How to maintain a good mood at all times and eliminate social fear?

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Friends, we still have a lot of difficulties and obstacles on the road ahead, there are friends, brothers, relatives, wives, etc., and so many well-wishers, fall and get up again, laugh, that's experience, people's success is not to never wrestle, but to be able to get up after every fall, dare to face it, to see the good side of the world, very beautiful, remember to make more friends on the road, but you must pay attention to the number, you can't cope with it yourself, pay attention to the number of friends, spend more time to make one or two real friends Then they can help you answer, and you don't need to ask here, if the book is inspirational, it is recommended to look at Bill Gates, Li Ka-shing, etc., I forgot the name of the book, you go and watch it on the Internet yourself, I hope it will help you.

I want to say that I used to be the same, so I feel the same way.

1) Accept yourself and build self-confidence Many people who are socially stressed are caused by not accepting themselves and not being confident in themselves. Therefore, in order to change, we must first accept and accept ourselves in our hearts, and build up confidence in ourselves. (2) Don't be too demanding of yourself...

If you pursue perfection too much and demand too much from yourself, you will easily suffer from gains and losses, care too much about what others think of you, and want to be recognized by others, thus losing yourself. Accept yourself as you are, don't care what others think, the more you fear of making mistakes, the more you will feel helpless. .

3) Don't pay too much attention to your body's reactions...Nervousness is always accompanied by a series of physiological discomforts, according to the "reinforcement theory", if we pay too much attention to the nervous response of certain parts of our body when we are nervous, it is equivalent to reinforcing our nervous behavior, making it worse step by step. And when we don't care about our nervous reactions, the nervous reactions will gradually subside over time because the tension is not noticed and reinforced.

4) Be brave enough to face people who are nervous, in social situations, often show avoidance, fearing that they will make a fool of themselves and do not face it. Actually, yourself! "The key is to see if you can overcome yourself and take the first step bravely!

Be brave and face it! With the above understanding, combined with some psychological principles and methods, we can put change into action.

Hope. thank.

Some literary works like "The Story of a Small Window" and some talk programs, I don't know if you like it or not. I hope to broaden your horizons and relax your mind. Chatting with friends can also relax, it is not easy to excel in a field, it is not something that can be done overnight, you must pay attention to the opportunities to learn, and prepare for learning at all times, so that you will not have time to worry.

You really miss my lesbian table, she studies all day long (at least she doesn't take notes, she doesn't sleep when I sleep in class, but my grades are better than her), sometimes lazy, whenever I have time, I say that my future is confused, that society is complex and terrible, and that it is better to die. I told her that society is not complicated, and that everything has a pattern. The war will not start suddenly, ** is not everywhere, the unspoken rules will only appear when you join some places, the darkness of society will not swallow you up all at once, the important thing is your own mentality, don't worry about the sky, the current is the key to do a good job, it is not to ask you to be the first, your IQ is just an ordinary person, since you have done something wrong, find a way to change, instead of being willing to suffer to continue, everything has a first time, let go of your footsteps to go out.

Harvard Psychology. You can learn a lot, a lot of little truths.

Think about the good things, or put yourself in their shoes.

Don't get by, but be content and happy. Life should be full of sunshine and say it to yourself 10 times a day.

Take your time, the years will naturally hone you, don't worry.

100 9 Degrees 9 Search Society 9 Society 9 Vertical 9 Horizontal 9 Learning (9 deleted) This book is very profound in its analysis of human nature, and I believe that when you know the depths of your heart, your fear will be eliminated.

There is a power called calmness, which is okay.

Fear of the unknown and growing in the bottom of the heart is human nature. Some people are afraid of ghosts, some people are afraid of pain, some people are afraid of speaking in public, and so on, and so on, and so on......, and so on, and so onThe following is a detailed list of ways to ease fear, I hope it will be helpful to you! 1. Have the courage to face the unknown.

Why do you feel fear? Because people do not understand the unknown, will be prone to nervousness, in the final analysis, or because of the limitations of our own knowledge, which requires us to continue to broaden our horizons, understand the unknown, as the so-called "live to learn", the more you learn, the more you understand, you will understand that the so-called "fear of the unknown" is because of their own limitations. 2. Make yourself stronger.

Since ancient times, the weak have been subordinated to the strong, and the strong have enough strength, and it is also important to overcome fear. You feel scared because you perceive your weakness from the bottom of your heart, maybe on the surface you don't realize it, or don't dare to disdain to admit it, but undeniably, powerful. People are more secure than weaker people, and they are more courageous in the face of fear.

3. Divert attention. When you are afraid, you tend to concentrate and your nerves become tense, causing you to feel uneasy and fearful, so try to divert your attention. If you can, you can try to watch movies and TV series, remember to choose the ones that are easy and hilarious, or you can listen to **, choose your favorite singers, listen to soothing tunes, and imagine that the person in your heart is smiling at you.

Of course, you can also choose to look out the window at the scenery and study the fall of a flower, and if that is not possible, stare at a wall and imagine its history, from the original bricks to the ...... of the current white wallIn short, it's about ignoring the things that are fearing you and distracting you. 4. Anticipate the worst-case outcome and estimate your tolerance. Generally speaking, we feel fear, and in the final analysis, it is because we are afraid of the consequences of the unknown.

If we can anticipate the worst possible outcome of the unknown and estimate our tolerance, then think about it, we wouldn't be so scary, would we? 5. The personality has become more cheerful. There is a saying called "the country is easy to change and the nature is difficult to change", changing the personality is a more difficult thing, here is not to ask you to distort your own character, overnight, but on the basis of the original personality a little more cheerful, try to accept and yourself have like-minded friends, then you will find that you have endless topics.

In short, friends make people more optimistic and less fearful.