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Since you have chosen to divorce the other party, don't let yourself compromise because of the problem of the child, otherwise the original problem will be staged again, and the two people will still choose to divorce, which will bring more harm to the child.

1. Don't be easily swayed.

Since it has come to the point of divorce, it means that the relationship between the two people has existed in name only, and if they remarry for the sake of their children, it will only make this marriage a failure. If you have made the decision to divorce, don't waver easily, learn to stand firm in your position, and don't compromise for anyone, so that you can really think about yourself.

2. Facing divorce correctly.

Marriage is inherently unpredictable, some people only really come together, will know whether the other party is the person they want, divorce does not mean a very bad thing, since you have chosen to divorce, then you should respect each other's choice, the correct face of the fact of divorce. Marriage is originally a matter for two people, even if they have common children, they should not let their children intervene in the emotional problems of two people, which is definitely unfair to each other and will have a great impact on each other.

3. Be responsible for your children.

I believe that it will be very uncomfortable for women to see their children having a bad time in their in-laws' house, after all, children are born by themselves, and I hope that children will not be affected because of themselves. But it often backfires, and at this time, you should not remarry for the sake of your children, otherwise your identity will be even more embarrassing after you go back, and the other party will not treat you well. But you can visit your children often, or fight for custody of your children, so that you are responsible for your children.

If you truly love your children, then you should face your marriage correctly and lead by example, so as to bring a good positive impact to your children. I believe that as long as you guide yourself in place, children will not have any idea about their position, and as long as their parents truly love themselves, they will not be affected by divorce.

No, because your life is your own, don't compromise for anyone, including your children.

No, in this case, you should take custody into your own hands, so as to provide a better life for your children.

It shouldn't be, everyone's life is their own, and we don't need to wronged ourselves for others, including our own children.

Legal Analysis: If you divorce now and then remarry, it will actually have no impact on your children's schooling in the future. If you divorce and then remarry, it's just an emotional dispute between you and your husband.

This is a matter between the two of you, and it has nothing to do with your children, and it will not have any impact on his school status or his stuffy schooling and employment. This is completely non-existent, and you don't need to pay much attention to this.

Legal basis: Civil Code of the People's Republic of China

Article 1084:The relationship between parents and children is not extinguished by the divorce of the parents. After divorce, the children are still the children of both parents, regardless of whether they are raised directly by the father or mother. After the divorce, parents still have the right and obligation to raise their children in Fuzhou, educate and protect them.

In the event of a divorce, children under the age of two shall be raised directly by their mothers. For children who have reached the age of two, and the parents fail to reach an agreement on the issue of custody, the People's Court shall make a judgment based on the specific circumstances of both parties and in accordance with the principle of the best interests of the minor child. Where children have reached the age of 8, their true wishes shall be respected.

Article 1085:After divorce, where children are directly raised by one party, the other party shall bear part or all of the child support. The amount of the cost to be borne and the length of the period shall be agreed upon by both parties; If the agreement is not reached, the people's court shall make a judgment. The agreement or judgment provided for in the preceding paragraph does not prevent the child from making a reasonable demand to either parent in excess of the amount originally set forth in the agreement or judgment when necessary.

Article 1086:After a divorce, the parent who does not directly raise the children has the right to visit the children, and the other party has the obligation to assist.

The method and time for exercising visitation rights are to be agreed upon by the parties; If the agreement is not reached, the people's court shall make a judgment.

Where a parent's visit to a child is detrimental to the child's physical and psychological health, the people's court is to suspend the visit in accordance with law; Visits shall be resumed after the reason for the suspension has disappeared.

Husbands and wives divorce and remarry, a large part of the reason is because the children do not get enough maternal and fatherly love, and later choose to remarry. Among them, I am no exception.

My husband used to be a bigoted, moody, and self-centered person. Usually, he has the final say in big and small things at home, and when it doesn't go well, he loses his temper.

I remember one time, I went to a class reunion and didn't come back until about ten o'clock in the evening. When my husband saw that I came back so late, he locked the door in a fit of rage. I couldn't get into the house, so I had to spend the night in a hotel.

When I got home the next day, I thought it was over, and it would be difficult to deal with him. I didn't expect him to find fault with his filial piety, saying what happened to me outside? I couldn't bear it anymore and had a big fight with him.

In a fit of rage, we went to the Civil Affairs Bureau to go through the divorce procedures. Considering my financial situation, my son lives with him.

In the blink of an eye, my son will be in junior high school. Because of our divorce, our children's academic performance plummeted. Every time I go to school, I skip school, either go to the game room to play games, or mingle with the thugs in society, smoking, drinking, stealing chickens and dogs, and learning everything.

Seeing that the child is not learning well day by day, my husband is anxious. He called me and asked me to have a good talk with my son and educate the child. One weekend, I took a little time out and went home to see the kids.

I advise my children to study well and not skip school. But my son took my words as a deaf ear and told me directly that there was no home, and many classmates looked down on me, saying that I was a child without a mother, and what was the use of me studying well. After listening to my son's words, I had mixed feelings in my heart, and I always felt that I couldn't stand the child.

After the passage of time and the baptism of life, my husband seems to have realized his shortcomings after a long period of reflection. When my child was in his second year of junior high school, my husband asked my good friend Meizi to intercede, and for the sake of my son, I asked me to remarry him. said that he would live a good life with me after remarriage, and he would definitely get rid of his previous temper short-tempered, negotiate well in case of trouble, and not lose his temper and be cautious.

After listening to Meizi's words, I thought about it and felt that I was also responsible for the reason for our divorce. Emotional, hot, not considering the feelings of others, etc. For the sake of my child's future, I agreed to remarry.

After remarriage, my husband seems to be a different person, every day my husband gets up early to prepare meals for us, and he also rushes to do housework. If there are any activities in our unit, class reunions or something, I am very relieved that I will participate, and I don't doubt this or that; The child's grades are also gradually improving.

I feel more and more that after remarriage, our relationship is much better than before, and we must cherish it in the future and give our children a complete home. Whether the husband and wife are divorced or remarried, we must think twice before taking this step and consider what impact it will have on our children. I believe that we can't just live for ourselves, sometimes we also have to take the overall situation into account.

Let's talk about the disadvantages first.

First, the broken mirror cannot be reunited.

If two people choose to divorce because of something in their married life, there must be something wrong with their relationship. But if two people remarry because of their children, the gap in the relationship cannot be repaired, which means that the broken mirror cannot be reunited. Even if the two remarry, the relationship between the two will not return to the past.

2. Improvisation is not life.

In fact, divorced couples, if they choose to remarry because of their children, the feelings between the two people will not be repentant and get the same as before, that is to say, the two people are living together. It's just that because of the bond of children, such a relationship between husband and wife will not be very good. Therefore, in such a life, two people cannot live well together, and of course, the family environment for children will not be very good.

This kind of improvising life is not the life that everyone wants at all.

3. Children will not be happy.

In addition, if two people live together improvisedly, the relationship between husband and wife will not be so harmonious, and the whole family environment will not be warm and happy. In such an environment, in fact, the child will not be happy, and when the child grows up, his heart may change because of such a family environment. It is extremely detrimental to the growth of children, and children cannot experience the happiness of the family.

So, if a couple divorces and then remarries because of their children, if it were a different thing, I don't think I would do that. When two people are separated, there must be irreconcilable contradictions, and if they choose to remarry, another irreconcilable situation may appear, which is a kind of torture for each other and extremely detrimental to the growth of children. Of course, everyone thinks differently.