How did it feel to have strong parents since childhood?

I feel like I'm living in dire straits, I can't help myself, I can't make my own decisions about many things, and I feel like a little pet dog they have.

It may be a remnant of the feudal ideology of feudal society, parents always feel that he is right, you should listen to him, there is no opportunity to express your own thoughts, very annoying.

I had a bad relationship with my parents because they couldn't hear my ideas and suggestions at all, and they tried many times, but the communication was ineffective, and they didn't want to tell them anything.

I am a teacher, and I have found that strong parents never really accept their children, and always force their children to do this and that according to their own requirements.

For example, one of my students is married and married, but the salary card is still in the hands of his mother. This boy's parents are very strong, and since he was a child, what he eats, what he does, what he studies, what kind of job he is looking for, and what kind of wife he is looking for, his parents have to interfere strongly. When he got married, his mother was still holding his salary card and was unwilling to return it to his daughter-in-law.

The daughter-in-law was dissatisfied, and only hated that she had found a mom boy who had no opinions.

A male student like this one is typically victimized by strong parents. He has no opinions, does not dare to disobey his parents, and his married life is a mess.

Strong parents will interfere too much in their children's development, and it will also affect their children's independence.

Because these will impose their own ideas on the child, and if the child obeys, they will feel happy; If the child is against it, they will feel that the child is unfilial. The result of this is that the child becomes less and less assertive and becomes a submissive mother.

Strong parents look powerful, but in fact they are full of fear. They are afraid that their children are not good, and they are afraid that their children are not as good as others. This fear of inferiority turns into a strong behavior imposed on the child, and the child receives negative pressure.

After a long time, the child will have two situations, either the child will become timid and cowardly; Either the child becomes rebellious and irritable.

The family is the most important educational environment for children. Parents must learn to control their temper, not to be too aggressive, and to ask their children to listen to their parents.

It is necessary to learn to listen to children's ideas, learn to let children make some decisions, and cultivate children's self-confidence and choice ability, so that children can get better and better.

I feel like this, I didn't feel anything when I was young, I liked to express myself more in early childhood, I loved to laugh and dance, but with the strength of my parents, I felt that I didn't like to express myself more and more, became less talkative, and began to fear socializing.

Every time I wanted to do something, my parents stopped me, and I only stayed at home to study, study and study, and felt that life was very boring. And the heart is also very depressed, resulting in a sharp decline in academic performance instead of improving.

If the parents are very strong, there is also a possibility that it will cause the child's submissive character. I feel like I don't have my own opinions, I don't have my own thoughts, and everything is arranged.

From the bottom of my heart, I am very afraid of the strength of my parents. Every time I say something to them, I may have a different opinion but I dare not express it, I can only agree with them, and there is a deep sense of powerlessness.

I want to rebel, I want to revolt very much, just like there is oppression, there is resistance. The strength of the parents has caused a rebellious mentality.

I have been under the control of my parents, and when I went to college, I finally left my hometown and escaped from their discipline. Now that I have graduated, although life in this city is very hard, I can only live in a few square houses, but I still don't want to go back.

Parents are too strong, mainly it will affect the overall atmosphere of the family, the atmosphere is depressed and not relaxed, and for each family member, it will affect their character, and the main personality becomes stubborn and extreme. At the same time, strong parents can also affect their children, which is mainly reflected in the following three aspects.

1. Affect the parent-child relationship.

In most cases, if the parents are in a leadership position in the workplace, then they will bring the shadow of this role into the family, thinking that what they say is a command, and the child will have to obey it. In this mode of education, children will become timid and cowardly, and in the long run, children will become fearful and negative, negative energy will prevail, and they will not want to be close to their parents because fear and worry continue to sprout from the bottom of their hearts.

2. Let the child lose his opinion.

Because of the dominance of their parents, some of the ideas put forward by the children will not be accepted and approved by the parents, so they are reluctant to tell their true thoughts, including parents, relatives and friends. In the long run, they will become less and less assertive, because their ideas and judgments are not recognized and understood by their parents, and correspondingly, they will lose confidence when they encounter setbacks.

3. Exacerbate the child's rebellion.

Strong parents will deny and attack their children more often, so that the children are under great psychological pressure, then they will not be able to face the potential difficulties and dangers that may exist in the future. At the same time, strong parents often have too high requirements for their children, and their children dare not fail and are more afraid of failure, and the more they worry about making mistakes, the more they will make mistakes.

Therefore, there are too many disadvantages of parental strength, the author believes that it is important for parents to urge their children to learn, but more importantly, it is more important to improve the way of communication with children, and being strong is not conducive to children's physical and mental development. For the sake of a harmonious atmosphere in the family, whether the child will be positive and cheerful in the future, parents, please make changes!

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Parents who are too strong are not conducive to the healthy physical and mental growth of children. I want my children to be independent. You need to make him assertive.

Parents can only make suggestions from the side, rather than making decisions for their children. Parents who are too strong will cause a very depressing psychological burden on their children. Therefore, I personally think that the role of strong parents in the family does more harm than good.

Parents also need to leave a certain amount of room for their children's thoughts. Otherwise, under the long-term depression of the child, he suddenly broke out and did something wrong, which is useless to regret.

Parents are too strong, some children are more and more oppressive, rebellious, and some children, submissive, all listen to their parents. It is not okay for parents to be too strong, and some opinions are imposed on their children, and the children are not happy, and family conflicts are inevitable.

Parents who are too strong are not good for the development of their children;

Children will feel very depressed as they grow up, and they will be more rebellious during adolescence;

If you start a new family, your new daughter-in-law will be very uncomfortable, and it will lead to divorce!

Generally, most of the children from this kind of family are submissive, have no self-confidence, have low self-esteem, have no courage, and have no courage. Parents can't both be strong, there must be a weakness in one of them. Personally, I think that the strength of the mother is greater than the strength of the father, and the influence of the family is greater.

Parents who are too strong will have little impact on the family, after all, parents are strong, others dare not seven, it will not have much impact on the family, after all, parents are strong, others dare not bully you, prove that your parents are still more protective of your strength, for them, it is also an attitude to protect you, a method.

It can make the rest of the family arrogant or unsightly. It is also possible that the opposite is true. It depends on other external influences, that is, what you hear and see, and you will associate with your parents, but they may go to extremes. More likely than the average family.

Parents are too strong, so the children from the family are generally stronger, there are exceptions, maybe the children are more cowardly, so in front of the children, the parents are more peaceful!

Strong parents often impose their feelings of joy, anger and sorrow on their children, and their children's diverse experiences are not fully released and expressed. The emotional interaction between children and parents is lacking, the emotional world of children is very gray, and when they grow up, their hearts will not express love because of the lack of love, and interpersonal interaction is poor.

Parents who are too strong can make the family very depressed. Children grow up in this oppressive environment, they will either be very weak, or they will have a strong rebellious heart, in short, they will not be very close to their parents, so this should be a very failed family.

If a family parent is too strong, I believe that the impact on the child is still great, which may lead to the child's lack of self-confidence and even low self-esteem from an early age.

If the parents are too strong, the child's personality may be more cowardly for the family.

It's good to be strong, and it's good for the family.

Children will be suppressed and will be inconsistent.

1. In the family, the father is strong, the mother is weak, and the son gives birth to a son, the son identifies with the father of the same sex, and the son is also a strong party at home after he gets married. And when the son is in love, he will definitely choose a girl who agrees with him, so that it is possible to get married.

2. In the family, the father is weak, the mother is strong, and the son is weak after he gets married. Similarly.

3. In the family, the father is strong, the mother is weak, and the daughter is weak after giving birth to a daughter.

4. In the family, the mother is strong, the father is weak, and the daughter is strong after she gets married.

5. If there are two children in the family and the children are of the same gender, then the eldest is like a parent of the same gender as himself, and the second is not necessarily.

6. There are two children in the family, the children are of different genders, or the boy's personality is like his father, and the girl is like his mother, no matter the order.

Found a pattern? It's same-sex identity. The role of parents as role models for their children's gender roles in the family is enormous, and the influence is pervasive. It's not superstition, it's not genetic, it's inheritance. The good and the bad will be passed on to future generations.

What happens if a strong boy is with a strong girl? This kind of combination will not go to marriage at all, they are all strong and controlling, and it is strange if they don't quarrel eight times a day when they fall in love, and what kind of marriage do they get.

It is possible that the weak ones may come together, but when they come together, they may often complain that the other party is not assertive, does not worry, is not responsible, and so on.

Parents are too strong, and the children obey their parents for everything, and the children have no autonomy and no opportunity to express their own ideas.

In life, when children do wrong things, as parents, they will always unconsciously criticize or abuse their children. This is actually not right, which will invisibly suppress the child's self-confidence and make him afraid to do anything in the future.

Don't get into conflict with your stronger parents, because their anger may hurt you. Be careful in everything and check if it's your own mistake. If it's your own mistake, you must try to find a solution to it.

There is nothing wrong with being strong, but this set should not be used on children all the time. A lot of times, we are strong just to solve problems, but we can't make our children ugly because we are strong.

For children, understand why parents are strong on you? Did you miss your homework? Or are you playful and don't listen to your parents? Or is it due to other reasons? Only by finding the real cause can we prescribe the right medicine.

Many children don't understand because they don't understand the real reason why their parents are so bitter, and they blindly complain, and the results are predictable.

Personally, I think that as long as the strength is appropriate, there will be no situation where the child is not adapting. As a parent, in the process of interacting with your child, you should observe your child's reaction, and if there is an abnormality, you must correct it in time and not give your child a bad feeling.

If a child wants to get rid of his or her parents, it is a red flag for the parents. Although the child did not say it, his behavior was enough to explain everything. Therefore, be closer to your children, do a good job of parent-child activities, such as reading, eating, etc., and don't alienate your children, otherwise it will only exacerbate the estrangement from your children, and the gains outweigh the losses.

Experts who saw CCTV's psychological interviews made special comments on this issue. The gist is that parents who are too strong will play a bad role in the child and will not be good for the child's development. For example, your parents want you to follow their ideas and assumptions in life.

Everything is decided for you, and your independence is completely gone, which is actually very detrimental to your growth. Let children deal with and deal with their own affairs, and exercise their ability to survive and adapt in society.

You have to talk to your parents well, give some practical examples to convince them, don't argue, and reason with them. You have to make it clear that this is not loving you but hurting you, and asking them to let you face it. For example, you can give an example:

The fox wants to bite the little fox out and not let it come back, that is, to let it exercise its ability to live independently, and many animals in nature are like this.

It's not that I want to speak ill of your parents, it's just that the first time I see such an unenlightened parent, your family really needs the strongest family meeting, you have to say it all, you can't blindly be filial to your parents, this kind of responsibility for a long time is a kind of bondage, creating a situation that is not good for you.