I don t like to talk, I can t speak, how can I train to be able to speak? 》

The same disease, the personality is here, and it is difficult to change.

First of all, you have to overcome your nervousness.

Don't wander around the computer too much, try to make contact with real-life people.

Say what you want in the best way to express it.

Don't think it's useless, that's how I overcome.

The aura of the talking person is stronger, more able to move people's hearts, experts say that this is the difference in thinking, if you want to improve your thinking, you must see what position he is in when the person who can talk and why he says so, generally from three aspects to figure out why he said this in order to transform into his own ability, so that after a long time of thinking can grow into a person who can speak. If you want to be a person who can deal with people, I think you will find which groups in life, such as: officials, ruffians, businessmen, there will be some taboos of group characteristics, just try not to violate these taboos.

Here are a few common mistaken personalities that I hope can help you: 1. Self-centered thinking, characterized by 1).Hope that others will serve him, 2).

Backward understanding, for example, A is the leader who once said to B because of one thing, "Chacha asked him to find me", and then another thing said to B, "Chacha is who", he will understand backwards as "Chacha is who asked him to find me"2 The thinking of money is too heavy, and others have the word "money in a sentence", they will think that people are talking about money, but in fact, people may say that this matter is interesting, or want to express other meanings. 3.Personality A sentence is understood by the general public as one meaning, and in his expression it is another meaning, so it is more difficult to communicate with people.

4. Extreme, specific examples are not easy to mention, you can do some personality tests to see what differences you have in thinking, or read some books or check on fortune telling** to check whether you have a character that does not adapt to society and correct it, which will help you deal with others.

First, since you have doubts about this, then you are lucky that you are a person who loves life very much, and you care about other people's opinions and opinions, and you want to be recognized by them. By the way, what I want to say is to have a positive attitude first, let others accept you, it doesn't really matter whether others accept you or not, the key is whether you want to or not, and it is important to have confidence in yourself.

Second, I like to talk to others, in short, I love to communicate, don't forget, it is a habit, a skill in life, and it is to be accumulated slowly. We often say that to form a habit, you should start with the small things around you.

Third, do the person who likes to talk, rashly listen to it is aimed at yourself, I think it is actually aimed at others, talk to a small extent, dialogue, two people, I say you listen, I am willing to say, you are willing to listen. What I mean is that the person who listens is also more important, and the person who speaks must grasp the measure, and the expression must make the other party willing to accept it.

Fourth, you have to have what you have to say, you won't know nothing, and you should be reckless and stupid to talk nonsense to others.

Fifth, personality factors and environmental factors will affect or even change yourself, so you should also reflect your positive side in life, take life as your own testing ground, express yourself when you have the opportunity, exercise yourself, and then cultivate a cheerful personality.

Okay, that's a quick run, I hope it helps. Wishing you happiness, friend.

Then you talk less and listen more and listen to what others have to say! Think about it in your head before you speak, think about whether you should say it, go around it twice in your head, and then say it!

Talk to those who can talk more and learn slowly.

Electric lights appeared, kerosene lamps disappeared.

A small routine makes a man inseparable from you.

Too many skills, you just remember, don't care what you talk about, how much praise people!

14 must-have rules for clever communication.

1 Understanding People and Human Nature--- Man is first and foremost interested in himself, not in other things, in other words, a person is more concerned about himself than about other people or other things.

2 Learn to lead others to talk about themselves--- and when talking to others, they are most interested in using the words themselves: "you" or "your" rather than "me" or "myself, mine."

3 Learn to praise and compliment them in an important way--- to care about their families, and pause for a moment before answering their words, showing that they are listening attentively and thinking carefully about what they are saying. Affirm those who are waiting to see you: "Sorry to keep you waiting".

4 Learn to approve and approve--- when you approve of others, be sure to say it. When you disagree with someone, never tell them unless you have to. When you make mistakes, be afraid to admit them. Avoid arguing with people.

5 Learn to listen--- look at the speaker, don't interrupt the speaker's conversation, and ask questions subtly and appropriately. Listen attentively, understand the other person's temperament and personality, and at the same time discover the needs of the other person, find out what the other person wants, and then tell them that you are willing to help them achieve their goals and how to help them.

6 Learn to quote others --- let them speak for you. Speaking through the mouth of a third person invisibly strengthens the authenticity of the facts described. For example:

7 Tell people why they agree and promise you--- ask questions that can only be answered with a "yes." Let people choose one of the two "good". Expect people to say yes to you in either/or and let them know that you're expecting them to answer in the affirmative.

8 Smile more than others--- The key to using a smile to create an atmosphere of relaxation, harmony and closeness to others is timing.

9 Praise others sincerely--- praise the act itself, not praise others. Praise should be timely, not too long. Also, make it a habit to praise three different people every day.

10 When criticizing others, it is important to raise it when you are alone--- do not shout, do not open the door, do not be heard by more people, and save some face for the other person. Praise a little before criticism, and criticize things not people. And tell the other party the right way to deal with it properly.

11 When expressing gratitude, look genuinely --- at the person you want to be grateful for. Say the person's name when thanking them. Do your best to thank you.

12 Make a good impression on others--- Be self-confident in yourself and your profession, don't be overly impatient, don't elevate yourself by belittling others, and don't hit anyone or anything.

13 Be sure to understand and be clear what you are saying--- and when you have said what you have to say, sit down. When speaking, look at the audience. Talk about some topics that are of interest to your audience. Don't try to give a speech.

14 The principle of communication with others--- 20% ask questions, 80% listen, learn to be obedient, do not interrupt others, do not point out the mistakes of others, do not guess what the other person thinks.

It's good to communicate more, don't speak too bluntly, it's easy to offend people.

Practice and watch more, I'm an orator.