Expert: Don t be complacent about your child s Chinese style cleverness , because what?

In daily life, we can often see that some children are "very smart" at a young age, and some actions and words are often surprising.

Parents think that this is a good thing for these "Chinese-style little cleverness", and more cleverness is great wisdom, and there will definitely be great success in the future.

In fact, these parents are just blinded by love, every child is a treasure in the palm of their parents' hands, and the old people are even more relatives of the next generation, and they love their children very much. Many people love their children, and they look at their children. But they can't see the flaws and hidden dangers.

My colleague Xiao Zhou's family has a baby son, who has been clever since he was a child and has a lot of ghost ideas, and the old people in the family praise him for "being smart when he is a child and being a little person".

But as soon as my mother left, he turned on the TV, "Didn't you let you read it after writing" and "I'm done writing".

It turned out that he wrote a big "day" on one page, and the mother laughed after reading it, praising her son for being so smart and showing off when he met people.

Over time, the son often played this kind of cleverness, winning the appreciation and rewards of his family every time, and encouraging him to perform in front of outsiders.

After graduating, I found three jobs in a row, two were dismissed, and one didn't even pass the probationary period.

As a result, he often played clever at work for his own personal gain, and the leader fired him in order to maintain the company's atmosphere.

When children are young, some unconscious "fake smartness" is praised by parents, and children are becoming more and more proficient in using them.

These types of children seem to be smart when they are young, but most of them are half-useless.

Children who like to play smart.

Clever children are easy to be smart but clever mistakes, if your baby likes to play clever since childhood, you must not be complacent, this is the performance of the mouse's eyes, such children are often difficult to have a chance after growing up, and are not favored, like to play smart, seemingly shrewd, in fact is the most stupid person.

Children who like to take advantage of small things.

Children have this kind of performance, on the surface it seems that "do not suffer losses in everything, can take advantage" is very shrewd, but if you think deeply, you will find that it is very stupid to be greedy for a small advantage, and we all understand the truth of "being greedy for a small price and suffering a big loss".

If the child is greedy and has developed a habit, it will be difficult to make friends when he grows up, and he will not achieve much, because although being greedy for small and cheap will bring him short-term benefits, he will lose long-term benefits.

Children who like to shirk their responsibilities.

There are some children, when they make mistakes, they pass the responsibility to others and make themselves innocent, and some of them are still complacent when they find out that their children have this kind of behavior, thinking that their children are very smart and know that they can shirk the responsibility, but in fact, they just seem to be smart.

Because Chinese-style cleverness is not conducive to the development of a child's sound personality, it is easier to lead to a narrow and selfish personality.

Because such a little cleverness is not really smart, it will make the child narrow-minded, which is not conducive to the child's growth.

Because these little cleverness will make children develop bad habits, and they will suffer some big losses in their future growth because of these little cleverness.

It is not advisable, because "little cleverness" is not on the stage, and others will not believe you again the second time if they suffer the loss of little cleverness, which is also bad for the child's reputation.

I think it's okay, as long as there are no violations of laws and regulations, in this way, the child will have a flexible mind in the future, and he will be valued by the leader when he works.

It is not advisable, it is necessary to correctly educate and guide children, cultivate children's self-discipline, and let children truly become talents.