Will friendship really be phased?

In my opinion, friendship is of course phased, and there is never a person who always accompanies you for a lifetime.

When did you start to think that friendship was a phase, starting from high school? At least until high school, I was a very closed person, and in high school I kept forcing myself to be cheerful and outgoing, otherwise I wouldn't be able to make friends. It's a long way off, after graduating from high school, at least during the time when I was in college, I began to contact my friends in high school less, and I didn't tell them anything, and I changed a group of friends from college, and the group in high school began to gradually become a message do not disturb, and friends in my hometown began to contact less, and only after I returned to my hometown would I contact them often.

Although friendship is not as good as family affection and love, it plays a very important role in our lives. We will go through the stages of elementary school, junior high school, high school, university and even entering society, and our friends will continue to change according to which stage we are. If we're lucky, we'll meet some people who will make a good impression on your life, but nowWe have to get used to the fact that friends are phased, and friendship cannot accompany us for a long time.

There will be different groups at different stages, we have to grasp the moment, and we are fortunate to meet friends who appear in our lives, but we must learn to let go, to avoid the fragmentation of friendship between us, causing conflicts, in the adult world, letting go is the respect for friendship. The corner is the present, and when we meet different people in the next moment, we are still innocent at that time. We need to understand that friendship is phased, and we will always meet the next friendship around the next corner.

As you grow up, you will gradually find yourself lonely, but you must also learn to enjoy solitude. With the loss of time, people will be estranged from each other, we must always learn to grow, learn to say goodbye to the last friendship, and retain the only remaining warmth of the previous friendship in our lives.

To be honest, lifelong friendship is too difficult, and when they grow up, many people don't know how to keep in touch. In fact, after work, everyone has become farther away from different cities to develop, and there are no more topics to talk about, and the friendship will slowly pass away with the wind, which can be regarded as an end without a problem. Everyone has some regrets to a greater or lesser extent, and then gradually understandsLife isBack wavesPushing the front waves, can appear in your own life, short or long, appearance is fate.

After all, there are many stages in life, and we will meet many people, what we can do is to say goodbye to those who have been separated and cherish those who stay by our side.

Everyone will indeed meet different people at different times, for most friendships, it can be said that they are phased, but there are also some people who will choose to accompany you all the time, you also have to believe that for these people, friendship may be phased, but permanent, forever and forever will accompany you. I don't know what the future stage will be, but some people will accompany you through every stage. So for the friendship between these people, I don't think it's phased.

And in detail, in my view of whether friendship has a phased statement, there are the following views:

First of all

In my opinion, friendship for most of us get along with each other, it is indeed a phase, most of these people, can refer to our general friends and ordinary friends, for these friends, we do have to have a positive and open mind to look at, she may have a certain period of time with you to talk very high, maybe you have been through a difficult period together, but after more stages, you may have been separated from each other, there is nothing to say.

There are also some people who haven't seen each other for a long time, but they can still talk non-stop when they meet.

These phenomena are the reality, everyone has their own life, there is no need to leave anything too hard.

The departure of the leaves is not the pursuit of the wind, nor the retention of the tree, but the arrangement of fate, the selection of nature, the blossoming and falling of flowers, the reincarnation of heaven, what should come will come, what should go will go, sometimes leaving does not mean the end, but another beginning.

And for this kind of staged friendship, we should look at it.

SecondlyAnother,I'm also glad that I casually have a friendship that is not a phase.,We grew up together.,Neighbors have played together since childhood.,Kindergarten,Elementary school,Middle and high school together,Even if you go to college in a different school.,A holiday will stay together to find a place to play.,And in my opinion,This kind of friendship is already equivalent to family affection.,So where does the stage come from?

The people around you are changing round by round, but there is always someone who will be with you for a long, long time.

This kind of friendship exists because we believe that we can keep in touch and accompany each other for a long, long time, and it also allows us to feel warm and touched by each other at all times.

Share daily life together, laugh and laugh together, encourage each other together, and make progress together. Becoming better together can also be said to be the meaning of friendship

Although friendship will inevitably be like love, we will be jealous, we will always make different friends in our respective fields, but our hearts still reserve each other's place, so it is enough

People who are on the same page will not be separated

Finally

What I want to express is that there is no need to force friendship too much and delve into whether it is too phased, look down on this matter, and have a good time with the good friends of the moment.

Then grasp the current stage.

I wish we all be able to go head-to-head with sincere people.

I can be very clear about you, the vast majority of friends are phased. Whether it is classmates, neighbors, or colleagues, it is basically a phase, and as time goes by, there is less and less communication with friends, and they will slowly disappear into your life, and only a very small number of friends will always be with you in your life.

Take myself as an example, I have a young man, we have been playing together since kindergarten, we are in the same school in the town for six years of primary school and three years of junior high school, so we have a very good relationship. Basically every weekend, the two of us played together, and we played all day, and we played like this until I graduated from junior high school, and I thought that we had such a good relationship that the friendship could be maintained forever, but the truth is, since high school, we have less and less contact, until now we don't talk at all in college.

I have also thought about this problem, and I think the main reason for the phased friendship is the gap between geography and cognition.

The first is the geographical gap, and we have to admit that the best way to maintain friendship is to communicate in person rather than simply chatting with a mobile phone. There will always be a distance between us and our friends due to various reasons such as going to school, changing jobs, moving, etc., which hinders the communication between friends, and over time, the communication between friends becomes less and less, and he will disappear into your life, and only occasionally remember to talk a few words.

The second is the perception gap. As you and your friends choose different paths, there will be a gap in your cognition, for example, if you are admitted to the 985211, and he only studied in a junior college, you have received different education, and the environment is different, and finally the gap between the three views will slowly appear, and finally you will find that there is no common topic between you, and the two can only slowly forget about each other.

Although friendship is phased, every friendship is worth remembering. We just need to know that there was once such a friendship that enriched our lives, and that there was once such a friendship that brought us countless joys, and that is enough. As for whether we will meet in the sea of people in the future, whatever, just move forward, firm in your choice, and there will always be new friends slowly coming into our lives.

In fact, there will be some passers-by in everyone's life, we can't keep it, and we can't keep it, I'll take friendship as an example, it's a phase. In fact, many people value friendship very much.

Of course, I used to think that friendship was very important. But now I understand,Some people are just passers-by in your life, maybe they were young at the time, and they didn't know what a real friend was and what a fake friend was, because I saw them clearly later in some things, and this kind of friend is a stage friendMaybe you had a good time at the time but then after you left, you won't have any contact, there is a kind of friend who only cares about talking to you, but when you talk to him, he ignores you and only talks about himself. In fact, friendship and filial piety are the same.

Both people have to give, and if only one person gives, the other will be hurt.

There is a sayingI know thatYou treat him as your only one, but he treats you as one-ten-thousandth of hisYou care about him very much, but he doesn't care about you at all, because he has more friends besides you, and he just treats you as a general friend, but you treat you as the best. This kind of friend is really unnecessary.

LaterI also met friends in my life who were willing to help me, support me, and encourage me. I feel like this kind of friendship will stay with me for the rest of my life. They don't belittle me, they don't mock me, they encourage me silently and support me.

(Actually, I don't want to talk to some friends, because I've always been a person who likes to talk and complain, but then I didn't want to, but I have a friend who told me.) Friends are meant to talk to each other, otherwise what is the meaning of the existence of friends) I am really happy, and I am also fortunate to be lucky to meet that kind of friend.

In this day and age, who else wants to listen to all that nonsense you say, this kind of friend is really great,A real good friend is one who makes the other person better and better, more and more confident, more and more loving, I am very grateful and happy to meet this kind of friend, they also make me no longer like before, they make me better and better.

Sometimes, it is really difficult for former friends to get farther and farther away, but I also find that this is the normal state of life. Maybe life is like this, some people are destined to fade out of your life circle, maybe as time goes by, the distance between the heart will really get farther and farther awaySo we can't help but ask: do long-lasting friendships really exist, and why are many relationships phased?

In my opinion, a lot of relationships are indeed phased, and staged friendships are really common. In the stages of life that we go through to grow up, the people we meet are different at each stage, and the friends are also rotated one after another.

In elementary school, junior high school, high school, university, and later work, the friends around me will inevitably change. Many people have high expectations for growth, but when growth does come, we are often reluctant to give up on the things around us.

Different stages of life are like different journeys, and every time we pass a platform, someone who accompanies us all the way will get off the train, and then there will be new faces "buy tickets and get on the train" to accompany us through the next journey. At each stage, we have a different perception of life, and as time goes by, we miss it and learn to live independently.

On a subjective level, although we will be reluctant to give up those friends who get off the train at the station, as time goes by, they will gradually fade out of our lives and be replaced by new faces who get on the train later.

These people, who only appear at a certain stage in our life journey, we call them staged sparrow friends. In fact, not only friends, but many people cannot achieve "lifelong companionship" in the true sense.

Because most people don't have the same goals, "different paths" often can't "end up together". But even so, the impact of the staged relationship is very large.

The phased answers, the phased companionship, the four seasons of reincarnation, many people have forgotten a lot. NopeI have always felt that if one day we all have our own pursuit, embark on two roads, then accept it calmly, let it be, if it is unforgettable, remember it in the bottom of your heart, do not have to be too entangled, let the beauty of the past stay in the long river of time.

I've always been grateful to the people who have come to my world, and even though they didn't accompany me to the end of my life, the joy they brought me was unique, and the sorrow they brought me became a medicine for my growth. I will always be grateful, whether long or short, met or separated....

I hope you understand:

Always allow someone to miss out so you can catch the best encounters.

For staged relationships, there is no need to worry too much. Compared with the phased relationship, it is better to precipitate yourself, make yourself better, and keep working non-stop for your own pursuit! We're all running to our respective lives, strangers, hoping that we can all become better versions of ourselves.

The so-called stages are because life is a whole in time, but from the perspective of experience and cognition, it is divided into many stages, childhood, adolescence, youth, adulthood, middle age and old age, every time we look back at the previous stage, we will have a little regret and laughter, because we are growing. In the process of survival and growth, people will exist in many different environments, and in each different environment, your world will be different, and the people you meet and the things you encounter will change your heart.

Staged friendship means that there is a group of friends at a stage, and there are really few true friends.

In fact, many people have this experience, and they have friends they like very much at each stage, and when there are new friends around good friends, they will take the initiative to stay away. When she thinks that she will share what happens every day with others, she will fall into a strange circle, resulting in really few friends around her.

Some netizens feel that the phased friendship is very normal, and with the change of time, the people and things around them are constantly changing.

Feelings are to guess the fierce wheel like this, I will always need you, and I hope I will always be needed, loss is loss, and I can't afford unilateral feelings. You take the initiative to find me to have a story, I take the initiative to find others is also the most trusted, generally not active, I don't like to take the initiative to chat, because most of them have no common topics, and the circles are not the same.

Is there still that kind of imaginary lifelong good friend in the adult world? There may be, but rarely. Becoming a close friend of many people, I thought it was beautiful when I was a child, but I just felt unnecessary when I grew up. However, it is better to have it and lose it than never to have it.

But don't feel sad, the stage of friendship does not mean that there will be no contact in the future, maybe at some stage in the future you will meet again and start the next part of the journey.