I ve been closed off for a long time, who can help me?

Because the specifics are not very clear. Only preliminary questions can be asked. What are the specific manifestations of "inner closure" you are talking about?

How long does it last? Two months in a month? Or a year or two?

When did you first experience this? What happened at that time?

Now that you are willing to actively change yourself, it is a very good start, if you are unable to help yourself with your inner troubles, it is recommended that you seek help from a professional psychological institution.

It can only be said that you have not found the person who can open the door of your heart, and this person has no way to help you, so you can only get out on your own

You're still fighting with yourself, what are you afraid of, it's not the best way to protect yourself, but it's another way, you can say what you want, if it makes you afraid, or if you have resistance, you can ask for help.

If you want, we can talk, after all, I don't know anything about you and can't help you.

Isolate yourself from the outside world, be lonely, and be afraid to socialize.

If you are a master in the mountains, you don't need to change anything. If you want to enter the WTO, then first look at where your heart is, if you don't find out where your heart is, just look for it, and if you find it, it's almost the same.

Maple Feather New Leaf bless you.

I don't know your specific situation, and it's not easy to analyze.

If you can, it is recommended to search for "The Lotus in the Heart" to see.

If the closure is not good, then open it!

Wang Fengyi doesn't complain about people] take a look.

First of all, make yourself more beautiful and increase your self-confidence. After becoming pretty, go outside to participate in some outdoor activities, drink more contact with people, and even if you don't dare, you can watch from a distance.

If someone wants to know you, answer boldly, don't be timid, anyone is just such a nose and a mouth, everyone is the same. The gossip girls in the class don't care about them, the more timid you are and the more they think you are a bully. Look at them boldly, don't try to please, but smile at the ordinary joking:

Wow, xx (the name of any of the gossip girls), it's so drifting today, and at first glance it's a beauty. ”

Watch a little more funny **, and increase your humor cells, so that you won't be cold when you interact with people. Let yourself learn to eat a lot of food, read books if you have nothing to do, and then hold a dance class to cultivate your own temperament.

When the temperament comes out, the self-confidence also comes.

You're only in your first year of high school now, and your life will be long in the future, and you won't have time to think about this or that in your third year of high school, if you continue to feel so inferior, your pressure will get bigger and bigger, and you won't be able to survive the third year of high school.

Try to relax yourself, no matter whether life is busy or wronged, you always have to go on, this is life.

It's okay to laugh and cry. I will let myself smile, even if my heart is already comparable to Huang Lian, I will smile, and then go home and dream of being in the bed, stuffing the quilt into my mouth and crying loudly, after crying, it will be a sunny tomorrow.

Smile.

Answer: Integration into collective law. Psychologically closed people are like Chekov's description of the "man in the trap", who closes himself tightly all day long, and does not want to contact the outside world or confide in others. When guiding this, we should first help the people to integrate into the collective, and help them realize that people can only realize their ideals by helping each other and relying on the cultivation of the organization.

It is necessary to pay attention to the use of the harmonious and friendly atmosphere of the unit, so that the grooming object can experience the warmth of the organization, feel the care of the surrounding people, and subtly relieve the concerns of the grooming object. It is necessary to have more contact and communication with the counseling object, exchange sincerity for sincerity, shorten the emotional distance between the two parties, and encourage them to confide their true feelings. Over time, with a basis for communicating with others, the problem of psychological closure will be solved.

2. Frustration-oriented method. Frustration is an important cause of closed psychology. Some only children are psychologically fragile, and when they encounter difficulties and setbacks, we must provide correct guidance so that they can learn lessons and lift their spirits.

Psychology believes that after people suffer setbacks, they generally have two tendencies; One is that after being frustrated, they are afraid of being frustrated again and lose their self-confidence, and become self-defeating; The second is to be frustrated and afraid of being frustrated again, so as to actively learn from the lessons, work hard, and finally succeed. Therefore, it is necessary to help frustrated individuals to find out the subjective and objective reasons why they cannot achieve the predetermined goals, adjust the original needs and motivations, redesign and determine new goals, and free them from the shadow of frustration and failure, so as to achieve a new psychological balance.

Condition analysis: Now it belongs to the psychology of inferiority.

Guidance: Hello, you are an obvious sign of low self-esteem, it is recommended that you think more about your own success, things that can make you happy. People with low self-esteem are often people with strong self-esteem, and they are also too demanding of themselves, so lower their goals appropriately, don't care too much about other people's opinions, and it will get better slowly!

It's hard to be honest, that's the heart knot.

Answer: Learn to relax your mood, relieve depression, learn to feel happy and enjoy happiness. For a person, a happy life is a successful life, so everyone will desire to have more happiness, but happiness is not something that everyone can have, so some people begin to complain about others, blame God for not favoring themselves, blame fate, complain about career disharmony, family disharmony ......In fact, these are not the deciding factors that determine whether you are unhappy or not, it is only you who really determines whether you are happy or not! Happy it.

Be willing to accept yourself: When we fail in a thing, when we not only work hard but have not succeeded, we must learn to be satisfied and accept, we don't care about what others say, maybe others don't care about your failure, even if others care about us, we have to learn, go our own way and let others say go mentality, and be willing to accept yourself so that you will not close yourself.

Socialize with others: Socializing will further strengthen our ability to live, and we need to throw ourselves out and constantly associate with different people. Socializing will enrich our feelings, and we need to deal with loneliness, so we need to socialize.

At the same time, the height of a person's development determines the degree of self-development and self-expression associated with you.

Mental Transfer: When we focus too much on something, we have a feeling of being enchanted, at this time we are too depressed, so we may close ourselves off, at this time we need to transfer our spirit to other places, such as we can practice calligraphy, learn to paint, and so on.

Constantly enrich ourselves: We must face up to the reality and constantly recharge ourselves, find more opportunities to contact different people, learn different things from different people, and broaden our horizons. This can be done by starting with the simple ones and then working your way up to the harder level.

You can also participate in more large-scale courses to exercise your abilities.

Insist on exercising: Exercise can also allow you to come out of the closed state, we must adhere to the frequency of exercise, 4-6 times a week, mainly aerobic exercise, such as jogging, etc., each time running for half an hour to 45 minutes, the intensity is not standard for sweating.

Join clubs: We can also join some clubs or associations, such as the Badminton Association, the Table Tennis Association, etc., to join the association, the association will often organize competitions and activities, and at the same time, we can also meet a lot of like-minded friends in the association, so that we have a common language.

In fact, everyone wants to be respected and liked by the public, but this need for self-esteem is only a kind of hope for themselves, and whether they can get it in fact depends on the public's evaluation and affirmation of their words, behaviors, and actions.

If a person has too much self-esteem in social interaction, he will be afraid of whether his behavior is appropriate, afraid of how people will see him, and even sometimes because of excessive self-esteem, he is reluctant to associate with people who are stronger than himself, worried that he will lose his "value" and lose his dignity in comparison, so he will close himself off when he thinks about it.

At present, it is recognized at home and abroad that the best training is the most effective way to improve the core symptoms of autism in children and improve the quality of life of patients, with the goal of promoting the language development of patients, improving social communication skills, and mastering basic life skills and learning skills. There is also psychological **, the purpose is mainly to reinforce the abnormal behaviors that have formed good behaviors, such as stereotyped behaviors, that affect education, training, social interaction and harm oneself.

Summary. In my opinion, self-isolation is the inner rejection of others, the pursuit of peculiarity, he can live a normal life in the group, but he never treats others sincerely, and he is self-righteous. He likes to say unfathomable words to maintain his sense of superiority, never gives to others sincerely, and is very selfish ......If that's not the case, it's not self-contained.

However, if you are behaviorally reluctant to associate with others, you should have this mentality to some extent).

In my opinion, self-isolation is the inner rejection of others, the pursuit of peculiarity, he can live a normal life in the group, but he never treats others sincerely, and he is self-righteous. He likes to say unfathomable and leaky words to maintain his sense of superiority, and never gives to others sincerely, which is very selfish ......If you're not like that, it's not a matter of self-isolation. However, if you are behaviorally reluctant to associate with others, you should have this mentality to some extent).

How do I make friends?

Be bold in making friends, be affectionate and smiling, be sincere in opening your heart, learn to think from the perspective of others, and understand yourself deeply. The first step for Brother Li, who made friends, was to boldly greet others, and the first sentence would lead to closer contact with him. Don't be shy about taking the initiative to get to know others.