My relatives have been living in my house and don t mention what they want to go, what should I do?

I've also encountered something similar to you, in fact, you can hint at her in your words, but it's really not good, you just use your husband as a shield, saying that you are also a family person, saying that you are always here, and we are not very convenient, I am afraid that my husband will have an opinion or something, which will affect the relationship between the two of us as husband and wife, etc.

You can't be soft-hearted about this kind of thing, if you really have difficulties to say it, it's embarrassing to live in someone else's house like this, I've never seen such a thick-skinned person, why be embarrassed to say it. Just say what you should say, and no one can help you if you don't say it.

It's not good not to be emotional, either. You can ask her what she plans to do, or support her to go out to work, and connect with others more when she works, so that she has a boyfriend at work, and she doesn't live in your house yet... Or, you jokingly tell her, isn't that it, don't think about it, if something happens at your house, how to talk to her (who is her mother?)

Mom explains... Wait a minute.

Tell her that people must be ambitious, they can't hold back at home all the time, and let their boyfriend not laugh at them. Find a job, or someone will propose you to a relative... Wait a minute.

Wish. Good luck ...

Find a suitable time directly, talk to your cousin, it's not convenient to live together after all, and then accompany her to find a house to rent, if you don't say it, she may not mention it even if she knows what you think, it's nothing, getting married is not like being single, no matter how you have to consider your husband's feelings.

For this kind of unconscious person, then you can only say it directly, after all, you are married, this family is not your alone, and your husband, it is always inconvenient to have an outsider, you can tell your cousin that your husband's family has relatives who want to come, I think she should understand.

If she still refuses to leave, you can tell her to be respectful and not too casual in your house.

Then tell him directly, say that if you are looking for a job, you have to find a job quickly, everyone must have their own life, not to mention that this is not your home alone, and your husband!! It's good to say it directly, otherwise such people can't change!

You just say it indirectly. Or maybe your in-laws are coming. Tell him to go back first. Again. You can ask your husband to speak.

I think you can take home more advertisements for rent, or when you see this kind of advertisement on TV or computer, you can say to your cousin: Hey, this house is good, and it is also very cost-effective, and tell her in a side-tapping way.

You can ask her directly if she has been off for so many days, what are your plans now, continue to look for a job here, or go elsewhere, if you are looking for a job here, have you found a house, by the way, tell her that the house there is better, if you don't find it, then quickly find a good place to settle down.

Don't be embarrassed to ask her when she's going to go out to work and where she's going to rent a house. You've been so nice to her, and she doesn't know what to do.

You just pretend to ask her how she is looking for a job, after all, it is very inconvenient to have an outsider in the family. No, really bring your mother-in-law.

If you don't open your mouth, you have to open your mouth, and the facts are in front of you, and you will rely on your husband.

Let's just say it! You said your mother-in-law was coming to stay for a few days, and asked when she was leaving? Good arrangement for mother-in-law to come!

Just say it, how inconvenient it is, no one's house is very spacious, she should understand.

If she doesn't go, you go, see if she goes.

It is easy to send the Buddha to the Buddha, so if you want to directly issue an eviction order, otherwise you will often come to your house in the future.

Ask her if she has found a job and where she lives.

Find a time to talk to your cousin, you can't go on like this!

If you don't have a good mouth, give a hint. ，

First: If you are a child, then you can decide not to go, even if there is fun at the relative's house, but you have to stay overnight, and it is definitely not good. I still live in my own home, I was like this when I was a child.

Second: If you are an adult, then you can completely say that if you can invite you to stay, it means that the immediate family can directly refuse, and it is understandable. It's nothing.

Third: If there are other reasons, then you can refuse first, after all, your own comfort is the first.

To sum up, I will give you advice, listen to your heart, and feel first.

Just look for a job for them and say don't go home. Just let them find a job in a little further away from you, and then encourage them to rent a house, running around and wasting time, and they should live in a little bit.

Summary. Hello, if you don't want to stay at a relative's house but can't do it, you can say that you are not feeling well and want to go home to rest, or ask your friend to call you and say that there is an urgent matter to find you, let the relative hear, and then leave immediately.

I don't want to stay with relatives but I can't help it.

Hello, if you don't want to stay at a relative's house but can't do it, you can say that you are not feeling well and want to go home to rest, or ask your friend to call you and say that there is an urgent matter to find you, let the relative hear, and then leave immediately.

You can also leave first on the grounds that you are busy with work.

But when you leave, you should talk to your relatives, be polite, and give some gifts if necessary, and it is best to talk to your family before leaving.

At three or four o'clock in the morning, because my friend was in a hurry, I wanted to substitute for my friend, and I forgot to tell my relatives when I was in a hurry, and then all my relatives came to say that I asked me to go back to my own house and live alone.

As a result, it turned out to be like this, and I was in a depressed mood.

In this way, in fact, what you are doing is right, you really can't take some gifts, officially go to the other party's house to apologize, and explain the situation clearly If this is still chattering, then there is no way. It's not your fault, don't be upset about it, just be yourself.

There are two ways to refuse.

The first is an indirect, euphemistic way of refusal, you can find some reasons to excuse yourself, such as telling him that it is inconvenient to entertain guests at home, and you can sit and wait in a café or restaurant outside, so as to indirectly refuse the other party's request. The second way, in a direct way, is to express your own wishes, so that the other party understands that sometimes direct refusal will save a lot of things.

Some families have also had such a situation, some even eat and live directly, a family is a relatively independent individual, if the parents come in directly, I think it is very normal, it should be, relatives feel a little excessive. Very disrespectful to this family member, which is your feelings. Even if your wife asks them to bring it in, they should refuse.

Notes:

Respect your friends' habits in life and work. Everyone has their own lifestyle, work habits and family background, and the habits formed by Tongqi on this basis cannot be the same as yours, so when others do not hinder you, respecting other people's different living habits should be the minimum requirement, you can disagree, but you must understand.

That means don't dwell on your friend's past mistakes. The contradictions between friends will always fade with the passage of time, it is unwise to catch the past grievances, give others a little tolerance, and give yourself a little peace of mind, forgive others, that is, let yourself go, forget the previous unpleasantness.