very hard, compared to working day and night, narrow rental housing, going back to the hometown to get married is indeed a good choice, both parents bought a wedding house for them, plus dowry and bride price, slightly feel very happy.

But the two did not live together before marriage, and many differences were slowly revealed after marriage, such as Xiao Guo always snoring loudly when he sleeps, and always smokes in the room. If there is a chance to do it all over again, Weiwei will definitely choose to understand more during the love period, and the most feared thing in marriage is disappointment and regret.

After marriage, the husband and wife can live together. And some people choose to live together before they get married. As for the question of whether premarital cohabitation is necessary, it is necessary to analyze whether premarital cohabitation is a necessary condition for marriage, the practical impact of premarital cohabitation on both parties, and the problems that premarital cohabitation may bring.

1. Cohabitation before marriage is not a necessary condition for marriage, so there is no need to cohabit before marriage.

There are many conditions that need to be met for marriage, such as the feelings of both parties, which must have a corresponding foundation. For example, the conditions of both parties must reach the corresponding state, and so on. Among these conditions and factors, premarital cohabitation is not one of the conditions that must be met for marriage.

In fact, even if the parties do not live together before marriage, it will not affect the outcome of the marriage. From this point of view, cohabitation before marriage is not a necessary condition for marriage.

2. Premarital cohabitation can cause a lot of problems for both parties.

Premarital cohabitation can have a very real impact on the relationship between the parties and even on the marriage. Specifically, if the act of cohabitation before marriage affects the feelings between the parties, it will not only not promote the relationship between the two parties, but also affect the outcome of the marriage between the parties.

3. Premarital cohabitation can cause a lot of problems for both parties.

In addition to the above two factors, premarital cohabitation is likely to cause many problems for both parties, and these problems will have an impact on the marriage of both parties. For example, the parents of both parties will definitely not approve of the behavior of cohabitation before marriage, which will cause conflicts between parents and children, affecting the marriage of children, if the parties can not properly deal with these problems, premarital cohabitation will have an adverse impact on the marriage of both parties, from this point of view, it is not easy to live together before marriage, and it is best for both parties to maintain their own way of life.

1. Most of the older generation and even young people with stronger traditional concepts believe that male and female lovers before marriage should not live together, because if a girl lives with her boyfriend before marriage, it will have a very negative impact on the girl's reputation. I think this concept is now outdated, and for young couples who are about to get married, cohabitation before marriage initiation is still very necessary. I am very much in favor of premarital cohabitation.

Cohabitation before marriage is actually a process of simulating married life, but this process is realized and executed in advance during the love stage.2 In the process of cohabitation, two people live together, cook together, do laundry together, watch TV together, clean together, etc. Through these small details in life, we can see if each other is suitable for marriage. Small details can reveal some of the other person's living habits and shortcomings, and of course the advantages will also be reflected.

3. Some couples find that the other party is not the ideal partner they want after living together before marriage, because in the dating stage, they feel that the other party is very considerate and gentle, but after living together before marriage, they find that the other party does not care about hygiene, too much "naivety", and he is a very lazy person. At the moment, I'm glad I haven't married the other party yet. If I find out that the other partner has these problems after getting married, I will regret it.

4. I think we should change the concept of premarital cohabitation. Living together before marriage is actually a way to try out marriage, which allows each other to cherish each other more and discover each other's bright spots, but it can also expose each other's shortcomings. The benefits of living in harmony before marriage outweigh the disadvantages, so it is not bound by traditional ideas.

5. Many older generations will think that couples should not live together before marriage, because girls living together before marriage will affect the reputation of girls, I think couples should live together before marriage, cohabitation is very necessary, premarital cohabitation can be seen that the other party has no bad living habits, through cohabitation can also run in the character of two people, premarital cohabitation benefits are still very many.

Premarital cohabitation, as the name suggests, is a kind of sexual relationship in which a man and a woman live together openly or secretly in the name of husband and wife before marriage. The goal of the two parties is to get married, so it has the meaning of "trial marriage".

Premarital cohabitation is a relatively new model of marriage that gives couples the opportunity to get to know each other better before they get married, and thus better determine whether they are suitable for marriage. It can also give couples the opportunity to resolve some family issues before they get married, thus reducing the problems that may arise after marriage.

However, before deciding to live together before marriage, there are two things that must be taken seriously:

First, this kind of relationship is not protected by law in our country, and the current law does not interfere with the cohabitation of both parties without a spouse, and the cohabitation of one or both spouses is an illegal act, and if the circumstances are serious, it will constitute the crime of bigamy and be punished by law.

The second is trial marriage, can marriage really be tested? The fact is that cohabitation and marriage are two completely different psychological states, and marriage cannot be tried. Either get married logically, or break up miserably. The latter is not unlikely.

So, strictly speaking, there is no need to live together before marriage.

Considering that it is the characteristics of women who are most hurt by the tragic breakup after premarital cohabitation, it is recommended that women should focus on figuring out five questions before premarital cohabitation

Clause. 1. Whether the boyfriend is reliable in conduct. Those who are unreliable or suspicious cannot live together before marriage;

Clause. 2. Is the love cycle with your boyfriend long enough, if it has not reached at least one spring, summer, autumn and winter, it means that you don't know each other carefully enough, and you can't or need to postpone premarital cohabitation;

Clause. 3. At least one of the two people with the boyfriend has the financial strength to maintain the living expenses of cohabitation before marriage, and those who do not have sufficient financial strength cannot live together before marriage;

Clause. Fourth, it is not appropriate for two people to live together before marriage if their "three views" are inconsistent;

Clause. 5. Men and women who are tolerant of their own shortcomings and are not tolerant of each other are not suitable for premarital cohabitation.

I don't think premarital cohabitation is necessary. Because most of the men and women know each other better before they get married, and their personalities include their physical abilities.

With the continuous change of people's thinking, it is not unacceptable for boyfriends and girlfriends to live together before marriage, but many older generations of old-fashioned people still can't accept premarital cohabitation, thinking that premarital cohabitation is a manifestation of men and women disrespecting each other and living inappropriately.

Benefits of premarital cohabitation:

First, premarital cohabitation can better understand the real other party, when men and women are just in love, they will show each other their most beautiful and best side, and in the early days of love, both parties will not care, always feel that the other party is the person who should be with him for a lifetime, there is no one more suitable for himself than him, and whether it is suitable to live together or not to know, because two people will live together every day for the rest of their lives. If there is anything in the other party's living habits that you can't bear, it may lead to a breakdown of the relationship because of the trivial matter of living habits, so living together before marriage is equivalent to testing the waters, and then considering whether to continue to be together after learning about the real other party, so that there will be no divorce after finding a little problem after marriage.

Second, the two parties can divide the housework they do before marriage, generally in the case of love, the other half is very happy to help you share the housework, and it will become a habit after a long time, otherwise the other half of the marriage will not be willing to help you share the housework, you have no way, you can only do it yourself, so the premarital cohabitation is also to make plans for the future married life, assign tasks, and the married life will not quarrel because of the little things such as housework.

Disadvantages of premarital cohabitation:

1. Premarital cohabitation will affect marriage, because the man will feel that he has lived together, and marriage is just a formality, so he doesn't care too much, which will make women who live together for the purpose of marriage feel uncomfortable, and it is very likely that they will break up unhappily in the end, which is a heavy blow to the woman.

Second, premarital cohabitation will affect the freshness after marriage, premarital cohabitation is different from those couples who can only see each other once or twice a week, they can see each other every day after marriage, and they don't have to wait for the weekly meeting time as before, this situation will accelerate the warming of their feelings, and for people who live together before marriage, marriage has no impact on their lives, except for a wedding, their lives are still exactly the same as before marriage.

After all, marriage is a major event in life, especially girls should be more cautious, there are advantages and disadvantages to living together before marriage, but girls still have to observe the other half of the person, and carefully think about whether he is the person you should be waiting for.