Strange psychology, what to do? 100

If you don't love it, I advise you to stick to your own principles. Perhaps your current compromise is for the sake of your relatives and friends, and for the sake of filial piety. But if you don't love him, there are only two possibilities for you in the future, and you will fall in love with him in the future.

But it's very unlikely, very small, and it's almost like a miracle. The vast majority of chances are that your life is a mess. In this case, you are sorry for yourself, you are sorry for this man.

Your future bad life will also affect your parents, your friends, and it's actually a bigger hurt to them. I suggest you talk to your parents about it. I also have to adjust my mental state, the world is actually beautiful, the problem lies in ourselves, change our attitude, life may change.

I wish you happiness...

Hello. I am a counselor. As it happens, we are still the same age.

After reading your description, I have such a feeling. You are a perfectionist and have high requirements for love. Before the age of 25, you strive to find the only one who is "destined"; After the age of 25, there are no illusions about love.

Whether it is the fantasy that was once beautiful, or the melancholy after the bubble of fantasy "burst". It all stems from your pursuit of perfection in love.

At present, you are forced by the "caring pressure" of your loved ones at home and have to choose a marriage. You call this marriage a marriage to someone you don't love. It's really not a good choice.

The family wants you to get married, because they want you to be happy, but they don't want to miss it. But if you get married in this way, I'm afraid they won't be able to see you happy. In the near future, you will still be worried and anxious about your life.

If you want to marry someone you don't love, can I think that you are "rebelling" against not wanting to get married and having to get married? If this is your subconscious decision to prove the mistake of your loved ones forcing you to marry with a failed choice, then your decision is irrational. You're betting on a bad life in the future, and you're going to have to bear the troubles of this failed decision.

A little advice, I don't know if it's appropriate or not, I hope you will consider it carefully before marriage.

No, it's all hurt by romance ** and romantic movies. Do you think about how many big stars have performed their own beautiful love, and they have enjoyed it themselves? This is life, which is always contrary to the imagination of the individual's head!

Let's talk about those love stories, that is not the soil that has left reality, their roses don't need money, their houses don't need money, and their identities are also there from the beginning.

And we don't have that condition, so we have to be down-to-earth, cherish what we like when we meet us, and then enjoy this love.

When you have nothing to do, look at monthly magazines like "Contemporary" and "Harvest", there are many realistic versions of love in them, which have nothing to do with romance, but are the most genuine romance.

Then don't be too anxious to get married, you must find the right person!

Dear, in fact, I think about the same as you, but I know to give myself a deadline to pursue romantic love, I am 24 years old this year, this is also the last year for me to pursue perfect love, if in 2010, I still haven't met him who is destined, I will cherish the person who loves me in the future. Because I understand that love is not the same as marriage.

Actually, I can understand your parents and I can understand you. But I want you to be accountable to yourself. The reason why there are men and women in the world is because they can support each other to create a life.

Therefore, it is recommended that you, on the basis of respecting your family, choose someone who you do not hate and who loves you. It's also worthy of yourself. After a long time, love = family affection.

You learn to adapt to the people around you, believe in them, even if you don't marry him, but you still have to marry, in fact, everyone has their advantages, I hate being a doctor the most, but I still do a doctor, and I feel okay after a few years, so you have to try to look at the advantages of each person, try to minimize the disadvantages of looking at him, I hope you can do it.

Maybe you are very beautiful, you believe in fairy tales too much, you have drawn a very perfect congruence sign for marriage and love, love is expected to be very romantic, and marriage is indeed very realistic.

However, true love is contained in the reality of married life, find someone who can accompany you to grow old.

In another 30 years, you'll know what love is.

Who told you to keep your eyes above the top when you were young? Are you old now? Nobody wants it, right? Regret it!

The vast majority of people who are accustomed to self-denial have a positive subconscious inside of them – "I want to be better!" Perhaps the subject has some perfectionist tendencies, and the psychologist Carl Jung famously said: "God created man, and man wants to be God".

That is, "God is omnipotent and perfect, and he created mankind." And we humans want to be God Almighty, to do everything well."

Man is a human being, and instead of doing what man should do, he will do what God wants to do. This is who we are.

1. Improve your own awareness.

Some things happen through no fault of your own, and you always think it's your fault, but it has nothing to do with you, such as the acne on your girlfriend's face. Look at everything rationally, and analyze whether it has anything to do with you from the perspective of others.

IIDo your own thing well and help others under this premise. Noisy

Your business; My business; God's thing. Look at the world with another eye, not everyone in this world is very smooth, but it depends on how you solve it, and you don't recognize it as if you are perfect. Confess that you are a human being, not a god.

Admit that you don't have a lot of things you can't do well. So as to really make ourselves feel that we are a real, real person, so that we have the strength and energy to do what people do, not to do what God wants to do, and there are some things that we are not able to do, such as the illness of our girlfriend.

IIIFollow your introverted choices.

If you can't accept your girlfriend's illness now, it's better to let go as soon as possible, get together and disperse, follow your heart, don't think it's your own fault, everyone has their own choice, this is responsible for your own life, if you are willing, don't dislike your girlfriend's illness, and think that you can be responsible for your girlfriend's life, then go all the way.

4. The things of the world can be divided into two kinds in nature

What can be changed and what can't be changed. Change what can be changed, accept what can't be changed. Use your wisdom to combine the two well, so that you can live a happy life.

When you encounter things, you must analyze them carefully, and you must be confident, don't take everything on yourself, and be reasonable.

Adjust your mentality, don't put so much pressure on yourself, realize that you are very good, everyone is a unique eggplant, and strengthen your heart.

I think you should make friends with people with a more positive and optimistic attitude, you will often blame yourself, and it is possible that you are more inferior and not particularly optimistic, so the rubber shirt will always think like this.

There can be several reasons why you feel uncomfortable in a crowd:

1.Low self-esteem: Feeling nervous in one or more aspects of one's language, posture, and appearance, and fearing to expose these shortcomings in a crowd.

2.Sensitive: Being overly sensitive to interpersonal relationships, or neurotic, then you will feel uncomfortable with the occasional look at someone else in a crowd, and then you will have the illusion that someone else is staring at you even if no one is staring at you.

3.Bad Experiences: This feeling can also occur when you have experienced emotional damage in past relationships.

4.Self-requirements are too high: self-esteem is very strong, self-love, for fear of not doing well, afraid that others will laugh at you, or catch yourself not doing very well, so you have a strict monitoring of yourself in your heart, and as a result, this illusion is generated.

The solution: give yourself full self-confidence, believe in your own strength, calmly face the ordinary things that happen to yourself and others in the crowd, and adopt a calm-accepting approach to the words and eyes of others.

I wish you more success tomorrow!

I've felt this way just like you, probably because you're more likely to be shy and an introvert, and I'm pretty much that kind of person, and I like to be alone. In fact, it will be better to communicate with friends and classmates, hang out together, and participate in some group activities. In addition, you can also belong to the more narcissistic type, just like you said that you attach too much importance to other people's ideas, always thinking about making yourself do well, if I meet someone staring at me when I will also stare at him hehe, anyway, your psychology is not very strange psychology, when walking in the crowd, look at your own things, think about what you should do, and slowly it's fine.

Friend, in fact, this Jing Yanxun problem is a problem that everyone will consider, but there is no need to think about it and worry about it all the time, just fine.

I think the two problems that caused you to be like this are the sum of the two problems you yourself said: the lack of money + a bit of a stinginess itself.

In addition, if you don't spend the money to yourself, you feel distressed, you are afraid of losses, and you don't want to spend money for your friends, which shows that you have a knot in your heart that has not been opened, and it is also related to your domineering, selfish, and unknowingly shared with others since you were a child. But your mind is still normal.

That is, your inner reading is white:

1. I am very uneasy and worried about myself without money - this reveals a sense of insecurity in your heart;

2. My money is mine, and if I give you my things, I will be very unhappy;

3. I'd rather not be with you than let me spend money on you;

4. I spent money on my friends, but I suffered a loss, and others would not be grateful to me.

Does this think that if the real jujube is your inner monologue, is it correct? Is it a fact?

You like the achievements of the English speakers rather than the process of their learning, and if you really like English, you won't feel that way.

It's not a psychological problem, just like a normal person walking and suddenly being beaten with a stick, this kind of education is like a stick, forcing people to accept it is a kind of violation, of course, I get dizzy, my point of view is more alternative, there is a problem with English education methods, the key is to say more, people are forced to really enter the state, in order to concentrate.

I think you should recognize that games are games, and their purpose is to entertain and entertain. First, you should not find the value of life in games, because games do not have any value in life except for entertainment and relaxation. Second, since it's a game, why do you set yourself so many unnecessary limits?

Relax, relieve stress, and his goal will be achieved. So I suggest you don't put so many strings attached to yourself.

In addition, it is recommended that you set a time to play the game, such as 2 hours a day, then play for 2 hours a day, regardless of whether the task is completed or not. You must have self-control at this point, self-restraint and others can't help you, it's almost up to you.

You can also distract yourself from gaming by taking up other hobbies, such as reading, exercising, and gathering with friends.

Hope it helps.

It sounds like the game isn't fun anymore and more like it's about completing tasks. And this task must also be completed quickly and well. So what was supposed to be a relaxing game has now become a kind of stress, even torture.

Maybe you can ask yourself what makes you have to play the game the way you do, and why do you have to complete those tasks? What if it's not done?

Taking a step back and rethinking the problem in this way may help you find a solution.

In fact, it is the lack of love in life that is fundamental.

The game is just a way for you to vent. You can choose other ways to vent your frustration. For a game, it's just entertainment, and if it's a mission, it loses its meaning. I think you should shape your character. That would be better.

Hehehehe, hehe, it's the same as me, I'm too, I finally squeezed out time to play the game, I did a task and actually had a good reward for the last boss, but I died, I could have played again, but I couldn't play, because the game had a value, and I couldn't kill it anymore when I finished playing, I was ruthless, took a pill, and it turned out to be dead, and I was depressed when I played, and I really found out from years of studying the connection between the game and the mood, and it was your own mood problem, and you said it yourself, Even if you are tired and still want to play and do tasks, you might as well take a break and choose a time when you are in a better mood to play.

Don't be serious, don't get bogged down, if you're serious, you'll lose.

Looking at what you wrote, it is estimated that your own experience has affected your personality, and you feel that children from normal families rarely have some emotional resistance to themselves when they encounter a bad side of life, so they are not really too enthusiastic to communicate with them and make friends; As for liking travel, literature, this is all personal hobbies, nothing, just like you said that friends in the consideration of their own economic situation after thinking about their own economic situation if you go out to play, there will be a period of financial constraints, if you don't go, there is nothing, you can also deal with some sudden use of money, these don't care too much, you can also empathize with the things they are considering, some things may be clear!

A lonely life is a period of time that everyone has to experience, but some people are shorter and some people are longer, I like to be lonely, very cool, of course, this "loneliness" is not the meaning of "lonely", loneliness is to learn to take care of yourself, but don't be lonely and don't get to know others, that's the real disease! Now you can talk to others more, even if it's just a boring thing that doesn't hurt, and when you graduate and work in the future, you must talk to your colleagues, and there is no way to live.

As for your final statement that you pay attention to having your own space, this can only show that you have a strong sense of personal feelings, similar to the feeling of a strong woman, but don't think that you are strange and sick! I don't like strangers to intrude into my life, and even a little repulsive, you have to change this slowly, don't let others intrude into your life, and you don't take the initiative to communicate with others, I'm afraid that you will become "withdrawn" in the future!! Some people who are genuinely friends with you may also be sad because of you, and you don't like to hurt others

I don't know what I'm talking about, don't mind! Someone in the TV series "Family Property" said this sentence: "There are 2 hardest things in the world, one is to put other people's money into your own pocket, and the other is to put your own thoughts into other people's heads to make him think the same as yourself!" ”