What to do if you can t stand on your own, and how to stand on your own

It's already a block of years, you should have your own ideas and talk to your father like an adult. You say that you need to build good social relationships, you need to have your own financial foundation for relationships, and if you are in a relationship, you also need to have expenses. As for the salary, you talk to the employer, get a new salary card by yourself, and go to the financial declaration to replace it.

Also, your financial management is really not good, how can there be a reason to work hard and spend hard? Maybe your father also thinks that your hands are too loose and can't save money to care about you. To tell the truth, the money of your parents' old age is also yours in the end, and you should be considerate of those who are busy with your work.

Say no to useless socializing. Have a plan for your life, and consider not squandering your money, buy some household or plan to save some money every month for emergency use.

There are many ways, I don't know which one he is suitable for: 1. Give him some money and let him go to the stall to experience the hardships of life and making money by himself. 2. Enroll in an interest training class, let him learn to know and make some self-motivated classmates or friends in the organization, and change the existing psychological state.

3. Find a job in an acquaintance's (non-close relative) unit, let the acquaintance practice well, and control his economic expenses. 4. It's really impossible to take him to a psychiatrist to have a look and enlighten him.

When it comes to "standing", it means standing. What is the foundation of life, work.

In today's society, everything needs to be skillful. The landlord is learning something, so he tries to find a job. If you don't have a job in your major, find someone else you can be qualified for. I used to be a recruitment network, sending thousands of resumes every day. There are always opportunities for interviews.

Once you have a job and a stable income, you can plan your life.

You can find a job depending on your major.

It's just that you yourself don't know what to do yet! I don't know what I want to do! Is the family in good condition? If the family conditions are very good, then you can completely eat and wait for death, if the family conditions are average! Then you just wait to die!

Dependence is a habit of behavior. Sometimes it's because the people around you are really strong, and their judgment is more accurate, so when you encounter a problem, you will subconsciously want them to take the main direction and guide the direction, so as to gain a sense of security. This is born out of a lack of confidence in yourself.

There are many ways to be self-reliant, such as:

1. When you encounter a problem, think of the solution first, and then compare and refer to their opinions. If they are good, they will learn from it, and if they are all about the same, they will praise themselves more, so that they will slowly cultivate their self-confidence, and they will slowly become self-reliant.

2. Increase contact with people with positive emotional tendencies (optimistic, confident, and cheerful), so as to learn from them how to look at problems positively, so as to slowly build self-confidence.

3. Look at people who are not as good as you. The best way to say it is to compare your own strengths with the weaknesses of others to build self-confidence, and to put it mildly is to "build your own happiness on the pain of others". But whatever you say is:

The world is big, and there are many more people than you. They can all live happily and well, why can't you? You are ...... in terms of behavior, intelligence, physical ability, or emotional intelligenceThere will always be people who are much better than them, so what else do you have to be unconfident about?

No matter what method you use, don't expect to eat a fat man in one bite, anyone's self-reliance is built little by little. Sudden self-reliance is not nothing, but it is based on a huge blow, and those who survive will stand on their own, and those who do not survive will completely lie down. So, don't be in a hurry, think more about your strengths and strengths; Socialize with cheerful, happy people; Learn more from others' strengths; Think before and summarize everything you do, so that you will stand on the platform built by ability and self-confidence to show your self-reliance.

It is enough to be able to legally and stably earn money to support yourself and your own small family.

Self-reliance means being able to be independent, as long as you don't rely on others.

First of all, recognize the concept of self-reliance:1Know how to manage and arrange your own study and life2Leave your parents to protect and live independently.

3.Create a life on your own.

With your current strength, you can only do the first two.

How can you be self-reliant?

1.Know how to manage and organize your own study and life.

2.Overcome dependency.

3.Develop self-confidence and believe that you can handle things in life and study4Dare to try to be self-reliant.

5.Learn from role models and consciously socialize with classmates who are more independent.

Learn to think independently, be more assertive, and rely less on others to do things. This is not something that can be learned in a while.

Self-reliance in the sense of life is, in a nutshell:

1. Build on the foundation of a solid career and have a higher level of complete self-behavior.

2. Relying on the specific living space of the real society, it has a wider range of complete self-behavior capabilities.

3. To follow the scope provided by the law and to have a more characteristic capacity for full self-conduct.

Under this general principle, self-reliance will also involve many specific categories such as self-reliance in life, economic self-reliance, and self-reliance in work, but the core point that can test whether self-reliance is "self-reliance".

I remember reading a ** book, and there was a story on it that touched me the most, which was roughly as follows: A child found a chrysalis in the grass and he brought it home. After a few days, a crack appeared on the chrysalis, and the butterfly inside struggled for hours, and the body seemed to be stuck and could not get out.

The child couldn't bear to look at it, so he picked up scissors to cut the chrysalis shell and help the butterfly chrysalis come out. But the butterfly was bloated and its wings were shriveled, and it could not fly at all, and soon died.

But why is this happening? There is only one reason, that is, the butterfly does not rely on its own strength, but relies on the help of others to pupate. If you can't live in the world without being self-reliant, what is self-reliance?

The so-called self-reliance refers to the ability of people to live independently, not relying on others, but relying on their own labor to take care of their own life. At the same time, self-reliance is also a kind of ideological expression, independent thinking, independent decision-making, and not relying on elders and others. is like a sentence that Zheng Banqiao wrote to his son before he died:

Sweat your own sweat, eat your own food, do your own things, rely on heaven, people, and ancestors, and you are not a hero. He meant that his son should be a self-reliant man. It is not like the vines that climb on the fence wall, they are branching out, colluding with each other, climbing up with all their might, forming a net, forming a wall.

Looks unbreakable and indestructible. In fact, if it didn't have a scaffold to climb, would it be able to stand up with its slender and long body? Therefore, in the eyes of people, it is just a rattan used to weave fences, and it cannot be made into a large timber, and once the bracket falls, the rattan is immediately swept away.

On the contrary, green pine is favored by the world because of its independence.

In our country, there are very few young people who can stand on their own feet, perhaps this is related to China's thousands of years of living habits. People are always accustomed to having food to eat, a house to live in, and clothes to wear. The children guarded their parents, and even developed to rely on the "relationship network" woven by their parents to climb up.

As the saying goes: people fight for a breath, and the Buddha is a pillar of incense. Only by striving for this breath can we reflect the value of people.

In foreign countries, especially in some developed capitalist countries, self-reliance has become an unquestionable law. As long as the children reach the age of 18, they consciously leave their parents and go out to find their own jobs, and no matter how bad their living conditions are, they will not return to their original families, and they regard it as a shame to leave home and come back.

Today, with the reform and opening up, the development of self-reliance has become a trend. As young people in the new century, we should be independent green pines, not rattan pines.

As I said earlier, butterflies also need to be self-reliant during the period before they emerge from the pupae, and after the "cruel" ordeal, they can fly to the blue sky with hard wings. However, the child went to "help" the butterfly to pupate before it could survive on its own, so that the butterfly could not "achieve positive results" in the tribulation of pupation, and finally died at the hands of the "good Samaritan" who helped him grow.

In short, it is a sentence: the melon is ripe and the water is natural, and the butterfly must struggle in pain in the chrysalis until its wings are strong before it breaks out of the chrysalis.