After four years of love, should I break up? Give some advice! 50

Don't divide it, you won't be able to let go of her in your heart, because you still like her, 4 years of relationship, it's not that you can let it go. You said that when you are together, you feel like your relatives because you know each other too well, do you think it is better to marry someone who knows each other, or marry someone who doesn't know each other? If it were me, I wouldn't let it go, after all, a relationship is not easy to manage for 4 years.

Be cherished

Psychologically speaking, love is controlled by dopamine, and the secretion of dopamine gives rise to love. But dopamine maintains a love shelf life of only three years. After three years, you either broke up or became a family relationship, are you family now?

If yes, then get married. If not, then seriously consider whether you really want to be together, maybe you were together in the first place just because you were used to being in each other's lives. Maybe you are subconsciously unwilling to marry your current girlfriend, thinking that there is a better one ahead, in fact, ask your own heart, whether your girlfriend is a chicken rib, staying, unwilling, throwing, and even more unwilling.

You can't break up, marriage is the best way to solve the problems between you, once you separate, you will regret it, you will miss it, sometimes you don't know how to cherish it when you get it, and you don't know how valuable it is after you lose it.

It's not easy to meet someone who really loves you In the vast sea of people, you have been holding hands for 4 years.

And both parents have met When you really separate, that kind of overwhelming memories will swallow you I advise you to think about it Which couple will have this kind of confusion at this time Slowly run in There are more fresh changes in yourself I believe you will see that you still love each other.

What you are facing is a small problem, and it is not a big deal, after a long time, it is good to run in, it is not easy to break up after four years, it is easy to break up, and it is easy to regret it!

Uh: That's right.

Doesn't it mean that a boy has love once in his life?

I think you're going to be rational

Because after being together for so long, there must be feelings

Aren't you in love, then it proves that you have loved.

Wait until you change to another girl

I think you'll regret it

Because you're still going to miss the old one, and even if you're looking for a new girlfriend.

You're going to spend more time together, and you're going to say that you don't love her anymore, are you going to keep going like this?

So my suggestion is not to divide

Now you don't feel new

Let's go on a trip

When you come back, you will feel that there are many good things about her that you have not discovered, and don't break up easily

Good luck

You don't love her, it looks like you didn't love her in the first place!

After four years, you've all become attached to each other.

You must be reluctant to give up her, after all, you have been together for so long!

But I advise you to go away!

Don't break up, or you'll regret it! I won't tell you why!

Not divided. It's not easy to be together for four years.

To get married is to be tolerant of each other.

Slowly run in and run in, and get together well.

When love reaches a certain point, it will slowly turn into family affection.

If a man is responsible for the woman, and he is afraid of this and that, what should the woman do?

Get married as soon as possible, only by living together, you will know that you love her, after all, you have been in love for four years, and you have to be responsible for others.

You sort out your thoughts and don't say what your problem is.

It is human nature to like the new and hate the old.

When you leave her, you will know what is good about her.

I think both sides are very painful, it's really hard to compare, because couples who have been in love for more than four years can be said to be half a couple, but in the end they didn't enter the palace of marriage, they didn't go to the end, the past vows have come to naught, and what is left in the end is only painful memories, from this point of view, it can be said that both parties are very painful, because no matter who proposes to break up, being able to get along for four years has proven from time that they love each other deeply, no matter what the factor is, I think, The final outcome of such a breakup will undoubtedly hurt the other party a lot, and I really can't compare who is more painful, because it is very painful, which is also a kind of helplessness of love.

Love is so helpless, two people who love each other so much eventually lose to reality, it can be said that the final result is also lost to reality, some people will say that it must be the one who takes the initiative to break up is more painful, but sometimes the one who takes the initiative to cry is more sad. Some people will say that it must be girls who are more painful, but sometimes boys have nowhere to vent their depression after falling out of love, and they are often depressed for half a year, and there are always so many infatuated people, so really, I can only say that this matter is a painful thing, and both parties will bear it.

So if you really want to choose to break up, please break up peacefully, why are so many people so easy to tear their faces when they break up now, after all, they once loved so deeply, isn't it a very strange thing to hurt the person they once loved the most and the person who used to love them the most? Since you have loved once, if you really want to break up, please be tactful, please leave the last self-esteem, go and hug and comfort the person you love the most, and tell him not to be too sad.

I think women will be more painful. Women like duplicity, and the more calm they look on the surface, the less calm they are on the inside. After the breakup, they may hide in a corner and cry secretly, because she doesn't want you to see her worst side.

Men are the opposite, they may have been more painful for a few days after their breakup, but after a long time, they gradually forget. And it's easier for them to come out of a breakup, so it's easier to start a new relationship. Do you say it's a flower heart, I don't think so, this is their nature, they don't need to learn.

On the other hand, what four years together means to a woman, they have a couple of those good four years to splurge. In the past four years, maybe she is in the prime of her youth, and you are young and ignorant. When two people are together, one of them is destined to be harmed, and women are inevitably from this catastrophe after all.

Thirty-year-old men are mature and stable and have successful careers, while thirty-year-old women have begun to decline, and their four years may be as good as your ten years. After the breakup, she began to worry about her future, and after letting go of your hand, they had to learn to walk on their own. Don't you say they suffer more than you?

So if you really love her, please cherish her. If you don't love her, stay away from her.

There is no such thing as an absolute party. The same emotion is valued differently by both men and women, and the more persistent and committed the person is, the more he cannot let go, and the more painful he is when he breaks up. The degree of dedication between men and women is different between different couples, so it is difficult to conclude that most girls are more sad.

In terms of despair, women are not necessarily better than men) If you have been in love for many years and finally can't go on because you realize that each other's temperament is not in harmony (not external reasons), then there is nothing to regret about breaking up (now facing a breakup, which undoubtedly shows that the initial relationship has too much blindness), giving each other more choices, choosing to let go for love, and being okay with each other is undoubtedly a wise approach.

I think the person who was broken up was more painful because he didn't necessarily accept the fact.

I think it's painful for both parties, after all, after four years together, you will feel very unaccustomed and reluctant to be separated all of a sudden.

For example, my girlfriend and I have been together for four years, and then separated, my heart is very painful, after all, we have been together for so long, we have feelings, and I am a little reluctant to lose, and I am depressed for a long time, and I can't cheer up.

Hello, if a relationship for such a long time ends, the teacher can imagine that it must be a very sad <>

Because the more time passes, the higher the cost of energy and emotions we put into the relationship, then the sunk cost is high, and the end must be more sad. But now that you have separated, the teacher still advises you to try to let go as hard as you can. You can allow yourself to have a sad time, after all, we are not robots, how can we say that if we are not uncomfortable, we will not be uncomfortable?

Set yourself a time, 1-2 months, and allow yourself to soak up the sadness. As long as it does not interfere with normal health and life. Let's continue to live well.