I grew up with my grandmother but I like my grandmother more, what are the reasons?

Maybe it's because I don't see my grandma for a long time, or because I don't remember things when I was a child, time and distance will be affected, and maybe grandparents love their children more.

The main reason is that the child does not remember, there is a problem with the way grandparents love him, there is a problem with his parents, and there is a language tease in the neighborhood.

Many grandmothers are "forced" to take the baby, which is not their original intention. Grandma treats the child as an outsider. Grandparents pamper their children more. In addition to the necessary blood ties, it is more for educational reasons.

It may be that grandma is stricter with children, and grandma is more gentle with children, grandma can meet some of the needs of children, parents do not play a guiding role, grandma will also say bad things about grandma in front of children, so it will cause children to like grandma more.

This is because for children, they have a blood relationship with their grandmother, so it is a feeling of continuity, and even if they grow up with their grandmother, they will be closer to their grandmother.

It may be that grandma treats him better, spends money on him, doesn't scold him, doesn't beat him, and relies on him for everything, so he will be closer to grandma.

Text|Wen'er. My friend grew up in his grandmother's house when he was a child, and it stands to reason that whoever grew up would be closer to whom, but my friend returned to his parents since he was in elementary school, and went to his grandparents during the New Year's holidays, but he became closer to his grandparents. Friends said that their mothers were cold for their grandmothers, and that they were a "white-eyed wolf" in Pei Biyin, but she really didn't remember the previous things clearly.

It's not just my friends who have this experience, but many children grow up like this. It's no wonder that now grandmothers bring children to their daughters, and they often say "It's useless to treat you as a parent, and you will forget me when you grow up." So why do children who have been brought up by their grandmothers grow up to have a feast with their grandparents?

There are several reasons for this, and just looking at the first one makes people very emotional.

Grandpa's own attitude made the grandsonThe granddaughter has no sense of belonging

My grandmother upstairs has been bringing her grandson to her daughter's house for three years, and sometimes I meet her in the corridor, and I will always hear her say to her grandson, "Go to your grandparents, no matter how good you are, you don't have my surname", sometimes jokingly, sometimes when the child is disobedient, anyway, I always hear her say this to her grandson.

In fact, I understood the meaning of her words, she was obviously afraid that her grandson would grow up and forget about her. But the child can only listen to straightforward words, and can't hear the meaning of her words, and really thinks that his grandmother doesn't care about him, and his relatives are grandparents.

Those children who grew up in their grandmother's house will inevitably hear such words when they are naughty, "If you don't obey, go back to your house to find your grandparents", which means that this is not your home, and the child naturally has no sense of belonging. It can be said that it was the grandparents themselves who pushed their grandchildren or granddaughters to their grandparents.

First of all, the ideas of the older generation still have a great influence on children.

For example, some families will think that grandma is their own family, and grandma is someone else, mother's maiden family, which may lead to a much closer relationship between the child and grandma than the relationship with grandma. If a child grows up in this environment often, then it is logical that he will feel closer to his grandmother than he is to his grandmother.

Secondly, the mentality of grandma with a baby and grandma with a baby is also different.

Grandma takes care of her children more importantly and spoils her daughter, so she can help her daughter educate her children culturally and become a child who makes her mother very trouble-free. But grandma is different, grandma is used to grandchildren. This is my grandson, I don't have a big housekeeper child bullying and bullying you, anyway, I have to get used to him, whatever I want to eat, what I want to wear, what I want to play, I have to satisfy him, because he is my own grandson.

If you think about it, children don't have resolution, if you completely stand on my interests, then you are my closest person, if you and my point of view are upside down, often like my mother to control me, then I want to think about it, is it you and I are one side of the people.

In the end, it is the child who feels favored.

If the child is in a thoroughly pampered environment, then he will pick these old people who love it, and some children will be in an environment of long-term sexual rights, then he will be more intimate and fond of those who are more beneficial to him. It is not difficult to see that the child's different teaching style is also very important for his harm, and the child will also realize whether it is a preference or an axial force.

If the child's grandmother loves her grandson better and neglects the girl's grandson, you say that the grandson is likely to be more inclined to the grandmother than to take his grandmother every day.

Therefore, those grandmothers who have never worn their grandchildren in the early days, and watch the children finally be "harvested" by their grandmothers, and don't be too unbalanced in their hearts. Don't simply think that this is a child, without a conscience. In fact, whether it is a grandmother with a child or a grandmother with a child, the purpose is to continue and carry forward.

Because grandma will always say that grandma's house is not your home, grandma's house is your hometown, don't rely on outsiders' homes.

I think maybe grandma has higher emotional intelligence and understands children better, so she sees some things more transparently and supports children more, so children will prefer people who understand him.

As the saying goes, blood is thicker than water, and generally speaking, grandchildren are closer to grandma because they are all family.

I know, because grandma sets some rules for the child and will not completely spoil the child, while grandma will spoil the child unconditionally, and the child is too young for them to understand.

Know. Because children often don't see their grandmothers, and grandmothers are more strict with their children and are not as pampered as grandma, they are reluctant to be close to grandma.

Because the child spends most of his time at his grandmother's house, he spends a long time with his grandmother, but he usually goes back to his grandmother's house and is not as close to his grandmother as long as he is during the holidays.

I don't know, because of the personality of each child and the elders, there are some grandmothers who have a better relationship with their children, and there is no specific limit to this.