Why do some people treat their families as well as outsiders?

1. Because some people's personality is to bully the soft and fear the hard.

Outside, he is kind to everyone, for fear of offending others, for fear that others will not give him a good face, and his poor self-esteem.

He is not allowed to lose face outside. But they know that no matter how he makes trouble or behaves, it is impossible for the people in the family to do anything to him, so he only dares to find a sense of existence in front of his family, and only dares to lose his temper with his family.

2. Because the tolerance and love of family members are taken for granted.

If a person steps on a stranger's foot on the street, he politely apologizes and explains: 'This place is too crowded. If the older brother stepped on the younger brother's foot, he would say sorry and that's it.

If a parent steps on his child's foot, he won't say anything at all. ”

We always think that our loved ones will understand us and love us unconditionally. In front of outsiders, we always wear masks, we always pretend to be friendly, so we feel tired, and when we go home, we take off our disguises, face our loved ones, and stop explaining when the conflict hurts. There may be many people who feel that the friendliness of their loved ones is appropriate and that they do not need to respond to it.

3. Because I feel that I have been with my family for a long time, I can slowly make up for it in the future.

Sometimes I feel very tired at home, so I don't want to strictly restrain my temper, so I start to let go of myself, liberate my nature, and hurt my family with mean words or impolite behavior. Although sometimes I regret this kind of behavior, but I feel that I still have a long time with my family, I lose my temper once or something, and I will be kind to them in the future.

I think it's the sense of security and self-esteem and the meaning of value that are at work.

1. A sense of security.

In your heart, outsiders will not tolerate your own bad things, and you are worried that if you yell at others, you will get negative comments from others or even ignore them, so you are cowardly and cowardly. The main reason is that you are not confident enough, and you care a lot about other people's opinions, and you want to get a sense of value from others, so you will care so much about others, and you are not good at yelling at others. But family can never abandon you, so you don't care about your attitude.

2. Self-esteem. You may be a person with strong self-esteem, because you care too much about other people's opinions, you dare not yell at others, and are easy to be seen through and despised by others, at this time your self-esteem is not satisfied, you will go to your family to ask for it, and you think in your heart that no matter how willful you are, your family will always be family and will not leave you, so in your relatives, you have a sense of security, so you will yell at your family.

3. Value. If a stranger treats you so nicely, you are very moved; No matter how good the people around you are, it's hard for you to notice. Why is that?

It's simple, because you expect different from them. You have no expectations for strangers, but you have high expectations for those around you. You don't expect a migrant worker on the side of the road, because although it is easy to get him, he is too worthy.

They are indeed equal in personality, but there are big differences in objective attractiveness and availability, and these differences determine what you expect from a person.

Your expectations of your family's tolerance of you are very high, because availability is in a very stable high state; You have low expectations of tolerance from outsiders because availability is very volatile. Once this outsider becomes a boyfriend and girlfriend or even a husband and wife, the expectations are high, and at this time, if the two parties do not adapt well to this change, there will be a lot of conflicts, so we are not good to the outsider.

Because when you talk about face in front of outsiders, you will show your most polite and excellent side, and you will expose your truest self to your family.

Because in front of outsiders, they will show a very enthusiastic attitude, which is also the way to get along, and the bad attitude when treating family members is because of filial piety under the stick.

Because of intimacy. Many people are like this, only in front of those close to us is our truest side, and there is no need for polite disguise.

Because you expect different from them. You have no expectations for strangers, but you have high expectations for those around you. So often strangers are kind to you, and you will be very moved.

Because you are more demanding of your family, you need your family to invest 100% care and love for you, as long as you are not satisfied, you will have a little temper. In addition, they are less demanding of themselves in front of their families and will not restrain themselves.

Because they feel that their family can tolerate their bad temper unconditionally, and their family knows them better, they will be forgiven even if they do something wrong.

In fact, many people's attitude towards their family members will not be as good as their attitude towards outsiders, because most people will leave their bad temper to their family members, to people who will not leave us because of our rudeness, because they believe that their family will never leave us.

It is precisely because family members are the closest people to us that we can put down our masks in front of our family members and be our true selves, knowing that our family will never leave us no matter what, but outsiders will not do this.

In fact, many times people are bullying the soft and afraid of the hard, outsiders don't know what the strength of others is, but their own people are very clear, and they are not afraid of offending people.

Because they don't understand that it is the people close to them who need to be treated with care, not those outsiders who are estranged.

Why do some people be kind to outsiders but grumpy to their families?

Family members are the most familiar people to each other, but they are also the most familiar strangers. In fact, everyone thinks they know someone very well, but they are not. I don't understand what outsiders say, so I can slowly understand and understand.

As for their own people, they think they understand very well, and those who know very well are unwilling to understand anymore, and they have a fixed mindset. So it's even more indifferent.

In fact, many of us have this problem, because we are afraid of a certain relationship with outsiders, and we are unscrupulous about our family members, because we know that our family members will not give up on us and fall apart, so sometimes it is caused by this psychology.

They are generally bullying the weak and afraid of the hard, and they are short-sighted, do not know how to weigh the pros and cons, and cannot distinguish between right and wrong. One of the most important reasons is that they are accustomed to the efforts of their family members and do not have contact with outsiders for a long time. Therefore, they will form a "deserved" mentality, ignore the contribution of their families, and also move towards the opposite side of family affection.

People who are particularly good to outsiders and especially bad to their families are particularly inferior. After all, people's inferiority complex must be turned into some "emotions" to vent. Especially the psychological imprint of low self-esteem, they want to hide it through certain things.

So, after they were bullied by outsiders, they would point the finger at their family members and lose their temper with them. People who are particularly good to outsiders and have particularly bad families are cautious and do not know how to be grateful. There are also such relatives around you, you treat him very well, and you are the kind of wholeheartedly, but he treats your sincerity as a "riverside grass", disdains, and has no warmth for you.

It is because they have not yet achieved true gratitude, have not truly experienced the sincerity of their families, but have focused on outsiders and gone astray.

1. Between family members, they have no scruples, they are straightforward when they talk about things. Because it is a family, it will be tolerated. Because of this, he is fierce and ruthless to his family.

2. For outsiders, on the one hand, it is etiquette, and secondly, this digging will take care of the situation. For outsiders, if the verbal training is too heavy, contradictions will occur, and even evolve into force. So in general, it is much more polite to outsiders.

3. When it comes to important things, it's still the family that is more outward. In case of trouble, most outsiders will not be able to hide from it. and even fell into the ground.

There will be such a phenomenon in many families, the atmosphere at home is very poor, usually there will be quarrels after less than three words, or there is a person in the family who has a particularly strong sense of control.

He does not allow others to question the decisions he makes, and he also allows others to go against his will, and he is in charge of all matters in the family, and even likes to lose his temper and even have a bad attitude towards his family.

But you will find that as soon as he goes outside, his attitude towards outsiders is different, he is very easy-going and even respectful to outsiders, and the attitude at home disappears again. What kind of psychology is this?

Psychological pressure.

Some men work hard outside for the sake of their families, and they will inevitably encounter forced smiles, acting on the spot, groveling, and controlling their emotions even if they are sad.

I have suppressed too many negative emotions for a long time, but I don't have the right opportunity to express them outside. As a result, you may choose to vent it in the face of your family, and you will inevitably have a little temper.

In this regard, as a family member, we should show understanding and care, and actively encourage men to express their true feelings and thoughts in their hearts, otherwise bad emotions will accumulate for a long time, which will be harmful to men and families. At the same time, don't blindly endure, express your inner feelings, find emotional ** together, and solve problems.

Otherwise, if a woman is too tolerant and indulgent to the other party, and always has a laughing mentality that doesn't want to care, the man may become even worse. When you meet this kind of person, you owe him in your previous life.

This is first of all related to the family, usually communicate with the family is not good, the leader has been tired of it for a long time, and it will be better than the family to care about it when outsiders care about it, and the attitude is also more friendly than the family.

It may be that some family members do not understand their children, causing some children to lack love for a long time and begin to get tired of their families.

Because of your family, you can hurt wantonly, but outsiders can't.

In fact, many people are the same, and some things are fearless, just like when you are in love and after you get married.

Because family members can be tolerant, but outsiders can't.

This is a common phenomenon, but also a superficial phenomenon, and the family is still recent.

Dealing with outsiders, I have changed a person, I will not be polite, but impatient with my relatives, and I need to put up with each other's bad habits every day. 's relatives are not as good as outsiders, and their self-esteem is super strong.

This habit is strong, and the requirements of outsiders are different, because he is a multi-faceted person, outsiders are not sincere, but his relatives are generally very tolerant, and his behavior and habits determine how to deal with outsiders, of course, he can't be too enthusiastic this year. For outsiders, the mental and emotional intelligence of adolescence is essentially used to staring at the key to strength, because impression management refers to a person influencing others' impression of himself through a certain method, and others will take it for granted.

On the contrary, they will pretend to be gentle in front of outsiders, and they must know how to be grateful and cherish. When impatiently complaining about loved ones,.

Most people are not as good as outsiders towards their families, as if this is a portrayal of many people, today I will talk about the reasons, I hope to attract everyone's attention.

Everyone is more dependent on their own family, and they will feel that they are a child where they have a family, which will make people worry less about themselves. When we get along with outsiders, we have more worries, and this is actually the real self compared to our family, and we will only relax in front of our family, so we often leave our worst temper to our own family.

We all know that in this society, many times we cannot succeed by our own efforts, and many times we need the help of others, and it is very likely that paying more attention to our words and deeds when interacting with outsiders will help us. Now is a society with many people, and if you have a bad attitude towards outsiders, you will attract all kinds of complaints from everyone, which will affect your future. Family members are trustworthy people, so they will feel that no matter what kind of attitude, the other party will not leave them, which will lead to different attitudes.

Family members are people who are related by blood, and they can be infinitely tolerant and understanding of themselves, even if their attitude is not good, they will accommodate themselves. Many times, the attitude towards the family is actually just a vent, the helplessness of life, the pressure of work, etc., just reflect the worst side of themselves, but the family knows the temper of the other party and will choose infinite tolerance.

Family members are the ones we have been waiting for all our lives, and many times we leave our bad tempers to them because we know that the other person will forgive us. However, I believe that you should always have a good attitude towards your family, so that your family can feel happy and you will make the greatest contribution.

Because your family is "safe" to you, it will not pose a danger to you, unlike outsiders, who may be abused or hurt by the other party if they have a bad attitude. This inner security and inclusion of our family leads us to be unscrupulous and less considerate of our family.

Because we work outside the home, we give all our good tempers to outsiders and all our bad tempers to our families, and home is a relaxing environment, and we relax when we come home.