I m embarrassed to do anything

1. Because of kindness, I am afraid of bothering others in everything I do, and I always block the responsibility and pressure by myself, and I would rather suffer for a lifetime than give happiness to others.

Defenseless, always thinking that the world is full of good people.

Sometimes, I have to ask for help, I feel embarrassed, I say a lot of good things, and I give people a lot of gifts.

Always understand that the grace of a drop of water is reciprocated by a spring.

Also, if it is difficult for me to do something, I will promise others, suffer myself, and I will pretend to be easy if I am good for others.

2. The kinder the person, the more likely he is to be hurt.

Love someone, because of kindness, is often taken advantage of, others always take your love for granted, and even someone, through your love, possesses everything in you, and finally, suddenly disappears, just like the world has evaporated.

You're still looking for it, thinking you've lost some kind of treasure.

3. Actually, kind people are not stupid, they just don't know how to protect themselves, a person, no matter how good he is to you, no matter how much he loves you, if he is hurt, he will leave you, and now he is not leaving, because he thinks that you still have hope and can turn around.

I left you, not because I didn't love you anymore, but because I was disappointed.

As the saying goes, if you can't be provoked, you can hide.

Good people will also know how to hide, and no one wants to be hurt.

If there is no physical reaction, or if there is a strong anxiety that requires a long period of patience and adjustment, it is not a mental illness.

It's just shy and timid, which anyone will have, maybe it's not confident, afraid of losing face, and cares about other people's evaluations. Rehearsing what would happen in your head ahead of time might improve a bit.

Maybe it's shy, or maybe it's inferiority and lack of self-confidence, we have to be brave in life.

If you understand your needs in the moment, you won't be embarrassed. In this way, you grasp the needs of others, and people have needs all the time.

We Chinese are good-faced and thin-skinned.

Young people, you have to fight for something.

Don't steal or rob, and you can't just let people take your own things.

For example, if you don't make a sound, the job will become someone else's;

Besides, you can do a thing better than others, but if you don't say it, who knows, the credit for this matter will also be fought for by others.

Also, when you go to the market to buy a piece of clothing, the main seller is 60 yuan, and you don't dare to bargain, in fact, the dress is only worth 40 yuan, and the extra 20 yuan is earned by the vendor.

Examples abound in life, and it seems that you are still young.

I used to be just like you, obscure. Cooking dumplings in a teapot is well known. But people don't know what you're like.

How is it also a lifetime, geese have taken pictures, and people have left their names. Chic is better.

Dare to say and do, and do things without regrets.

However, I don't mean to punish the strong and competitive everywhere, but just say that you have to fight for your own interests, so what's so embarrassing.

No one is embarrassed, but they still have to live.

Start small and start with the details. First of all, restore your confidence and rekindle your zest for life! Here are some suggestions you can take:

1. Do what you like to do, do what you are good at, regain the joy of success, regain lost confidence, and find forward momentum and direction; 2. When the heart is tired, people will rest when they are troubled, let the soul travel, you can climb the mountain, see the sea, feel the magnificent scenery, embrace nature, and integrate into nature; 3. You can do some favorite sports to vent, and running, walking and basketball are recommended. Running can exercise the body, exercise and improve people's will and endurance; Walking can make people relax and relax; Basketball can make people learn to cooperate, enhance team awareness and collective concept; 4. You can find a close friend to get together, have a few drinks, confide in friends, and let the warm friendship dispel your inner boredom, depression and loneliness; 5. Chat with your family more, or play **, strengthen communication, enhance feelings, and tell your family that I love them; 6. Find a soulmate, let love sublimate your emotions, embellish your life, and illuminate your soul; 7. If there are any troubles that are inconvenient to talk to friends and family members, you can chat with strangers on the Internet, confide in them, and find new friends; 8. Keep a diary online and write down the bits and pieces of life; 9. You can go shopping with three or five confidants, maybe there are unexpected bargains or unexpected delicacies waiting for you, from which you can harvest unexpected surprises; 10. Study hard, find the joy of learning, keep improving, improve your academic performance, read more relevant books in combination with your own interests, plan your own professional and employment path, and plan your own life path; 11. You can properly ** your favorite TV series with your family, and at the same time, you can chat with your family and enhance your feelings; 12. You can read the books you are interested in, broaden your horizons, increase your knowledge, enrich your knowledge, and lay a good foundation for study and work; 13. You can practice calligraphy, painting, piano or other musical instruments, and increase your temperament; 14. Advocate green surfing, watch the news, play games appropriately, but not indulge, so that you can pass the time; 15. Do housework at home appropriately, so that you can not only maintain hygiene, but also get the praise of your family and the joy of life; 16. As the sun sets, I come to the field to look for dandelions.

Facing the sunset, blowing gently against the evening breeze, that is my flying dandelion, hehe!(Flappy dandelions!!)

Chekhov once said, "Life is an annoying cage." When a thinking person reaches adulthood and has a mature sense of life, he cannot but feel that he is locked in a cage from which there is no escape. ”

It is undeniable that life does give us all kinds of constraints, on the surface these constraints are emotional, material, and interpersonal, but in essence, these constraints are spiritual.

Adler, a master of psychology, believes that if we want to break free from the shackles of our hearts and regain our freedom and happiness, the most important thing is to get rid of the following three shackles.

The first bondage - "the past".

If you weep for missing the sun, you will also miss the stars – Rabindranath Tagore.

Many people have always believed that their present and even future selves (results) are determined by past events (causes). In psychology, this view is known as "causal determinism".

According to this point of reasoning, if the past is full of misfortunes, and we cannot go back to the past and change the past misfortunes, then the present and future misfortunes are in fact predestined.

Therefore, everyone always justifiably takes the unpleasant experience of the past as the reason why they cannot be happy now, or even in the future, and let themselves act as "prisoners" of the past with peace of mind.

Just like the famous female lyricist Li Qingzhao of the Song Dynasty, she was immersed in the pain of the past for almost the entire middle and old age, and her lyric style has changed from beautiful and bright in her early years to bleak and low.

The widely circulated sentence "looking for and seeking, cold and lonely, miserable and miserable", clearly expresses her uncontrollable and indescribable sorrow and melancholy. In the end, her quiet death in extreme loneliness and desolation seemed to be predictable.

In the face of the above "causal determinism", Adler clearly expressed his opposition.

He believes that it doesn't matter what we have experienced in the past, what matters is how we perceive those experiences, and it is indeed impossible to change the past, but our perception of the past can be completely changed.

At the same time, the symptoms of so-called psychological trauma are not actually the product of past experiences, but serve the "purpose" of the present.

For example, after being fired, some people can't accept it in their hearts, they keep their doors closed, refuse to go to work and socialize anymore, and once they come into contact with people, they will blush, be nervous, and anxious.

In Adler's view, the symptoms of the person concerned are meaningless, but the function (benefit) of this symptom - to finally let himself die in the end, avoid growth and independence, and at the same time get more love from relatives and friends because of the "tragic past experience", but it is very meaningful.

We can only understand that man is not a being governed by the past, but a being who acts to achieve a certain end; At the same time, the "scars" on the body can only represent past experiences, and cannot determine everything in the present and future, so as to help oneself free oneself from the shackles of the past

You are embarrassed to do anything, it means that you are very inferior and have no self-confidence, your current situation is a very inferior person who has a lot of troubles, you now have your own rationality, give yourself a goal to make yourself confident, so that you will be less troubled, and what to do is embarrassing, cheeky and provincial.

Communicate generously with everyone, and you will find that it is not so difficult.

Hello, you're embarrassed about what you do.

What exactly does it include?

In fact, there is nothing to be embarrassed about no matter what, as long as you sit straight and walk upright, as long as you don't do bad things in line with common sense, then we have nothing to be embarrassed about, don't think too much, sometimes it's just that we think so much, think a little too much, in the eyes of others, it's actually not a problem, you can be yourself, be generous, don't be too entangled and troubled and let your thoughts.

Limit your actions.

You're still too homely. See more people. Go to crowded occasions. Exercise workouts. Slowly. It's good to get used to it.

There will always be unhappy things, but happiness can be found from them. Why do you let yourself be depressed in the course of life? Happiness is not for others, it is for oneself, happy and unhappy, the same day, but the result is not the same.

There are always more happy things than unhappy things, so why not make yourself happy more often! Every day is a fight or struggle for a better life. Take difficulties as a test, and difficulties are not the ability to solve problems less than the ability of the things themselves, and there will be difficulties!

When our abilities transcend difficulties, there are no difficulties! Hence the constant self-awareness, "system update"! Some difficulties are insurmountable, we must face them correctly, have a healthy mind, and treat life positively!

Life is constantly summarizing, constantly overcoming, and constantly moving forward! No one is smarter than anyone, only who is better at summarizing their own and others' mistakes, so that they do not make the same mistakes as others. "Only by seriously summarizing the past can people better move towards the future.

Living, studying, and working healthily and happily. Happiness is just as much as wealth that we need to create. Many times we are unhappy because there is something wrong with our thinking, and when we change our thinking, we will suddenly realize that happiness is all around us!

Don't let the bad mood infect others, and don't let the bad mood of others infect yourself! Try to calm your fragile and restless heart for a while! Oops!!

It's hurt! Sad, sad, depressed! Don't embarrass yourself!

Why are you bothering!! I'm so tired!! People are very tired when they are alive!!

Sad and sad!! It will pass!! Time will fade away!!

Learn to make yourself really happy!! It's a day to be happy, and it's a day to be unhappy!! Think about it!!

You only have one today in your life!! There is only one day of the year!! There are only a few days a month!!

There's only one day a week! So today is important! More cherished!

Say this a lot!! I'll just say I'm going to tell you!! Today is more important than yesterday!!

Look forward in everything!

First of all, we must have confidence in ourselves, don't give yourself too much pressure and negative energy, secondly, adjust your mentality, balance yourself, again, start from some things that you can do around you, don't dislike it is a small thing, insignificant, do a good job of small things, step by step, in order to do big things, just a quantitative change to a qualitative change process, step by step, down-to-earth, slowly you will find that you are not so unbearable, but also can do things, and can do things well, so that you will find that you are also a potential stock, There's a lot to offer!

First of all, when you have succeeded in realizing, oh, I am a cowardly person, and you have succeeded in realizing that your actions are a sign of cowardice, you have won the first step in getting rid of cowardice. Many cowardly people don't even know that their character is cowardly, they just feel uncomfortable in their hearts but don't know that this symptom is a miracle, in fact, it is a mental illness --- cowardice. When you are diagnosed with this symptom, you will be able to get rid of this huge character flaw.

Secondly, how to change depends on the specific manifestation of your cowardice. There are usually the following. Don't dare to boldly pursue what you love, for example, you know very well what you need to do, but you don't dare to boldly pursue it if you are restricted by various objective conditions, you must know that a brave person is holding his breath and cutting his head to pursue what he loves, will a capable person be cowardly, that is, he is cowardly if he has no ability.