What do you disagree with most about your parents education?

Although many families love their children very much, they never express it in front of their children. I think there should be many people in my life who are like me, who have never heard their parents say that they love themselves, and have never said "I love you" to their parents, and parents rarely encourage their children. Being in such an environment for a long time will make children a little unconfident, and they will not be able to see the shining points in themselves.

I disagree with what my parents told me that girls are born to take care of the house, clean the house, cook, and do the laundry. And boys are born to be served. I believe that both men and women should be equal. The home should be cleaned up together.

I disagree with my parents when educating their children always deny their children, blame their children's shortcomings, let their children have no self-confidence, and always spoil their children in life, always think that children are still very young and can't be independent, in fact, children have personality and assertiveness when they are very young, and they should often give children the opportunity to exercise themselves. Regardless of whether what your child says is right or wrong, encourage your child to express his or her thoughts bravely.

I don't agree that parents always compare their own children to other people's children. This will enhance the child's inferiority complex and make the child feel that he is really inferior to others. No matter how hard you try, you can't get the favor of your parents, and you can't always compare to other people's children.

There is also a disagreement with their poor education. What kind of living conditions you have, you can work your own, you can tell your children to be thrifty, but don't always tell your children that your family has no money, so that your children will be very inferior in front of others.

Give your children more company, let them feel the love around them, and don't always use some excuses to avoid their responsibilities, which will only backfire their education.

The point that I disagree with my parents' education the most is that the test scores are so poor and I still play, it's all the fault of playing, and then it's a violent beating, and every time I don't let me play, I know that I still don't do well in the test, and the result is that I have been repeating my parents' education methods.

My parents always taught me that simplicity is beautiful, but now the society is different, the society is progressing, and people have different views on the fashion of your sister, in the eyes of the parents are still those conservative thoughts, such as wearing beggar pants, they all feel particularly inappropriate, but now this is a fashion.

Learning is everything to us, and if the cultural class is not good, everything else is not to be discussed. In the eyes of my parents, their good and bad evaluations of me were based on my studies. Once in an exam, my grades dropped a few places, and my parents said that I didn't study hard and didn't give me a chance to speak.

Isn't it normal for grades to fluctuate, there's really no need to make a big fuss.

The last thing I agree with is that your parents are forcing you to make up classes. Because if a child really wants to learn, he can learn well without going to a make-up class. If you are forced to learn, the effect of learning will not be proportional to the effort.

If you want your child to learn well, the most important thing is to let him truly appreciate the joy of learning and let him fall in love with learning.

I don't agree with my parents being too "interfering" in my life.

From childhood to adulthood, they will plan for me, what to do at what age, what to learn, when I was young, I didn't know how to resist, and when I grew up, I felt very constrained.

My mom would ask me what kind of clothes I wore and what kind of lipstick I wore, and if she didn't think it looked good, she would force me to take it off. <>

For everyone's parental education, there will be different places, and the thing I disagree with the most about parental education is that it is too strict.

Although strictness is also a kind of love, my parents have been very strict with me since elementary school, and as a kind of strictness, sometimes I feel fearful, but sometimes I thank my parents for being strict with me.

Without their strictness, I wouldn't have achieved where I am now, so I'm quite grateful.

Different families have different ways of educating their children. In this matter, I do not agree with the way my parents educate me, and I will not continue this education method to my own children. It all started with the way my parents raised me.

My parents taught me a completely different way, generally speaking, it was a strict father and mother's model. My mother was too hard and tired to do farm work in the countryside when I was a child, so she doted on me a little, and when I was at home, she didn't let me do anything, which led to my poor self-care ability. When I was in the upper grades of elementary school, I once wanted to go into the kitchen to learn how to cook and cook, but she wouldn't even let me into the kitchen.

At that time, I didn't realize that there was a problem, but when I got to junior high school, I transferred to the prefecture and became a boarding student. The life of a resident student is very painful for me, because I not only have to go to class, but also have to do laundry, steam meals, and deal with all kinds of daily chores. Because I was too well protected by my mother, I also had poor adaptability, and I often felt homesick and a little repulsed by the unfamiliar environment.

My dad was on the short-tempered side, and his heart was all about work. For many years in elementary school, he worked outside the home with his mother. Later they opened a breakfast shop.

Breakfast shops often have to get up early in the morning to work, so they go to bed at seven or eight o'clock in the evening. During the summer vacation, I would go to live in the place where they worked for a while, and I couldn't sleep at seven or eight o'clock at night. Whenever I disturbed my dad to sleep, he would reprimand me harshly and even hit me.

When I was a child, I had very little communication with my father, and I had the impression that he just loved his work and made money to support his family.

My parents' education had a great influence on me, and I had a lot of shortcomings. For example, poor autonomy and lack of security.

Wait. Now I have my own family, my own children. I think the child must cultivate his independence, doting on him will not make him, love him must teach him to fish. When communicating with your child, try to be as pleasant as possible, so that the child can actually understand what you mean.

I identify with the way my parents raised me; I will appropriately continue this way of feasting sails and clear the way of sedan to my own children, but at the same time, I will also add some unique education methods of my own, so that my baby can grow up healthy and healthy.

I don't approve of it, because I don't take stick education, and I don't use it on children, and I can't take a wrong step

My parents were more relaxed about my education, and they were all free growth in that era, but this kind of teaching and stupid parenting method will not be used on my children, and I am more strict with my children's education.

Summary. It is a matter of course for us to honor our parents, but if you find that your parents are at fault, it is unkind if you do not advise them. Therefore he should be admonished well, tactfully, and continually.

If his parents really refused to listen to him, they had no choice but to respect him, not to disobey him, and even though he had suffered from his own labor, he had no choice but to accept it without complaint, preferring to be wronged to the end. If you don't advise in advance, or if you work hard and have resentment, then you can't do it, that is, you are unkind. There is another layer, the word "several" in "several admonitions", and the word "machine".

The machine, the opportunity, the micro. In other words, when you discover the motives of your parents who may be doing wrong, you should look for opportunities to counsel them.

If you think your parents are not right, you will educate him.

It is a matter of course for us to honor our parents, but if you find that your parents are at fault, it is unkind if you do not advise them. Therefore, he should be persuaded to fight and admonish him well, tactfully, and continuously. If his parents really refused to listen to him, they had no choice but to respect him, not to disobey him, and even though he had suffered from his own labor, he had no choice but to accept it without complaint, preferring to be wronged to the end.

If you don't advise in advance, or if you work hard and have resentment, then you can't do it, and the first coarse is unkind. There is another layer, the word "several" in "several admonitions", and the word "machine". The machine, the opportunity, the micro.

In other words, when you discover the motives of your parents who may be doing wrong, you should look for opportunities to counsel them.

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When parents do not approve of themselves, first of all, we need to look at the situation calmly, stay sober and calm, and not be easily swayed by emotions. Secondly, understand the parents' thoughts and reasons, if you can communicate with your parents and take the initiative to understand their thoughts and situation, there may be a better solution for the surplus sales.

In the face of parental disapproval, I think we should adopt a positive attitude. First of all, accept your parents' opinions and use their ideas as a reference, a kind of advice. Secondly, to understand our parents' perspective, we should not only focus on our own thoughts and feelings, but also think about our parents' care and expectations for us, which is also a manifestation of their disapproval of us.

On the basis of understanding, we need to think about how we can improve ourselves to meet the expectations of our parents. Instead of being stubborn about our own ideas and methods, we should take the initiative to understand and try to grasp the ideas and methods of our parents, and let them see our improvement and promotion by adjusting our own ideas or practices, improve our own abilities and levels, and be more able to meet our own expectations.

In addition, we should also find ways to reduce psychological stress, such as talking to friends, listening to other people's opinions and suggestions, and using exercise to relax our emotions.

Finally, no matter how we decide, we must respect our own wishes and analysis of our parents' opinions, but also pay attention to how to express our opinions and emotions, communicate with our parents in an equal way, find solutions together, reach consensus and balance, and lay the foundation for a harmonious family relationship.

Deliberately distorting the facts to make you think that everything is your own problem, a phenomenon known in psychology as the "gaslighting effect". Blindness.

There are many phenomena in real life that involve the gaslighting effect, but some of them are not so deep, such as some unreasonable education methods for children, whether they hurt their children's self-awareness unconsciously, or manipulate their feelings, and have achieved the purpose of making children obedient? Do you often say that you are sensitive and suspicious, and if someone says that you may be ignorant, if everyone you know says so, do you start to doubt yourself?

Your boyfriend criticizes you for chatting with other men, socializing with other friends, imposing his values on you, saying that everyone has bad intentions towards you, as long as your boyfriend is good to you. At first, you may laugh it off, but after a long time, every time your boyfriend says this, do you doubt yourself? Do you associate with friends with suspicion?

When a husband and wife have lived together for a long time, it is often the weaker party who sees the problem from the perspective of the stronger party. In terms of consumption, spending money lavishly and so on.

Have your parents denied your clothes, from childhood to adulthood, your parents decide what you wear and what you can't wear, when you really wear a dress you like, will your parents say that you are dressed in a strange costume, and the elders around you say that the clothes are not good-looking, do you still think it looks good?

When he still dresses up and goes to work every day, he looks like a chic and happy young man.

You will gradually find that "going home" has become a terrible thing in the future, and the originally reasonable parents can't listen to your words like "I can live happily alone", but turn into a demon with a mace and force marriage. used to be a refuge, but since he reached the marriageable age and was still single, his father's urging to marry began, urging him to make himself afraid to go home. As long as parents don't mention this topic, they can laugh and laugh, and the mention of it has turned into a constant quarrel, and as long as this topic is mentioned, it is impossible to communicate well.

My parents don't understand or accept it, even if you don't like it, you can leave in the end, but I don't want to decide my life because of my understanding of you. I think that's moral kidnapping.

I have my own selfishness, and I don't want to fulfill their wishes.

My own defense has always been very heavy, never completely opened, and it is difficult to open, outsiders think I am so cold, so it is difficult for me to have a boyfriend, and of course I also hope that someone will accompany me in times of difficulty in addition to my parents. But it's hard for me to be tempted by myself, and I'm so rational that I can't do it.

Some people told me that it was not good to be too sensible, but it was hard for me to change this kind of bones. I want to be confused, but I really can't do it at the moment

But no one cares what you think, and you can't escape or refuse those interference under the pretext of caring for "your good".

One! Lack of communication with parents, communicate more with parents, and be brave enough to speak your mind. In fact, parents want to enter the world of their children, but children are reluctant to communicate with their parents, they always think that their parents can't keep up with their pace, some new things, they can't accept it, they can't play, and they don't want to talk to their parents.

Two! Because parents have rich life experience, they want to use their own way to guide their children not to take detours to tease the old, and do not give their children the opportunity to express their thoughts, they have their own rich social experience, and children need to be protected in their eyes. They want to pass on their experience to their children.

They tend to think about things from their own point of view, from the age group they are in.

Three! There is a generation gap between our parents and us, and we live in different eras. The things that parents tell their children are the things they think are right, they never consider the feelings of their children, they have a generation gap with us, they love their children, but sometimes they do things in the wrong way, so that Shan Zhengsheng's children feel that they are not understood by their parents and are not considerate.

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