What do you think of the phrase if you re serious, you ll lose ?

If you're serious, you'll lose", is a popular phrase on the Internet now.

However, when we are usually in the office, we often talk about this sentence and make jokes with each other.

My job is in the grassroots sector. In many cases, the instructions issued by the superior departments are not easy to implement at the grassroots level, because the superiors do not know the work of the grassroots very well, and some of the instructions issued by the superiors "behind closed doors" are actually very difficult to implement in the eyes of our subordinates; At this time, some workarounds are required from the subordinates to execute. Some people can't figure it out, and they complain loudly when they see unreasonable notices, often complaining while working, and then others go up at this time to make a joke:

Hey, don't say it, don't take it too seriously, if you're serious, you'll lose!

Therefore, the phrase "if you are serious you will lose", I think the main encouragement is that we should have an accessible and harmonious attitude towards everything, which of course does not mean that we should not be serious and rigorous, but that we should have a flexible and flexible outlook on life.

and the world to get along with the world around you.

The opposite of roundness and flexibility is more real, drilling the tip of the horns. Let's take another example, let's say a colleague of yours who has done a small project and feels really good about herself. I came to ask for everyone's opinions, and I like, most of the time, my colleagues made constructive suggestions, and the shortcomings of him were to knock on the side and inform her in other ways.

But at this time, it would not be good if there was a Leng Touqing who came up and stubbornly grabbed some small problems in the project and repeatedly made a fuss. I think at this time I can give him a sentence: "If you are serious, you will lose!" ”。

After all, people just want a win-win situation, not really trying to point out how bad her project is. At this time, if anyone drills the tip of the bull's horns and grasps the shortcomings, won't it make the atmosphere very embarrassing, and everyone is very unhappy?

Therefore, in many cases, we must be able to be flexible and solve many problems encountered in life in a harmonious and accessible way. I think that's the meaning of the phrase "if you're serious, you'll lose"!

In fact, this sentence has been very popular for a period of time, on the Internet, in social spaces, including QQ space, Weibo, and circle of friends, but this is really one of the Internet buzzwords I hate the most, because if you are serious, you may only lose to your opponent, but if you are not serious, do not do any struggle for your dreams, for your ideals, and for your career, then you have lost to yourself.

In the show, a guest said that seriousness is not actually a virtue, it is just a tool, but I think this tool itself is a very beautiful quality of human beings, no matter how you treat anything, if you are not serious, with a dispensable or very disdainful mentality, I think you do anything, there is no need to do it, because you don't care about the result at all.

Whether it's in singing shows, talent shows or various sports competitions, who do we often give applause to? It may not be the people who win the championship in the end, but the people who know that they may not win the championship, but still work very hard, persevere, keep fighting, and challenge their limits. And we tend to look down on people who think they are gifted and have a very strong sense of superiority, and they don't care about anything, and they can be disrespectful to the whole event, but also to the opponent, or even to themselves.

<> seriousness is not to take the result too seriously, some people will take this point to refute, thinking that you are too serious is too concerned about the result, too concerned about the result will not play well, in fact, this is a fallacy, this is a sophist will have the idea, serious is a basic attitude of everything, if you are not serious on this basis all other work is in vain.

So in this last session. I think between the two debaters. If you choose to be serious, you will lose, this position is actually very unfavorable, because he tells others that if you are serious, you will lose, and it is difficult to say a very new thing from this point of view, so I still think Chen Ming's performance is not bad.

First of all, I want to make it clear that I am not optimistic about the final decision of BBKING with such a debate.

This is a more ridiculous Internet phrase, and you can't deny that it conforms to a certain objective reality, and the so-called existence is reasonable. Since such a sentence is circulating on the Internet, we have to admit that for a certain objective situation, this sentence has its truth. But in context, it's not hard to see that this is a very difficult sentence to argue.

Serious, what is seriousness. The "serious study" and "serious work" mentioned by the young grandmother in the debate are naturally serious, but we should understand that this seriousness is more inclined to a more sincere attitude towards human feelings and sophistication in the Internet. Personally, I think that the seriousness here is really not like seriousness, but should be more serious.

Therefore, my understanding of this debate should be that you will lose if you are "more serious".

Let's look at the second point, losing. Losing in the context of the sentence "If you are serious, you will lose", it is more inclined to lose the emotional initiative. Is this a loss in our conventional definition? Apparently not.

And it doesn't make much sense to lose the college entrance examination and lose the game by analogy with this loss. We can say that if you put too much emphasis on the result, you will lose, but this is also a more serious category than a serious one.

So in the end, if you are serious, you will lose, and this debate topic lacks real points that can be debated. Moreover, there are too many vague concepts in it, and the definitions are difficult to be precise. It's like a young grandmother who sophistries to the point that you think I'm losing, I just need to think I've won.

Just like in a relationship, is the breakup a loss, and growing old together is a win? What is seriousness in the relationship, and what is playfulness.

Of course, if I were to talk about seriousness you would lose this point, and I personally think that seriousness will not lose. Whether in a relationship or in a variety of other situations, seriousness as a good quality represents too much. It is diligent and hardworking, persevering, and not abandoning or giving up.

No matter how you look at it, I don't think seriousness is a loss. On the contrary, not being serious is losing.

I think it's possible to lose if you're more serious.

According to my understanding, the meaning of this sentence is: when you are obsessed with winning and serious, you will lose, because if the opponent who is playing with you does not care about the result, even if you win, you will not be happy to win, so the person who said this sentence wants to express his own free and easy attitude, so as to ridicule serious people, and I think that not every sentence can be used on everyone, maybe for me personally, I will say more freely: "I am serious is to win, or a positive sentence:."

I'm serious, I'm happy "So, don't care about any word, because any word may not be useful to you.

This is just a kind of thing that tells you not to be too "serious", and to some extent, it also makes you not get too entangled in some things. This can make everyone good, if you have to correct others, to correct everyone, then in the end, you will find that you will have fewer and fewer friends, so you have to look at other people and what they do, you have to look at them with a humble mind, not say you have to argue a 1234.

In the sentence "if you take it too seriously and you will lose", being too serious should be understood as being too serious, and you have to distinguish between black and white, however, the more you know, the more you can understand that the world is not black and white. So when you take it too seriously (more seriously), you are wrong and lose.

I think it's a lot of things, a heart, is losing, this sentence recently came out of my mouth, leaning on the red and green, talking and laughing, quite a bit to see through the appearance of the red dust game in the world, the elder brother said, this is the incarnation of the iron man, invincible, McGee said, this is the Tao, become, genius writers can't write good works for no more than two reasons: they are either blinded by a notion that they feel must be proven, or driven by an emotion that they must express. As soon as you get distracted, you lose.

This is a two-sided problem, it depends on which aspect and what are the things to face, from a positive point of view, the word serious is very good, serious life, serious study, serious to talk about a relationship, turn off the mobile phone, seriously eat a good meal, and don't get entangled in troubles, seriously appreciate the beautiful things around you, etc., from the side, serious is sometimes indeed a stepping stone.

Personally, I feel like a serious person, you can really lose, because you are not discussing one thing, but you are talking about each other, wasting energy in vain air-to-air. To have a quality discussion, it is first necessary to reach a consensus on the content and scope of the discussion, and at least not to engage in personal attacks.

Score different situations, I think "self-improvement, virtue" can explain, self-improvement, is serious in the career, virtuous, sloppy in human feelings, sloppy in human feelings, more difficult than serious in the career, but in the degree of "one vote veto" determines the success of the career. Therefore, people can't be too serious, and careers can't be serious.

I don't agree with this statement, it's one-sided and wrong.

1. Why is there such a sentence?

The reason why this sentence appears is because there are too many asymmetries in romantic relationships.

In such a relationship, there is often one party who behaves like this:

Giving too much in a relationship, but not getting something in return.

I always feel that I love each other more than I love each other.

I feel that he doesn't love himself at all and is tired of himself.

And he is still trying to please each other.

It is precisely because of such a situation, and when this situation occurs, both parties are often unable to resolve it in time, so it is easy to cause unilateral injury or both. Therefore, the saying that "whoever wants to be serious will lose" will exist, and from this point of view, it is not unreasonable.

2. How to deal with unequal romantic relationships.

The above-mentioned love is actually an unequal relationship. The party who feels aggrieved is too emotionally involved and tries to gain the attention of the other party through a humble series of temptations, while the other party is not emotionally strong and does not act in a way that makes the other party feel safe.

When you realize that you are faced with this kind of relationship, you must not compromise on everything. It is necessary to analyze objectively and calmly, whether there is a problem with the mode of getting along or a problem with the relationship.

If it's just a problem with the mode of getting along, two people can calm down and have a good chat, confess their inner demands, and stop "letting each other guess". Through such rational expressions, try to solve some problems that do not involve the bottom line.

But!!! If there is a problem with the relationship, if the other party really changes his mind or has no feelings, you must learn to stop the loss in time, don't stick it again, let go of the past, and leave in style.

3. Correct view of love.

Whoever wants to be serious loses" This sentence is one-sided and wrong! It can cause some misleading to others, especially teenagers. We must establish a correct view of love and don't be misled by some extreme statements.

A good relationship goes both ways. The love between two people cannot be compared, but there is no doubt that they give each other without reservation.

Correct love means that we must have the courage to love others, the ability to learn to love others, and the reason not to be carried away by love. If both parties really love each other, then when they love, they should love boldly and give boldly.

But don't lose yourself for the sake of the other party, and don't compromise for the sake of the other party. If they love you, they must be tolerant of you, encourage you, and support you.

First of all, I don't agree with this statement.

1.Here's how I see this statement:

If a love relationship fails, the person who takes it seriously and gives is hurt even more. Because he is serious, he becomes a passive party, his "status" is more humble, he gives more than the other party, he loves more than the other party, and he is more involved in the relationship, and he will naturally be hurt more.

2.Reasons why I disagree:

Sincerity is the nirvana of all relationships.

Falling in love is not a person's thing, in fact, when one party thinks about this aspect, the relationship is destined to end in failure. BecauseThe voice of the heart can't be reached, no matter how you pay, there will be deviations, and feelings are not games, why fight for who losesWin

People who take their feelings seriously are more worthy of themselves, although he may regret why he was so good to him after the relationship ends, it is undeniable that he has loved this scene very seriously, and he will not leave any regrets in the relationship, thinking that he is the cause of the failure of the relationship. To believe, it is the other party's regret that the other party has lost a person who loves him.

3.Speaking from my own experience:

I had a relationship in my freshman year, but it was a bit sloppy to start, and I wanted to talk about a relationship vigorously, but I didn't know each other very well. But in getting along, I really treat this relationship well, I will try to find his preferences from chatting, know his habits from his friends, and prepare all kinds of small surprises during the festival, because I think that treating feelings needs to be sincere.

But later, he was really perfunctory, he thought that falling in love was just a play, just a tool to show off, and he also said to me this sentence "If you are serious, you will lose", it was really sad at that time, but then I figured out that it was he who did not cherish it well, it was he who was not worthy, and there was no need to question his sincere love.

I hope you guysWhile remaining sincere in love, you should also keep your eyes open, don't look at the wrong person in confusion and let yourself be hurt。Even if you are hurt, if you really take this relationship seriously, don't doubt yourself, maybe everything is the best arrangement, this is because your fate is not enough, and you will definitely meet someone who will go both ways with you later.

Hope it helps!