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The meaning of "filial piety" should be a combination of "nurturing affection" and "respecting relatives", and "being good at supporting parents". Material support is important, but if you are disrespectful to your parents, even if you are serving fine clothes and food, you cannot call it filial piety. Only by expressing the true feelings of the heart, expressing the feelings of respect, spiritual communication and spiritual comfort, can the essence of filial piety be truly embodied.

Advocating filial piety does not require sticking to the parents, let alone absolutely obeying the command and arrangement of the parents, but only requires the implementation of material relief for the parents when the parents lose their productive capacity and the social security is not perfect, so as to ensure the material foundation of the elderly's life; When parents lose the ability to take care of themselves, they may entrust relatives, find a nanny, or take care of them themselves.

In your spare time, you can often go home to see, play with your parents on holidays, and reach a certain level of communication with your parents mentally; By respecting the personality and individuality of their parents, the elderly can receive spiritual comfort and spiritual freedom, so that they can enjoy their old age in good health and health.

Traditional Chinese filial piety culture is a composite concept with rich content and wide coverage. There are not only cultural concepts, but also institutional etiquette. From the analysis of respect, it mainly contains the following aspects, which we can summarize in twelve words, namely:

Respect for relatives, dedication, service to the sick, stand, admonishment, and good death.

The essence of traditional Chinese filial piety is to advocate "respect" and "love" for parents first, that is, treating parents is not only material support, but also the key is to have love for parents, and this love is sincere love from the heart.

Without this kind of love, not only can you not talk about filial piety to your parents, but it is no different from raising dogs and horses. At the same time, Confucius believed that the most difficult thing for children to fulfill filial piety is to maintain this "love" at all times, that is, to treat their parents with pleasure.

Loyalty is loyalty to the leadership of a large country.

Filial piety is loyalty to the leadership of a small family.

One big and one small, both interconnected and repulsive, depending on the individual's choice.

It's hard to understand the meaning of the deep meaning when you think about it.

Let's put it this way. A little bit to get you started.

If: you understand, you are in good health, you are doing your filial piety.

If you live longer than your parents, you are filial.

You respect and respect your elders and leaders, no matter in any state, you respect and respect them, never show how much you have strengths in front of them, always happily live in harmony with them, and always you follow them, not them to follow you, this is filial piety. This is loyalty.

If you understand that you are good for your own body and good for your children, this is loyalty and filial piety.

You can truly respect heaven and people, whether this is your enemy or benefactor, this is loyalty, this is filial piety.

If it is done, the leader arranges, acts immediately, and does not bargain, this is loyalty, and does not have likes and dislikes because of the ability of the leader, this is loyalty, and it is not replaced by improper means (not even this idea), this is called loyalty.

If you don't move at every turn, you rebel, you change jobs, you don't eat and climb outside, this is filial piety, this is loyalty. ）

Therefore, it is said: Being a person is also a filial brother, and those who are good at committing crimes are rare. Those who are not good at committing crimes and are good at making trouble, there is no such thing. Filial piety is also the foundation of human beings.

The understanding of filial piety is to treat parents well, and it also contains the meaning of "Shijun".

"Relatives" and "Princes", these two aspects are the so-called "small filial piety to relatives, great filial piety to the people".

We can get a glimpse of it from the Confucian classic "Analects", such as Meng Yizi's question of filial piety. Zi said: "No violation."

Fan Chiyu, the son told him: "Meng Sun asked me about filial piety, and I said 'no violation'." Fan Chi said:

What is it? Zi said: "Life, things are courteous; Death, burial with ceremony, sacrifice with ceremony".

Filial piety is not against the will of the parents, and it is filial piety to serve and bury the parents according to Lilly. Meng Wubo asked about filial piety again. Zi said:

Parents are only worried about their illness. According to Mr. Nan Huaijin, a master of Chinese culture, it means that parents can treat their parents with filial piety with "the complicated feelings of parents when they see their children sick".

There are many more such in the Analects. From the perspective of "great filial piety to the people", the people refer to the people of society, and they are no longer limited to the narrow surface. "The Analects of Zheng Qiao" said:

Those who are not good at committing crimes and are good at making trouble, there is no such thing. A gentleman is a gentleman, and he is born from the beginning. Filial piety is also the foundation of benevolence!

It can be seen that from the perspective of social order, filial piety is an important part of maintaining social harmony.

How to repent of this filial piety:

When Chinese Confucianism talked about how to practice filial piety, Confucius said two words: color is difficult. Color is our face and attitude, it is easy to support our parents, but it is very difficult to always have a good attitude.

Treat your parents with a smile every day, a smile from the bottom of your heart every day, and a very sincere smile every day, which is the embodiment of filial piety.

But it's hard to smile and be sincere. It is necessary to deeply understand the meaning of the word "color difficulty", to cultivate Bi Congxun's grateful heart and heart of gratitude from the heart, and to provide for his parents with a meek, respectful and smiling attitude.

The ancients said: "A hundred filial piety is better than a shun." "Whatever your parents say, you must obey your parents' wishes, and if there is something that is not in your heart, you must listen patiently and then patiently explain. Don't speak loudly to your parents, and don't lose your temper in front of your parents.

Filial piety: that is, gratitude; Gratitude is a kind of strength, gratitude is a responsibility, and gratitude is an obligation!

The understanding of filial piety: children are born and raised by their parents, from birth, feeding and raising, washing and mending, sleepless care when sick, if it is a refractory disease, willing to sacrifice their lives for children; Slightly longer, teach basic life skills, provide reading, care about its growth, and never stop. The love that parents give to their children is a lifetime, which can be described as: family affection is priceless, and flesh and blood affection is deep.

And those who are children will always be in debt in front of their parents.

Children's filial piety to their parents is a basic morality and the foundation of social morality. Filial piety is a matter of course in human nature. The true meaning of filial piety is: "to repay the source, respect life, and seek development".

Parents should do it before their deaths: "respect and care, obey their wishes, do not lose food and shelter, keep their clothes clean and warm, and have medical treatment for their illnesses". Let parents "live with self-respect", "live healthily", "live happily", and "live a rewarding life".

No one is perfect." We should gently and softly admonish our parents' mistakes, patiently and gently point out, and we must never give our parents a rough reprimand or accusation, still less maliciously ridicule them.

The word filial piety is the word of understanding, and the old and the son together become a filial piety word. The old generation is the previous generation, the son is the next generation, and the integration of the previous generation and the next generation is called filial piety, so the previous generation and the next generation are inseparable. The word filial piety is like a son carrying a Lao Tzu on his back.

The previous generation thought about how to cultivate the next generation well, so that they could give an account to their parents, ancestors, and society. Children miss their parents on their backs, that is, they take the responsibility of supporting their parents on their shoulders, always think about their parents, and think about how to make their parents' lives happier and more complete.

In ancient times, filial sons could indeed think of their parents all the time. In the Spring and Autumn Period, there was a very famous filial son named Zeng Shen in the Lu State. Once, he went up to the mountain to chop wood, and a friend happened to come looking for him.

Zeng Shen's mother was loyal, and when she thought of her friend coming from afar, she must let him see Zeng Shen, otherwise she would not be happy with her friend, so she was so anxious that she bit her finger. After biting down, Zeng Shen suddenly felt heartache, thinking that something must have happened to his mother, so he immediately hurried home. When I came home and saw my mother, I immediately knelt down and said:

Mother, what is the matter, why does my heart ache? The mother explained: Because a friend came from afar and wanted you to come back quickly, I was forced to do so.

Therefore, in ancient times, people who were children were indeed thinking about their parents.

Do we have such an attitude towards our parents? No. Why not?

We recall that when we were children, no one taught us to be filial, and every day we may think about ourselves. I often ask children: children, do you know what your mother likes to eat?

They all said they didn't know. I asked them again: Does Mom know what you like to eat?

They said: Of course I do! And said several things.

I told them: Mommy thinks about you and knows what you like to eat. How did you give back to your mother when she took care of you like this*?

I don't even know what my mother likes to eat! Through this comparison, they can feel that their mother loves us so much, but we don't even know the basic life of our parents. What parents like, what parents like, we must do our best to satisfy our parents and support our parents.

So, I said to the children: when you buy things in the future, what should you buy first? Buy what mom likes to eat first.

The ancients had such filial piety, because they were exposed to the good example made by their parents since childhood, and education was based on filial piety, and filial piety was taught from an early age. It is not easy to hear filial piety in society now, because the teachings of the sages have been broken for two or three generations, and we have to start from scratch. Thank you, teachers!