I m ambivalent and I can t figure it out myself

Don't force yourself if you don't have the strength.

Don't dwell on your own problems, we're not gods, we're fallible people.

Friends, what you have to do is to grasp the present, because the past has passed, that is history, and the future has not yet happened, that is hope, people should live in the present, and do not be dragged away by history and hope.

If so, as a trainee counselor, I can talk to you about it.

You don't have or can't find your own motivation in **, since you know you can't let yourself go, then force yourself, vent and cheer up, don't give up on yourself,

Seeing that you have written so much, I feel that you are already introspecting, it's okay, everything will be fine, this post is a start :)

You need to vent, restrain yourself, vent again, restrain again.

Life is long High school life is just a blink of an eye.

College life is all about a moment.

College is not that important, and momentary successes and failures are quickly forgotten.

The most important thing is to be worthy of yourself, and live as much as you think is worthwhile.

I think life is about protecting people who are good to them, making them happy, making them happy, and trying to be able to do that for the rest of their lives.

I guess it's because you have been in debt since you were a child, which makes you feel inferior. In fact, almost every family will have such a problem, which is a very normal social phenomenon. I was surprised when I learned that most companies started with borrowing, but that's normal.

So, you don't have to feel different from others. Be confident!

The reason why you don't have a sense of competition in your heart is because you have low self-esteem and feel that you can't compare to others, so you just don't waste your energy, right? I guess, hehe!

Anyway, now I think the most important thing for you is to find self-confidence! With self-confidence, you will naturally know how to do many things. Then, you have to set your goals, what you want to do, and what you want to be in the future.

The past has passed, and now you are beginning to know how to judge right and wrong, so what to put down and what to pick up, I believe you understand.

Since I am now in my third year of high school, and I am still a key high school, I should devote myself to my studies and have less distractions.

You have no motivation and don't know what you're doing all this for. You need to adjust your mindset and think that the world is a beautiful place, and you still have a long way to go.

Oh, young man, everyone is the same!! It's just that you can't settle down now, and when you go through setbacks, you'll know that feelings are very important.

I don't meet what I really want, I just see what others have and want to play, so keep waiting.

It seems that you haven't really liked a person yet, if you really like it, you won't get rid of it as soon as you get it, it may also be related to your personality, everything is hot for three minutes, you have to exercise your patience, and you can't succeed in doing anything without patience.

Like you, I used to be similar. It could be a matter of age. Now this age group is more playful, when you feel lonely and bored, you can play with your classmates in the dormitory, don't think about your girlfriend, the most important thing is the psychological effect.

It's OK to think about something!

Looking for a girlfriend for vanity!

It's better to calm down and do something you like.

I'm still in college, but it's understandable; This is a good indication that you are not, and that's a big plus. Let's pursue fame (study), pursue career (work), pursue family affection (parents and brothers), and pursue interests!!

Love is sacred, I don't know what you think in your heart, why desecrate it like this.

Boyfriends and girlfriends are not in the same place to save face, what to envy others; After having a girlfriend, there is love and ignorance....I don't think your mentality is correct, I think everyone is playing, and they all see love as too frivolous!

True love is knowing each other, cherishing and loving each other!

Your interest in girls is not yet an emotional need, nor has it risen to the level of a physical need. Just going with the flow, or filling a temporary void, though it doesn't serve you anything. This can only show that you are still emotionally immature, and it is recommended that you don't look for a girlfriend now, ordinary friends can.

When you mature, you will cherish it.

I know what you need is a girl who values you and you don't have to value her height.

You haven't met someone you really like.

After boldly expressing it, it is okay not to get entangled if you don't achieve your wishes, and you will always go through some such emotional processes in life.

He is married and does not consider union with him.

Give it up. It's better not to destroy other people's families, even if you like it, don't do that, you will feel guilty. It's also good to be friends. Maybe it'll fade slowly.

Give it up. He won't divorce you for you, it's you who will hurt in the end.

Give it up He is a man with a family.

It is a very selfish act to destroy the feelings of other people's families Let me tell you the result Since ancient times, there has been no good end for the junior Do you want to bear the blame of conscience for a lifetime or obediently learn to give up and learn to live with your conscience Your teacher is not a good thing You can still do this when you get married That's a good man It's strange that things gather people in groups If you really want to take this road Then you are ready to bear it when you greet you.

People who destroy other people's marriages get not happiness but tragedy.

People who don't cherish their marriage get not love but betrayal.

You shouldn't have liked him even though he's married. If you like it, you have to give it up, because there is no result.

Are you thinking too much!!

Hehe, maybe she doesn't know you well, she wants to start with you as friends? Treat you as a good friend? Emotional things can't be forced, let it be, face it calmly, I'm also a girl, flickering.Manly man!

1. First of all, recognize the reality, no one can control everything.

2. Then you have to recognize the reality, even if you have all the knowledge, it is useless, except for increasing psychological satisfaction. So it's superfluous to worry about it.

3. Let me show you how you can learn all the knowledge at once. What you want to do, and what you're trying to do is in the wrong direction. In the past, people had to carry buckets of water to their homes if they wanted to drink water, and one person wanted to carry all the water home at once, but he couldn't pick it all up, so he was very frustrated.

You're just like this person.

Smart people will sum up a set of experience in the process of carrying water, that is, learning methods, you have to learn not all the books, but take out one that interests you, and then find a way to learn. From now on, you can use this method elsewhere. It will be much faster to learn any of them.

That is, don't think about how to fetch water to drink, hurry up and build a water pipe, and bring in water.

4. When you feel uncontrollable, you can go to a psychologist to help you dredge it. You will be very comfortable. However, your wallet will be very uncomfortable, and it will cost you money to see a doctor.

You just have too high requirements for yourself, of course it's a good thing to learn more things, but it's impossible for a person to learn everything proficiently, some things, proper understanding, and understanding is enough, specifically in the individual, you don't have to think too much, you're just too smart, I guess you have an ab blood type, personality, and then a little introverted, maybe you're an Aquarius.

It is recommended that you set a goal and implement it in stages, after all, you already know what the problem is.

Also, there's no need to put so much pressure on yourself, it's not necessary, isn't it.

You don't need to see a doctor, it's just that your attitude is not right, and it is recommended that you force yourself to read a book and be single-minded.

Analysis:

Suggestions: Hello, it is recommended that you develop a specific and feasible learning plan for yourself, continue to achieve every subsection of the plan, you can communicate with the teacher, and then go to a psychologist if it is really not possible.

One of your problems is that you are willing to label yourself Dual personality traits Mild depression are all self-labeled by yourself Too many people have the mentality of wanting to eat a fat person like you You are normal It's just that there may be some stress recently It will be naturally relieved after a while Or you can also adjust your mentality by yourself If you don't continue to dwell on these problems, there will be no problem There is no need to see a psychiatrist at the moment If you really want to talk to someone You can talk to the psychological counselor of our school.

If you are really willing to change, give me an affirmative answer.