How to use actions to show friendliness, and what actions to make cats feel friendly

Depending on the situation, if you are going to have a deep relationship, even if you don't laugh, you can pay attention to it in your daily life, others may have a little need, you take a hand, for example, when someone else is busy messing up after eating, maybe they want a napkin, I mean, for example, then at this time, do a little help, if you don't smile, it will make people feel more reliable.

In fact, if you are not very good at expressing feelings on your face, you can try to participate in the invitation activities of the people around you as much as possible. For example, if you have the above problems, then you must be a very good person, let others know more about you through small things.

As for the living, don't be in a hurry, nod when others pass by or open the door first, people can understand it these days.

First of all, the facial expression is smiling, not a straight face, this is the first step of friendliness. There are many gestures that can show friendliness, such as shaking hands, greetings, paying attention to sitting postures, verbal gestures, etc.

Touch its head, its back, or purr its chin, and repeatedly its hair.

Talk to him more, my cat can understand, don't be too fierce, and touch it more, the chin, the front of the tail, and the ears are OK. . .

It's very simple, first of all, you have to correct their impression of you, thinking that you are not easy to bully, you can catch them, or what means do you have to get evidence of their handle, so that they don't dare to make another mistake, and you have to use extraordinary means to deal with this group of people.

There's nothing wrong with that.

People have their own personalities.

Live in the moment. It's good to cherish what should be cherished, no.

Being a man can be, but there must also be a bottom line. We don't bully others, but when others bully us, we want to bully them.

You're like me, and I've solved it now. If those people wronged you, how did they pretend that you said it directly to the elders, don't be afraid, let alone care about the life or death of others, you have to think about how they treated you, why should you be bullied.

You just have to make sure that no one offends me, that I don't offend anyone, that anyone offends me, that I will offend someone.

I'm in a similar situation to you, the way to change is not to care about them, it's their business what others do, and the most important thing is to be yourself.

You should try to be tough.

Don't be too pushy sometimes.

Change two people, always be friendly, don't be ambiguous or anything related, if you don't change people, then complain, let the relationship between two people be bad, and then friendly?

How is that possible? Are you thinking too much?

In daily work, no matter what position you need to communicate with people, and it is indeed a laborious thing to convey a thing correctly and clearly to the ears of the other party. In fact, in addition to the way and ability to express yourself, the other party's comprehension ability and logical thinking will also affect whether the event can be accurately transmitted. I think the following points can make the expression more organized.

Express your previous work. Before we can express something, we need to go through the process in our brains. For example, when we need to get or pass information, we should first simulate it ourselves to see if there is a simpler way of saying it can be used and if the logic makes sense.

In the simulation, we need to express what we need in the first, second, and third points of the hierarchy. In this way, when the other party hears a clear sense of hierarchy, they will feel that you are more logical and audible, and they can understand your needs well and give you accurate feedback.

Work in expression。First of all, don't be afraid to say something wrong or bad, the other party is also an ordinary person. What we need to pay attention to in the process of expression is our own speech speed and pronunciation, if we speak too fast, the other party may not be able to hear clearly, and the pronunciation is not accurate, and the other party may misunderstand.

In the process of expression, do not often use words such as "en" and "ah". We have simulated the needs in our minds, just say them boldly, and pay attention to personal attitudes such as leaning forward, looking at each other, etc.

Post-expression work. When we have fully expressed our needs, we can end with a thank you message. Like, thank you, sorry for the trouble, etc.

In this way, the other party will feel that you are more sincere and friendly, and will not make things difficult for you in terms of needs. Being able to cooperate with your work better also reduces the trouble.

1.Think about your central thoughts before you express them.

When many people express themselves, they say one sentence in the east and one sentence in the west, without expressing the main point, which may make you say "nonsense".

To solve this problem, you must first think clearly about what the central idea you want to express, and then organize the language closely around your central idea when you express it, so as to ensure that you do not deviate from the topic and get to the point.

2.One point of view says only three points.

If you look closely, you'll see that many leaders only say three points when they speak.

The number "three" is very special in the eyes of the Chinese, "two in one life, two in three, three in everything", which shows that "three" actually contains all things, if you want to tell one thing concisely, you only need to say three points is enough.

3.Get rid of those redundant and useless expressions.

If you like to talk eloquently, but what you say is not related to your central idea, then others may fall asleep after listening to it, because they don't want to care at all.

The only solution is to get rid of the redundant and useless expressions. Content that doesn't matter tends to degrade the quality of what you say. So, try to only say what is relevant to the main idea, and speak directly and concisely, which will make your speech more powerful.

The "Five Principles" articulated by:

One is to speak as slowly as possible, and the more anxious things are, the more slowly they say;

The second is to speak as much as possible "straight to the point", say whatever it is, and don't bother to make a "background introduction";

The third is to talk as much as possible at home, especially some things that need to be explained to the elderly or children, which is also an exercise, especially for the organization of speaking.

There are other deeper changes from the heart and habits:

One is to read more. Look at what others say when they encounter something, there are several ways to say it, how to say it elegantly, how to say it in layman, how to say it in writing, how to say it in spoken language, and get lessons and inspiration from it. One thing to do when reading – read as loudly as possible.

The second is to write more. Writing more can improve your expression skills. The ancients once said that the end of the complaint is half broken.

Meaning, there's a lot to say, but only half of what can really be written on paper. This truth shows that there may be a lot of ideas, and only by writing more can we extract the essence from the rough, remove the false and retain the true, and express the problems you want to explain clearly.

The third is to do more investigation and research. It is necessary to fully grasp the first-hand materials of the things to be clarified. In this way, there will be more topics. Knowing only a little about what you want to say is not just a matter of lack of expressive skills.

Fourth, think more. When encountering problems, you should think about it before expressing your opinions, so that what you say is organized, such as problems, you can focus on small topics such as "what is the problem, who caused it, what is the cause, what is wrong, and how to solve it".

In addition, you should feel that you are very talkative (inner prompting).

First of all, it should be considered that "I am talkative". When you are with others, realize that you will make this conversation a good one. Realize that your thoughts flow smoothly and you can express your thoughts in a humorous way.

Although at the beginning, you may think that it is a bit contradictory, especially when you think you are clumsy. But "action creates feelings", when you believe that you are eloquent, the self-confidence generated will take root in your heart, so that you can truly become a very eloquent and organized person.

Finally, have a wealth of knowledge.

If you want to make yourself more talkative, of course, you need to master certain topics. In today's society, there is freedom to grasp all kinds of information, and everyone must constantly absorb all kinds of new information.

1. Read at least one trustworthy newspaper every day so that you can be well-versed in everything that has happened recently. Talkers are always ready to talk about the "new topic" of the day, providing the right information at the right time.

2. Read several high-quality magazines every month. Students will learn about literature, drama, fine arts, science, etc.

3. Radio broadcasts will tell us about some instant news that is not published in the newspapers. If you can always prepare some topics that have not yet been published in the newspaper, you will make everyone think that you are a "messenger".

Fourth, TV and movies often provide the best topics.

5. Read ads often. Advertising has important news value. You can learn new information about family, food, clothing, and these will be good topics.

1. Twenty speaking skills for dealing with people.

Urgently, slowly;

Big things, to be clear;

Little things, humorously said;

If you are not sure, say it with caution;

Don't talk nonsense about what didn't happen;

If you can't do it, don't talk nonsense;

You can't say anything that hurts people;

Nasty things, not to people;

Happy things, depending on the occasion;

Don't say sad things when you see people;

Someone else's business, be careful to say;

Listen to what your heart has to say;

Now I will talk about what I have done;

The future will be talked about in the future;

Knowing people doesn't have to be exhausted, leaving three points of leeway with others, and leaving some morality with yourself.

You don't have to be harsh on others, leave three points of leeway with others, and leave some belly for yourself.

Talent does not have to be arrogant, leave three points of leeway with others, and leave some connotation with yourself.

The edge does not have to be exposed, leave three points of leeway with others, and leave some depth with yourself.

There is no need to invite merit, leave three points of room with others, and leave some humility with yourself.

You don't have to snatch it all, leave three points of leeway with others, and leave some forgiveness with yourself.

2. Skillful thinking for people and things.

1: Be good at listening to others, this is very important, when communicating with others, listen carefully and carefully to others, you will be able to accurately understand and comprehend the ideas that others want to express, as well as the purpose of speaking, so that you can accurately express your own thoughts, express your own views, be able to communicate and communicate with others well, and achieve twice the result with half the effort.

2: empathy, do everything to empathy, when encountering things, you may wish to stand in the other party's perspective to think about the problem, starting from the other party, think about how we do this The other party will think, the consequences of this, so that we can think clearly, do things the best, if the other party is the leader should pay more attention to this, but the premise must be to raise their thinking to a height, if I am the leader, how do I want you to do it, what kind of effect will it have, gains and losses can be understood, If you can do things properly and appropriately, and develop such a habit of thinking, you will be able to deal with many problems with ease and just right.

3: The biggest danger of giving advice to people cautiously is to give advice when others are not asking for advice, some people will refuse to take the advice, no matter how good the advice is, or how noble your original intentions are, if you insist on doing so, the relationship between you and them will be affected. Don't waste your time and energy on trying to solve other people's problems, this also includes your spouse, friends and work partners, this kind of trying to solve their problems is tantamount to saying that they are not capable of doing this well, for the act of taking the initiative to make suggestions, wise people do not need advice, fools do not take advice.

When someone comes to me for advice, I figure out what kind of advice they want to get, and then I give them that advice, giving people the advice they want, which can be a good strategy for solving problems that don't actually matter.

4: It is better to be drunk with all men than to be awake for me, and if everyone is drunk, do not be awake alone.

1.Organized and hierarchical.

When describing things, it is important to have a clear hierarchy and a clear organization. In fact, in modern society, no one wants to listen to you talk at length and talk endlessly, so you have to be concise and to the point when you speak, and be good at getting to the point.

2.The logic is clear and the main idea is prominent.

The order of speaking lies in the order of thinking, in the understanding of things, which is more important and which is lighter, which is big and which is small, and the first thing to know in our hearts. Everything in the world has an inclusive relationship: the small make up the big, and the big makes up the bigger.

There must be an external cause for something to happen. It's the same with using words to express things, you have to understand how things come about, what they are made of, and then express them in layers. Therefore, when speaking, we must pay attention to the logic of the order, which ones are in front and which are last, which are the key points, which are the details, how the materials are organized and arranged, and how the center is prominent, all of which should be arranged reasonably and appropriately.

It is necessary to be clear about the center, have something to say, focus on the topic, and avoid multiple or scattered topics. Be as detailed as possible in key areas, and mention other unnecessary places in one sentence. Getting to the point, don't cover everything, or you'll be tired.

Of course, you have to have a clear point of view, and you have to determine the central theme of your speech according to the situation.

3.Concise and powerful, straight to the point.

We must avoid using redundant words in the process of speaking: otherwise the words will not reach the meaning, so that the other party does not know what you want to express. Therefore, the speech must be concise and powerful, go straight to the topic, be clearly organized, advance layer by layer, and be logical, so that you can clearly express what you want to express, so that the other party understands and attracts their attention, so as to achieve the purpose of speaking.

In short, no matter how complicated and tricky the matter you encounter, no matter how profound the ideas it contains, you must learn to generalize and abstract, and rise from emotional understanding to rational understanding. And these rational understandings are the essence of things, as long as you are good at grasping it, you will definitely be able to outline it and understand everything.