Is affection a two person thing? What should I do if I run it alone?

Love is a two-way emotional exchange, the admiration of two hearts, the joy of two feelings, and the spark of soul and soul collision. If two people love each other, they don't need to deliberately change themselves to please each other. If she (he) doesn't like you, it's useless to pursue it no matter how deliberately you try to pursue it.

If you really like each other, it's too late to like it, and you need to be desperate to please them? Even if you move her (him) with sincerity, the feelings you get are a little reluctant, she (he) did not accept you so much, it must be that some of your conditions are not so in line with the requirements in her (his) mind, and you are moved by your temporary actions, but after a long time, if she (he) meets the ideal person in his mind, it is difficult to guarantee that she (he) will not change his mind. But it is often said that:

Give up on her (him), I can't live, I love her (him) so much! In fact, this idea is ridiculous, in life, who can't live without it? Without whom, the earth cannot turn?

Unless you really don't want to live anymore, no one can stand in your way. Usually what we think is the "only" thing is not really true, but we don't look for it with our hearts. True love stems from the heartfelt admiration for each other and is built on the basis of mutual affection.

Anyone who is crazy about loving others without caring whether he is loved or not, or who only cares about taking and not knowing how to give sincerely, will not end well. How many fateful people will be encountered in a person's life? Those who love you, who you love, all pass by one by one.

Point of view; Feelings are for two people, not for one person.

Opposition; When we do photography, when we zoom in, if it is too large, the noise will become more and more, and the picture quality will become worse and worse! Life is not like this, the distance between the two is too close, the sense of beauty is lost, and there are many problems, in a word: distance produces beauty!

The opposite side himself said that the magnification of ** affects the quality to a certain extent; So we can't break the balance of trust. Suspicion is a terrible thing that can ruin everything, including years of love. If you love her, you have to believe in her, and you can't just understand your thoughts.

Feelings are for two people, not for one person.

Distance produces beauty, right? When you and your wife go shopping; Is it before your wife leaves, after you leave? (mandatory).

Ask the opposing side; Are you managing love yourself, or are you managing love with her?

Feelings are a matter of two people, and when it is operated by one person, it is necessary to make the other party feel their love and care for him when doing everything!

Feelings need to be managed by two people, and no matter how hard a person tries, he can't support the relationship between two people.

Good love is managed by two people's hearts, because of the love in their hearts, two people can tacitly maintain a relationship with their hearts, and because they have love in each other's hearts, they can deal with the chicken feathers in their lives and various insurmountable gaps. Love is mutual understanding and mutual tolerance. No one is inherently suitable for whom, and good love is understood and tolerated by two people again and again.

Be. All feelings need to be managed, whether it is friendship, family affection or love, no matter what kind of love, it must be polished over time, and gradually love will reveal its original appearance. This may be very different from what was expected at the beginning, some people accept it silently, and some people give up on the relationship.

Therefore, in the face of the reality that love is polished by time, what we need to do is to work hard to make love maintain its original appearance.

Love is when two people get to know each other. If you have time, go to the countryside with her to relax. Sit down and talk. Loving someone is impossible to operate. Love doesn't have to be managed.

In reality, almost all the first round of quarrels started by couples are related to the contradictions that gradually emerge after the love period has passed.

For example, when you first start in a relationship, you will want to tolerate each other's shortcomings, and after the love period, you will feel that you can't bear it no matter what. When you first start in love, you will want to give him all kinds of space and time, and after the hot love period, you will want him to give you more company

So after the love period, we are most likely to have a problem: the gap in expectations.

In good times, there are all kinds of good expectations for the relationship, but after the expectations are broken, there is a huge sense of disillusionment in the heart, which will make us feel unbearable, so many couples who have passed the love period are most likely to feel that the other party does not love them anymore, and they will either endure it and try again, or they will completely deny the relationship and want to separate

And I think that the real emotional relationship only begins after the love period, at this time, if the two people can't learn to deal with the problems in the relationship after the disillusionment period, and can't accept the real side of each other, then it is difficult to continue to walk together, after all, love has to face the most real side of the other party, so what should be done? I think at this time, you and him should maintain a principle, that is, to communicate and solve feelings.

For example, when some girls find that their boyfriend is not as active as when they first got together, and he begins to focus only on his work again, then we may be very aggrieved in our hearts and feel that he has changed, and even some girls who are easily upset will feel that their boyfriend is hinting to them to break up, should they take the initiative to separate first?

But in fact, this is because after you have gone through the period of passionate love, your passion has cooled down, your reason has regained its dominance, and people will start to pay attention to your part again. And if the relationship can develop, it is not only from your own point of view, but from your own perspective to combine the needs of the other half, so that the relationship can meet the common needs of the two of you, so it is very important to communicate each other's emotional needs

If you want him to give you more company, tell him frankly, if he can't do it, you have to analyze the reasons together, after all, companionship is the most basic need in the relationship, we can use the idea of open dialogue to talk to him about the future development of the relationship, and if each other is not confident, how to develop the relationship?

The best result is that you can find the direction of future development, although there is no feeling of love, but each other can re-find the need to meet the development of the relationship, a long-term relationship is a relationship in which one goal after another is repeatedly completed, without direction, it is difficult for the relationship to go far.

In the process of two people falling in love, it is easy to have a burnout period after a long time of relationship, so at this time, both parties need to communicate more, understand each other's inner thoughts, and make adjustments and changes, so as to make the relationship sweet again.

1. Strengthen communication and exchanges with each other.

Many times when we do something, we don't take the initiative to tell each other, and there is no communication between the two, which often leads to misunderstandings in many things, and finally causes an irreparable situation. Only by communicating their ideas with each other in a timely manner can two people better understand each other.

2. Understand each other.

It's true that there is no empathy in this world.,Miskin, but we can understand each other.。 When two people get along, they need to think about each other and don't impose their own will on each other. Only by understanding and tolerating each other can two people get along better.

3. Be tolerant of each other.

When two people are together, you should not only appreciate each other's strengths, but also tolerate each other's shortcomings and shortcomings. Everyone has their own habits and shortcomings, so don't blindly blame others. Two people are together to help each other and constantly improve themselves.

No matter what the other party has lacking, we have to go to the town to be tolerant and accepting, and then we all work together to change.

4. Rely on each other.

Since two people are together, if they want to get along for a long time, the most important thing is to trust and rely on each other, if both people can't trust each other and rely on each other, then being together will only make each other very tired. We are looking for someone to be able to face all the storms together, not all the storms are brought by the other party.

5. Praise each other.

Anyone likes to be praised by others, because it is an encouragement and recognition of the other person, and no one does not like to listen to good words, and complimenting each other can promote the relationship between the two very well.