How to deal with your child s unreasonable demands

How can parents respond to their children's unreasonable demands?

Recently, the news that a cleaner uncle spent three months' salary to buy a mobile phone for his child has attracted a lot of attention, which has also caused related discussions. ......When a child wants something but asks too much, parents need to take appropriate measures to deal with it. ......Specifically, parents should meet the child's normal needs, parents should resolutely refuse when the child makes excessive requests, and parents should point out the child's mistakes and help him correct them.

1. Parents should try their best to meet the legitimate requirements of their children. Every parent wants their children to grow up healthily, so they will spare no effort to cultivate and educate their children. ......In the process, the child will also make corresponding requests.

As long as these requirements are reasonable, parents should try to meet them so that their children can grow up healthy. 2. If the child makes excessive requests, parents should resolutely refuse. Sometimes, the child's demands will be excessive, beyond the ability of the parents to bear, and beyond the child's own needs.

For this situation, parents should resolutely refuse and cannot meet the unreasonable requirements of their children. Bab ......This will prevent children from making mistakes, and at the same time, it will also avoid the problem of parents spoiling their children. 3. Parents should point out their child's mistakes afterwards and help him correct them.

When the matter is over, parents need to take time to criticize and educate their child, on the one hand, point out his mistakes, and on the other hand, educate the child and help him correct his mistakes. ......Only in this way can the children be guided to the right path of growth, so that the children can grow up healthily, and parents will feel gratified.

In life, children will always make a lot of strange and even unreasonable demands, and almost every parent will encounter them. However, the parents' approach is different, and it will also have different effects on the children. Why does a child make these seemingly unreasonable demands?

1.Curiosity about the surrounding environmentEvery child has a strong curiosity, such as taking children to the mall to play, they have a strong interest in anything in the mall, and want to touch everything with their own hands, which makes parents embarrassed, and even asks a lot of difficult questions. In fact, curiosity about things often evolves into wanting to have that curiosity, so Zheng Hao will make some unreasonable demands.

2.Self-restraintSelf-restraint refers to self-control, self-control, and self-discipline. This ability is acquired, and children are very dependent on the outside world, for example, they need to be hugged when they are tired, they need to be fed when they are hungry, and they need to be urged by their parents when they get up.

It is precisely because of their lack of self-restraint that under this factor, it is easy to sprout some unreasonable demands. 3.Possessive people have a strong sense of possessiveness, but under self-restraint, possessiveness will be hidden deep and not easy to be seen.

But children lack this ability, they like to be alone in everything, want to get more, and do not know how to share and give, which is one of the main factors for them to make unreasonable demands. 4.The jealousy and comparison psychology of children is based on the basis of their friends, and when they see other children satisfied, jealousy and comparison will arise spontaneously, and there will naturally be a lot of unreasonable requirements.

Therefore, the partners around the child also determine whether a child has a serious comparison psychology. How can I refuse so that it doesn't hurt my child? First of all, be gentle and soft-spoken when rejecting your child.

Use a simple way to let the child understand what he means, and there must be necessary explanations, but you can't reason repeatedly, the more the reason will trigger the child's blame. Second, don't give your child the idea of "right and wrong" in the process of rejection. It is in the child's nature to make some unreasonable demands, and it does not mean that the child's idea is wrong, which will strengthen the child's inferiority complex.

1. Parents must fulfill their promises to their children. Parents must fulfill their promises to their children, and they can break their trust in their children if they do not break their promises; Parents should establish their own prestige in front of their children and formulate rules for getting along with their children. Let children learn to be a principled person and trust their parents and others at the same time.

The reason why the child cheats is because he thinks that this can sway the parents. Therefore, parents should be convinced of the child's cheating that it is ineffective, so that he will not repeat the old tricks.

2. Parents need to give a reasonable explanation. When parents refuse their children's unreasonable demands, they must make them understand why they cannot do so. For example, if you don't buy toys because you have the same toys in the family, if you don't buy luxury goods for him to ensure the expenses of his school and the expenses of the whole family, because "vanity" and "luxury" are harmful to people, it is the love and responsibility of parents to meet all the reasonable requirements of their children, and it is also the love and responsibility of parents to refuse unreasonable demands.

3. Appropriately divert children's attention. The child is obsessed with unreasonable demands and is willful and stubborn because he is still young and immature, and he cannot consider his own behavior from the perspective of others, nor will he consider whether his wishes are realistic and feasible. In the face of the child's stubbornness and willfulness, in addition to directly explaining to the child that he is forbidden to mess around, parents can also use the method of diverting attention to make him forget his unreasonable demands.

Diverting his attention to something else causes him to unconsciously abandon his original actions or desires.

If your child has an unreasonable demand, first tell him that the request is unreasonable, and what is the reason for the unreasonableness? Secondly, after telling the reason, the older child may be able to understand, or sometimes the child knows that the request is unreasonable, but still blindly asks. At this time, after we have told the child the reason for the unreasonable, it is to reject him, gently and calmly reject him, no matter how the child cries, you have to keep your heart like water, and when he is tired, hug him.

Saying that you can understand his feelings, but can't agree for some reason, and then move on to another topic.

Convince people with reason and learn to refuse appropriately. As people's living standards get better and better, many parents can't bear to refuse their children's requirements, and always want to give them the best school, the best food, clothing, housing and transportation, and the best everything. This will encourage the child's pampering and pride, which is not conducive to their growth.

Appropriate rejection is not to hit their self-esteem, but to let them understand what is desirable and what is not desirable, to retreat from difficulties, to do something and not to do something, to withstand the test of praise and criticism, and similarly, to withstand the rejection of others, and enhance the psychological ability to resist setbacks.

Teach him to be grateful and share. Everyone is born with family education, and it is family education that is most affected. Any child with good moral character has traces to follow.

Its cause is in the family. Its roots are in the parents. Parents' attitudes, as well as lifestyles, ways of thinking, and ways of doing things, will have a profound impact on children.

Therefore, as parents, we must also respect the old and love the young, be diligent and thrifty, be modest and courteous, teach our children to learn to share, learn to be grateful, and live as an example for children.

If we can't express our demands correctly, how can we let our children learn to express them correctly? A harmonious and warm family, with the subtle influence of parents, children will be more positive and optimistic when facing the same things. It can be said that every move of parents directly affects the child, what you are now, what your child will be when he grows up.

I will communicate with the child, and then I will also let the child realize that his request is unreasonable, and will guide the child to meet the child's unreasonable demand. Because such a practice is beneficial to the child's education.

I will teach my child well, and tease the child to understand that his behavior is very wrong, which will have a certain impact and make the child make certain changes.

I will listen patiently, and if the request is not particularly reasonable, I will decisively refuse and will not compromise, because this will build prestige.