Why do you feel that your grandchildren have grown up and become less affectionate towards your gran

Grandparents are more spoiled and will not be strict with children, which is not conducive to the development of good study habits and living habits for children. When children give him money, they are reluctant to use it themselves, and often use it on their grandchildren. We can see that many grandparents bring up children who return to their parents when they grow up, showing a sense of alienation from their parents, and their parents are not close to their parents no matter how they compensate, just because you are not by his side when he needs his parents the most, and he can't catch your hand when he is most helpless.

If conditions permit, of course, it is taken by the parents. Now the birth of a child in the family has broken the original family order, and the young couple needs to continue to work hard and make money to support the family, so they have to ask the elderly to come over to help take care of the children. It is said that there is an old man in the family, if there is a treasure, the old man helps to watch the children, and they all say that the next generation is pro-generational, and the grandparents especially love the little grandson (female), and they are afraid of touching and falling, and they can't wait to be tied to the waistband of their trousers.

Moreover, it was also a collision with the child, so I paid special attention to the protection of the child. This kind of child who grows up pampered by grandparents has poor independence.

The left-behind elderly, raising children, but also continue to raise the third generation, the busy farming season, the elderly are the main labor, the children of migrant workers in the city, there is no such thing as farm leave. The elderly take a rural pension of dozens of yuan, which is better than nothing, and the cheap things hurt the peasants, and the old age can only be pinned on the children who work outside. The old man takes his grandson, first of all, he sticks together all day long to understand his grandson, so he knows how to correct the child's shortcomings and guide the grandson to develop in the right direction, and secondly, the current grandparents have a certain amount of knowledge, and can infiltrate the knowledge into the child in daily love, imperceptibly, and the amount of information.

Grandparents look at their grandchildren, have time to play with their children, and the elderly have enough experience, after all, they have brought up their children from practice, but the conditions were poor at that time, but they played a great role in the growth of their grandchildren.

This is because grandparents love their grandchildren's children very much, and they are not willing to let their children be wronged, so they spoil these children very much, and grandparents also want to give the best to their children.

Because this is the next generation, who was poor before and could not afford to give good to their children, but now that they are rich, they give it all to their grandchildren.

Because grandparents are very old, they like children very much, so they will be pampered unconsciously.

Because grandparents are very lonely when they are old, and their children are busy, they especially like children and can make them happy.

Because there are no requirements for children, and there is no need to bear the responsibility of raising him crookedly, after all, it is not to provide for oneself in old age.

Text: Li Muzi was born in the month.

I don't know if you feel it, grandma seems to like the eldest grandson more.

I have the impression that the relationship between my grandmother and my Tanshen family is very tense, especially with my mother, but she loves my brother (eldest grandson) very much.

When I was a child, I would often take my brother to the market, and my brother and I would cry so much that they wouldn't take us there. If you buy something delicious, you will only give it to my brother to eat, and you won't think of us at all.

When I was a child, I didn't understand that they were all grandchildren, why was there such a big difference in treatment?

And every time my mother-in-law comes back, the first thing she does is to find her eldest grandson, hug her, and kiss her before she goes to do other things.

After having Erbao, it is even more obvious that my mother-in-law loves Dabao more. This time I went back to my parents' house for a few days, and my mother-in-law called ** or sent ** to ask her eldest grandson about filial piety, worried that the eldest grandson would not eat or sleep well, and seemed to forget that there was a little grandson in swaddling clothes.

Is it because Dabao is the eldest son and eldest grandson, the first of the next generation, and it is more precious? Or is it because they have been together for a longer time and have a deeper relationship?

But this doesn't quite explain the reason why grandma likes her eldest grandson!

My two little nephews are twins, and the difference between birth is only two minutes, but the time difference between these two minutes makes me feel that my eldest nephew is more favored.

The little nephews grew up together since they were children, and they spent the same amount of time with their grandparents, so why do they still love their eldest grandchildren?

My sister-in-law joked that it was probably because the eldest grandson had an important role.

In the countryside, when the old man in the family dies, the eldest grandson has to pick up the white sail and walk in front of the funeral procession.

I just laughed after listening to it, because this reason is even more unreliable, but what is the reason why these grandmothers like their eldest grandson?

Grandma generally likes big grandchildren.

The elderly think that their grandchildren belong to their own family, which is the inherent idea and concept of many elders, and the most direct embodiment of this concept is in spending money for their grandchildren. When a grandson wants to buy something or needs something, but his parents refuse to buy it or give it to him, the elders will come out and make the decision.

Because of their affection for their grandchildren, the elderly will buy the things that their grandchildren need, or they will complain that their parents are too strict with their children.

Grandma's love for her grandson's performance:

1. Take the initiative to take care of your children.

In fact, whether it hurts the child or not, it can be seen from the action that after all, only when there is a heart is willing to take action. Some elderly people may not like to talk, but since they have grandchildren, they have been around their children all day long. Moreover, they will also love the house and the house, and take special care of their daughter-in-law during the confinement period, not only taking the initiative to help take care of the children, but also taking on other housework and cooking favorite meals for their daughter-in-law.

2. Think about your children in everything.

Although many old people are not with their children, they will also think about their children, and they will have to play ** to see their children every once in a while, talk to their children, and they will think of their children when they encounter any good things and rare items.

Keep it for them, and when the child comes, you can't wait to give it to the child. In fact, to love someone is to think about her in everything and want to give him the best.

"Most grandmothers like their grandchildren. As for the words of the young son, as for the grandson. Unless there are no grandchildren. will like grandchildren. ”

In the past, people said that "the next generation of relatives, connected tendons", although the grandparents and grandchildren are separated by a generation of blood relationship, but this does not prevent the intimate relationship between grandparents and grandchildren. Many families will have a similar situation, but the degree of intimacy is different, so let's talk about the intergenerational relatives you have seen, how close can they be?

The first thing: the grandparents at home love their grandchildren very much, sometimes the children do something wrong, as parents we must educate them well. As a result, we didn't say a word, and the grandparents stood up to defend the child first, saying what "the child is still young, you have to teach it slowly, what is it that you beat the child" Yunyun, who originally wanted to educate the child, but he didn't expect to be educated first.

The second thing: Some grandparents love their grandchildren, they do their best to meet their grandchildren's requirements, as long as the children want, they will find a way to get them out. Especially when it comes to spending money on children, you may spend a few hundred yuan, but you can spend thousands or even tens of thousands of dollars on your grandchildren.

The third thing: intergenerational parenting is not only reflected in the grandparents' treatment of the children, but we can also see the "difference between the two generations" in the children. The child is very well-behaved in front of his grandparents, and his filial appearance is touching, and when he arrives at his parents, he is all kinds of rebellious and naughty, obviously the little padded jacket of his parents, but now he has warmed the knees of his grandparents.

In many families, some children get along well with their grandparents, and some have an unfamiliar relationship, in the final analysis, the emergence of intergenerational parents lies in the two-way emotional feedback between children and their grandparents. A child's mind is very simple, and whoever is good to him at home, he is more willing to be close to whom.

First, the generation of grandparents and parents is indispensable for friction and quarrels, although they still love each other, there will always be some sense of restraint and boundaries, which is inevitable for adults. There is almost no such problem for grandchildren, and the child's innocence is itself a little less guarded.

Second, grandparents came from their parents when they were young, and they would have more or less regrets for their children when they were parents, and they would feed back to their grandchildren at this time, making up for their love for their children's parents in disguise.

Third, twilight is a kind of yearning for the vigor and vigor.