How do you know people when you interact with them?

How to recognize people can be judged from the following two processes:

1. Just met.

Look at his appearance.

If you want to fall in love, it is recommended that when you first meet the other person, you should first look at his appearance, see whether he is neatly dressed, whether his fingernails and hair are clean, whether he uses perfume and other details, so as to judge whether the other party's taste level is close to your own.

See if he is in a hurry to express it.

If a person always gives you the feeling of "talking in a hurry", it means that he is more eager to state his opinion, which is a sign of lack of self-confidence.

See if he "knows" to listen.

If you are talking, he will listen quietly to what you are saying and then ask further questions based on what you are saying, which shows that he is thoughtful. A boy or girl who knows how to listen can easily give people a very comfortable sense of security: when he listens to me, I feel like I have a whole world.

Look at what he says.

This can be divided into three main layers: emotions, facts, and theories. If he is emotionally stable and when he states the facts, he will intersperse some theories that you have not heard of, or the content of a certain field, it shows that the depth and span of his thinking are relatively large and flexible.

Second, in the process.

See if he has the ability to calm down.

Silence is a kind of strength, if a person is always very excited and shouting, then it is easy to go wrong. Quieting down can allow a person to pull out of their emotional state and enter a peaceful space, so that their hearts can be recharged and recharged. This is the most important skill for a person's sustainable development.

See if his communication with people is "convection".

Meaning: your language can reach his heart, and he can take on your thoughts; His words can reach your heart and allow you to take on his thoughts. This kind of convection is the foundation for two people to be together smoothly for a long time.

If you always feel "stuck, uncomfortable, and pushed back" when you talk to him, it means that he has built a high wall in his heart, and your words have been ** back, and he has not stretched out his hands to catch your words.

1. A person's life is not necessarily experienced, but the person who can judge whether a person's life is good or not must be experienced.

2. Your best friend doesn't necessarily regard you as your best friend; What you think is an ordinary friend, may think of you as your best friend.

3. The circle of friends can't really judge a person, what you can see is what the other party wants you to see. His private circle of friends, locked space, and little-known Weibo are the most real appearance of a person.

4. Those who wear masks and seem to have no flaws often don't trust you enough, and only familiar people don't need to disguise.

5. It is difficult to get along with people who don't like it at first sight. People can't quickly judge whether the other party is worthy of deep friendship, but they can know at a glance whether they are willing to have in-depth contact with each other.

6. People who talk too much are either stupid or deceitful; People who do things too desperately will either have hatred or back-up.

7. The more people talk non-stop, the less there is a city. They don't have time to think too much about expressing themselves, and this kind of person is also the easiest to keep their mouth shut and leak their secrets.

8. Don't get acquainted with a person too quickly, maintain the superficial friendliness first, and then slowly discover their essence, time will give you the answer.

9. Wine is the fastest thing to see character, when sober, regardless of any reason, those who persuade to drink are probably selfish and have a good face; When drunk, people who subconsciously maintain politeness are really worth associating.

10. The more a person doesn't want to offend anyone, the easier it is to offend anyone; The more a person wants to be loved by anyone, the less he gets loved.

11. Really excellent people always like to work hard quietly; On the contrary, those who make a big splash about their plans are clocked in and out every day.

12. No one likes to do things without return, "thank you", "approval" and other small things are a kind of return, and people who know how to be grateful will be more likely to be helped again. For example, if you see something inspiring in Zhihu, you can like it easily, which is the greatest recognition and gratitude to the respondent, and the respondent will also be encouraged to continue to create better content to repay your recognition.

13. Some people, seeing others drinking Starbucks, think they are showing off their wealth; When I saw someone else checking into the library, I thought he was pretending; When I saw someone posting fitness photos, I felt that he was showing off his figure. The more people lack something, the more they feel that others are showing off.

14. When the interests of both parties do not interfere with each other, the interests may not be able to see the hearts of the people; But when there is a conflict of interest, the human mind sees it most clearly.

15. The more people who understand what they want, the more unsociable they seem. Some people seem to have a group of friends and eat non-stop, and they often have the least idea of what they want, because they are so focused on these things that they don't have time to think about what they really want.

1. People who have dreams in their stomachs and do not talk to others are often more likely to realize their dreams.

3. Many seemingly serious boys may actually be very sullen.

4. Don't trust people who don't trust others.

6. The evaluation of us by the enemy or opponent is the closest to the truth.

7. The reason why you feel that you can see through a person is because he has what you used to be.

8. People with bright eyes generally have a low level of intelligence.

9. When facing a fork in the road of life and not knowing how to make a choice, those who follow their hearts will live a happier life.

10. When you see her for the first time, you can decide whether you will have a later story.

11. Don't make a decision at night, get some sleep, and wait until you wake up the next day to make a decision.

13. Judging a person is based on the questions he asks, not his answers.

14. In the process of communication, look at the details of daily life, look at the way of dealing with small things, listen to the words that are said inadvertently, and listen to the words blurted out when emotional, you can often see a person's nature.

15. Don't put too much faith in first impressions, because first impressions are likely to be wrong.

17. By looking at a person's evaluation of others, you can know what kind of person he is. Some people evaluate the people around them, this person is very brave, this person is righteous, this person is very smart, and such a person must not be the same.

18. The appearance of the circle of friends is just what he wants you to think.

19. The wisest person is the one who will hide his wisdom, and he is as wise as foolish.

20. When a group of people laugh, everyone will look at the person they like.

As a psychological counselor who focuses on marriage and family, I would like to talk about knowing people from the perspective of mate selection.

First of all, you have to understand his three views.

The understanding of a person is endless, and it is more and more in-depth with the passage of time, so before marriage, the first thing you need to understand is his outlook on life, values, consumption and morality.

Although it is a simple and crude "lie" that you can't get married if you don't get along, in the long-term relationship, the three views are roughly in tune, which will make your life easier.

For example, one wants his children and grandchildren to have a good time around his knees, but the other decides to dink to the end; One advocates poverty alleviation, while the other pays attention to the quality of life; One loves the glitz and glamour of the prosperous world to be bare-necked, and the other is eager to return to the countryside and be indifferent - there is no right or wrong outlook on life, but different outlooks on life have to be together, and you have to spend a lot of time to communicate, run-in, compromise and self-growth.

Maybe before they really grow up, they have exhausted each other's love.

In addition to understanding his three views, it is more important to understand his thinking pattern.

There are two modes of thinking for people, one is introspection and the other is shirking. People in the self-reflection mode will first check themselves when looking at problems, self-reflection, whether they are not good enough, how to improve - and then consider the real cause of the whole thing, the root of the contradiction is **.

And the person who shirks the mode, no matter what happens, first of all, shirks his own responsibility, and the fault is always someone else, not him, even if he is wrong, it is also excusable, and it is because others are wrong first and then affect his ......

If his mindset is the kind he is accustomed to shirking, then no matter how good he looks, how perfect the hardware is, and how pitiful and innocent he behaves, there is no need to think about him.

You don't even have to give him time, because people who don't know how to introspect will never grow and improve.

1. Love takes advantage of small advantages, but it is difficult to be expensive; If you often suffer small losses, you will be rewarded.

Always likes to take advantage of others, such a person is difficult to achieve great wealth. Those who often suffer small losses, those who are discerning will be rewarded in their hearts.

2. Words are repeated to prevent fraud; If you are ungrateful, you will definitely rebel.

Speaking doesn't count, repeatedly modifying, you must beware of such **. If you don't have a sense of gratitude, but often blame others for your mistakes, such a person will definitely be beaten up. Beware of such villains.

3. If you are overly enthusiastic, you will inevitably have another reputation; Be more serious, don't open your heart.

As the saying goes, if you have nothing to do, you will be either a traitor or a thief! If a person suddenly becomes enthusiastic about you, he must ask for something from you. Even in a particularly relaxed state, don't open your heart. The speaker is unintentional, the listener is intentional, maybe that sentence will bring great disaster!

4. Open your mouth to speak of righteousness, and you will defect in the face of great calamity; When people are called brothers, it is common for them to have deep friendships.

often talks about the righteousness and absolute truth of life with one mouth, and when it comes to facing the big right and wrong, the first person to defect is such a person. Whoever calls everyone brother when he sees him should not have deep friendships. Such a casually called brother is not worth much.

Such people use what ordinary people think of as righteousness and affection as tools. People who really care about righteousness and affection will not say this casually.

5. Humility is a virtue, and excessive humility is to prevent fraud; Silence is Yixing, and if you are too silent, you hide treachery.

Modesty is a virtue, but to be too modest is to be hypocritical. Not saying much is good behavior, but too much silence and silence seems to be hiding treachery. Be careful, too!

6. Take credit and push over, and do not conspire to work together.

All the credit is your own, and you see that the fault is caused by others. You must not plan to do things with such a person.

Observe the outward appearance and clothing.

We can preliminarily judge a person by a person's appearance, that is, to see their clothing and hats, whether these aspects are paid attention to, whether they are neat and clean, can be used to see people know people, if it is the kind of person who chases fashion, often goes with the flow, if it is simple and generous, it is more trustworthy.

Observe speech and behavior.

We can see from a person's appearance, and next, we should judge by his words and deeds, as the so-called listen to his words and deeds, we need to judge whether a person can be consistent with his words and deeds, whether he can stand the test, and whether he can keep his promises.

Whether or not to be polite to others.

We should pay attention to observing the person's etiquette, that is, we should pay attention to observing the details of his work and treatment, whether he can be polite and generous, especially when a person is developed, whether he does not forget his original intention, and can better see his quality and quality, whether his words and deeds are humble, and whether his behavior is polite.

Whether or not they are greedy for personal gain.

We should pay attention to see whether the person loves to be greedy for small gains, and must not deal with people who love to be greedy for small gains, and we should pay special attention to one point, according to which we can judge the people who interact with people, if this person is poor and down, but still does not take advantage of small advantages, but is self-reliant, it is worth associating.

Understand that people are divided into groups.

We should understand a truth, that is, things gather by like, and people are grouped, so if we want to understand a person, we can observe his friends. The kind of friends you have proves what kind of person you are, and what kind of people you have around you will learn from what kind of people you have.

Whether it is arrogant or not.

We should pay attention to whether a person is the kind of arrogant and rude person, if he is always very flamboyant, high-profile and arrogant, then this person will not do much to achieve, but will put him in a very disadvantageous situation.

Put it to the test in secret.

We should be able to test this person in a certain way, and of course, this test must be done unconsciously by the person concerned, so that we can quickly understand this person through this incident and his reaction.

In your dealings with people, bring yourself good luck. Those who understand themselves and know themselves are their confidants. Then such a person can become a bosom friend. I can help myself in difficult times

I think that if you want to recognize people, you must first make yourself a person who has a positive outlook, has the ability to see, and is not afraid of difficulties and setbacks. In other words, make yourself good first, and then you will know what kind of people you come into contact with. As the saying goes, things gather by like, and people are grouped.

When you are excellent, have positive energy, and be positive can overcome difficulties