How to build strong connections

Don't be stingy, face it with a smile, and help if you can.

There is a method for building interpersonal relationships, and the most important law in interpersonal relationships in psychology is:

1. The law: how you want others to treat you, you first treat others.

Why is it the law of **, which tells us that like ** is eternal and unchanging.

That is, to compare your heart with your heart, so that others can feel your sincerity. It's like the advertising slogan:

Think first: Hello can be good to me; You're not good, I'm okay!

2. The law of reciprocity: If you want to make a good impression on others, you must first have a good feeling for others.

Someone asked me, what if I don't have a good feeling for him, but I have to face him?

That's just the use of "pretending": pretending that you have a crush on him! Pretend he's ready to give you a million and believe that your feelings will change 180 degrees right away.

3. Enhance the self-worth of others: make the other person feel important!

1) Start with a friendly attitude.

2) The best way to do this is to be sincere affirmation, affirmation, affirmation!! Please read it out loud! Sincere compliments, compliments, compliments!! Please read it out loud! ）

3) Three nos: no criticism, no blame, no complaints!!

4. Remember the other person's name: For him, the best voice in the world is his name.

When Li Ka-shing was a waiter in a restaurant when he was young, he used a notebook to write down the names of customers, their favorite dim sum or dishes they often ordered, and the habits of their seats. Memorize it several times after making a note of it.

5. Talk more about topics that the other party is interested in: focus on the other party's interests, there is a saying:

The words are not speculative, more than half a sentence. We have a generation gap with our parents and children, and that gap is dug by us, because the conversation must be a gap between each other's different topics of concern! Produce a reluctance to talk!

In short, this is what the saying goes, "When you see people, you talk about people, and when you see children, you talk about children." ”

6. Respect the opinions of others

I used to have a student come to my house, no matter what I said? He's all: Yes! Teacher Dai, what you said makes sense! No matter what I say? He's right: That's right! Teacher Dai, what you said makes sense!

Later, I felt that what he said made sense!

You respect me, and naturally I respect you!

Respect, respect, respect!! Please read it out loud! ）

7. Think more about the other party's position

1) What do others really want?

2) If you do what you want, what will be the benefit of the other party?

8. Attention should be paid to communication:

1) Ask more: Talk less, understand each other more, and ask more questions, which can also represent our concern for each other.

2) Listen more: Learn more about the meaning and motivation behind the other person's words.

3) Look more: Look more at the meaning of the other person's facial expressions and body language.

4) Sincerely show praise, appreciation and gratitude to each other!

5) Think about it again!