Mom has terminal cancer and wants me to get married 20

I think your mom wants someone to take care of you on her behalf.

Every parent is for the good of their children. If you are happy, your mother will be happy.

If, just to make mom happy, you accept this arrangement casually, then I don't think it's fair to everyone.

However, looking at your expression, it shows that you don't want to get married, but that the object is not the ideal other half of your heart.

I suggest that you have a good talk with your mother and talk about your feelings. Of course, you have to express your love for your mother first, and then tell your mother that your life will be fine, don't worry.

As for getting married, it's your life's worth and you have to think about it carefully.

Regret can't be filled with anything!

How can people find a favorite one so easily? Even if you find a special favorite one, it can only make you feel happy and satisfied for a short time, what about a year or two later? I don't think you're complacent because you have a good husband, right?

There's nothing wrong with them. It's all nonsense, but you really should think about the first sentence.

I know it's hard for you to do, but you can't force it! You have to think it through.

If you already have a boyfriend and have a good relationship, you can get married for the sake of your mother's wishes. But if you are single, you don't need to do this, because it's unfair to yourself to the one who marries you in a daze. Here's why:

1. If you have a boyfriend, and both parties are rushing to get married, then you have to get married early and late, and if you can, your mother has a wish, it is better. After all, I plan to get married, and I also have a suitable partner, although in some details and pomp, a hurried wedding may wronged me, a wedding that is not what I imagined, maybe some regrets, but there is a way to make up for it; And a wedding that lacks a witness, a parent, can never be made up.

Second, if you are single now, there is no need to rush to get married for the sake of your mother, because it is irresponsible for yourself and your husband. Cancer is a terrible disease, it is only a month or two from the discovery to the onset, and in this time, to find a partner, and get married, is in a hurry, do not understand both parties, if you are lucky, you may really find a good person, but if you are unlucky, you may find a person who is not suitable for you, for yourself and each other, it is an irresponsible behavior. Sometimes you don't get married for the sake of getting married, you can act in a play, but you must not use marriage as a play.

Therefore, sometimes, although filial piety is important, it is not to be exchanged for decades after yourself, if there is, you will be happy to get married early, if not, then don't deliberately go to flash marriage.

I think you should follow your heart, not for whom you get married, it is not easy for your parents' generation, they all hope that their children can have a good development, have a good career, a good job, marry a good person, have a good family, your mother has cancer, you can let your mother see with your own eyes in your mother's last days, it is good to marry someone who likes you and loves yourself, but it is not worth it simply to make your mother happy. I believe that your mother will not be happy because you got married in a hurry to make her happy.

Marriage is a matter of course, there is no time to get married or age only to get married, parents are hoping that their children have a good home, hoping that they can live a peaceful and healthy life after their absence, but you get married in a hurry because of this, if the future life is unhappy, the parents will definitely feel uncomfortable. There is still an essential difference between a person's marriage and falling in love, and the impact of marriage and divorce on a person is huge. Although divorce is no longer a big deal now, it is unfair to both parties to be with someone you don't know or don't love enough in order to make your parents happy.

There are too many couples around us who look like each other, and there are too many relationships that exist in name only, and this kind of thing is really something that can only be done if you want to do it, and you can't get married because of anything else. Of course, this kind of family change is very able to test a person, who is already very in love, after the family encounters such a big thing, the two people feel that they can get married in advance, then there must be no problem, or that sentence only the feelings that should be married. Be worthy of yourself.

You have to tell your girlfriend that in this case, ask for her consent, the twisted melon is not sweet, and even if you get married, you will not be happy in the future! Feelings for each other are important!

It's really confusing to encounter such a situation. Imagine that my mother has cancer, an incurable disease, and I don't know how long my mother will live, and my heart must be in turmoil. As a son, I definitely want my mother to be able to see him start a family, drink a cup of daughter-in-law tea, and hug his grandson, which is human nature.

But in this case, it is also necessary to do the right thing. What I want to say is that you need to know if you and your girlfriend have enough emotional foundation to get married. Because marriage is not child's play, feelings are a very serious matter, and you can't make another thing bad because of one bad thing, which is what you need to clearly recognize.

At this time, you should think about this question, if you have been in a relationship with your girlfriend for a long time, and you think that the foundation of your relationship is already very strong, you can be sure that the person you have been with for a lifetime is her, then I think you can get married with your girlfriend. At this time, you can solve a lot of problems, your life events are decided, and your mother can see that you are married. In this way, it is possible to fulfill your mother's wish, which can be said to have the best of both worlds, and this should be the best ending.

If you haven't been in a relationship for a long time and don't have a solid foundation with your girlfriend, you just got married hastily because of your mother's illness. I'm afraid you'll have emotional problems in the future. Because the time of acquaintance is so short, you haven't had time to get to know each other well enough.

Therefore, in this situation, I think you should think clearly and weigh the disadvantages. If you think the time is ripe, I think you should go and get married, and if the time is not ripe, I don't think you should get married hastily because of your mother's illness, so as not to regret it later.

One, you are very kind. Kind enough to easily marry a man because of the last wish of an old lady who has nothing to do with him.

Second, you are stupid. No matter how you fulfill others, you can't make your own lifelong happiness a condition!

Three, you are very sweet-hearted. Look at what your in-laws' group of people have bullied you into! Grandpa can throw you in the face, even the eldest sister-in-law can throw you in the face!

Fourth, your husband doesn't care about you. In his eyes, you are still an outsider. That's why I help others in everything.

Suggestions: 1. Apply for a new ID card as soon as possible, and deposit all your wages and income into your own card in the future. If you have money in your hand, your waist is hard!

2. Moving. Why does such an unreasonable sister-in-law still live with her?!

Since you love your husband, then don't divorce, he is not very bad to you, but he is too attached to his family, it is better for the two of you not to be with his sister when you go to work. Try to go home as little as possible, otherwise you won't have as many chores. Grandpa will also age over time. I want to open a point.

I think you should give up, really, for your own good, while you don't have children now, if you have children, you can't get together in the future, and then break up, it will cause a lot of harm to the children.

If you're really tired, divorce and have no children, or choose to endure.

Give up if you should give up.

Condition analysis: Hello, in this case, your boyfriend really doesn't consider the situation at home, the wedding calendar is honestly held if you don't go, and whether you go or not is only a matter of face, and it can't be too big a thing.

Guidance: 1. When your mother is hospitalized, your boyfriend shouldn't let you go to the wedding at all, how can you be in the mood to go to the wedding.