Chinese Parents, Chinese Parents, Parent Types

Chinese parents, especially the pre-70s generations, do not work hard to achieve their dreams themselves, and strive to force their children to realize their parents' dreams; I can't give my child a happy life, I want my child to be happy and grateful.

The types of Chinese parents are as follows:

Score First: Select all left.

Buddha system: choose all in the middle.

Joker: Choose all on the right.

Father's business: the first one chooses the left, and the others choose the middle.

Ignoring stocking: choose the middle of the first four and the last one on the right.

What does Chinese parenting look like?

1.Parents are hard-working, diligent and thrifty, most of them are self-made, some of them have successful careers, their children have become rich second generations, and some of them can grow up smoothly to take charge of themselves, and the worst is that the business or career fails, and they need their children to start over.

2.Generally, fathers are overly busy, rarely care about their children's studies and life, only interested in academic performance, and can spend money to choose schools in order to study.

3.Mothers are generally busy, or do their own work, and pay attention to their children's life and learning, regardless of the child's psychological and gender problems.

4.When children become adults, they begin to arrange their children's jobs and prospects according to their own abilities, hoping to have stable employment in traditional industries or units.

5.I am proud of my children's study and go to college, and I am proud of being in a hospital or school.

6.When I was in school, I strictly grasped the problem of first love, and after I came out, I began to urge my girlfriend to get married.

7.Generally, they will pay for their children to buy a house, and some will take care of their children, although there are complaints, but they still have to do it.

8.To save money, she asked me to take out a part of the money every month to save, but I was disobedient, making money and spending money quickly.

In fact, this topic is not accurate, all parent-child relationships in the world are a headache, but this parent-child conflict is more obvious in China.

Especially in traditional Chinese culture, the father is a symbol of authority. In the eyes of children, the father is often unsmiling, resolute and short-tempered, and single-handedly grasps the big and small affairs of the family, which is often a sense of command to the family.

Could it be that this is the reason why Chinese fathers are difficult to get along with?

Chinese-style father.

What is a Chinese-style father? Everyone has a different opinion. For some people, Chinese-style fathers are simple and silently express love for their children; Some people think that Chinese-style fathers are unreasonable; Others think that the Chinese father is irresponsible.

In the hit TV series "It's All Good" some time ago, we were shown a Su Daqiang-style father: a typical confused wife and man, neither responsible nor fair, always with a selfish attitude, constantly asking for everything like children.

And in the TV series "Little Destruction and Joy", it shows us another type of father: they love their children, but they are not good at expressing themselves, and they are busy with work, and they basically have no time to spend with their children, but they always ask their children to become better.

Of course, most fathers are probably a combination of stern and loving. In the eyes of children, the father is their solid support, and whenever something happens, the father always blocks himself from him at the first time; However, the father is also strict, constantly demanding and persecuting the child.

I remember that there was a program called "Hello Dad", where I interviewed hundreds of people who were already fathers, and when asked what kind of person they thought their father was, most of them said two words: strict.

Actually, what is a Chinese-style father? Perhaps the most typical image is "stern".

The love behind Yan's father.

Chinese-style fathers often represent strictness. However, being strict does not mean not loving, and being strict is more because most Chinese fathers lack a way to express their love and lack enough companionship, so they can only fulfill their father's responsibilities through strictness.

Chinese fathers have been instilled with the concept of "breadwinners" since childhood, demanding that "boys do not flick when they have tears", and the responsibilities and pressures borne by fathers in a family have caused the lack of father's position and also caused misunderstandings among children.

Xi Murong wrote such a passage in the prose "Father Yan":

The wind and frost and sorrow made the father who was running away gradually have a stern face, and when he returned home, the child's ignorance and laziness made him have an impatient heart. How can we make children understand what a rough and long road they have in front of them? How can children know how limited and short-lived their father's care is?

However, the children did not want to understand, nor did they want to know, that he liked to throw himself into the soft and warm arms of his mother, and to enjoy that infinite indulgence and affection.

The responsibilities and pressures of a Chinese-style father make them understand the mud and ruggedness of the road ahead; At the same time Chinese-style.

The Chinese-style father is machismo, self-centered, and everyone else has to listen to everything he says, and he does not accept anyone's refutation.