I feel like I m too kind, why don t I think I m kind?

Because since childhood, many adults have told us that people like this are all **. Let's not believe it, maybe he'll fool you along. So we often use this kind of thinking, thinking that he is **, ignore him.

But does he really have to be a **? In fact, not necessarily, there are really a lot of people who are unable to support themselves and have no relatives, or even if they have relatives who are unwilling to have him, there are also people who have been abandoned for various reasons. They really can't support themselves, and in order to survive, they will come out to beg.

Fortunately, I don't see such people on the street now, otherwise every time I see them, I feel that my heart is better than not going. It's not that I don't think I'm particularly unkind. The point is that when you feel a little uneasy in your heart at that moment, you forget it after a few minutes, and this is the time when you feel that you are particularly unkind.

I always feel that I am too heartless.

In fact, there are not only such examples, but there are also many times when I feel that I am particularly unkind. But let's not condemn ourselves too much. After all, no one is perfect.

Because everyone has good times and bad times, and it's just because of this that we are human beings. People always have a lot of rich emotions and they are changeable.

Yes, I still don't think it should be, and every time I think about it, my heart is still quite blocked. It was one time when I met someone on the road who fainted, but I pretended not to see it. However, after I told my friends about the incident, they also agreed that more is better than less, although they felt that they were not kind, and that sometimes kindness needed restraint, otherwise they would hurt themselves.

Feeling that you are not kind actually shows that you are essentially a kind person, otherwise you would not be aware of the problem of kindness.

It's really a little disturbance, friends, evil people, these guys never realize their mistakes, they only take their mistakes for granted, and it's someone else who is wrong.

In life, it is inevitable to encounter such and such difficulties, as well as all kinds of choices, sometimes, for the sake of your own interests or family, it is inevitable to choose to be selfish, which is no way.

We live in this world, and it is very good that we can understand good and evil, and choose to show our good and fierce intentions when we can.

It's not that you're not kind enough. But as the age of the annihilation grew, he encountered a lot of human accidents. Obviously, he is enthusiastic, but he has been scolded by many people.

Mingli and clear that he is enthusiastic about others. but others think you are calculating him. It's obviously a trivial matter, and I ask someone else to help bury it.

Protecting him is a gesture, just not letting you do it.

Slowly, I also feel that what I did before was too worthless. Slowly, it became what you call unkindness.

Why did a person who was originally kind suddenly become unkind?

When I wrote about this topic, my heart was a little heavy. In February last year, my colleague Huzi got married. Originally, getting married was a great joy, but Huzi was worried, because the woman asked for 100,000 yuan for the bride price, and Huzi had just bought a house and really had no money.

Huzi opened his mouth to borrow money from me, and after discussing with my family, I borrowed 30,000 yuan from Huzi.

Huzi said: "At the end of the year, the unit will issue a year-end bonus.

I'll give it back to you. ”

At the end of the year, Huzi won the 40,000-year-old final award for his excellent work. But he didn't say a word about repaying the money. On the thirtieth day of the Chinese New Year's Eve, I sent a WeChat message to Huzi.

As soon as I made an expression, Huzi said: "Regarding the matter of repaying the money, I can only wait, I still owe a lot of foreign debts, and I will not be able to pay them off for a while." ”

I was a little unhappy, but for the sake of face, I didn't continue to ask for it.

On the 8th of last month, my cousin Meimei called me ** and asked me to transfer 5,000 yuan to her quickly.

Mei Mei said: "I am buying goods from other places, and I am still a few thousand yuan short. You quickly transfer it to me, and I will return it to you as soon as I get home. ”

Without saying a word, I transferred the money to Meimei.

The next day, I heard from my uncle that Mei Mei had been hanging out in other places, living in a fixed place, and defrauding many relatives and friends of money on the pretext of doing business. I hurriedly called Meimei and found that she couldn't be contacted.

As the saying goes: "Eat a trench, grow a wisdom." "After the above two things, I finally realized that my kindness did not hurt others, but only hurt myself. In the future, I will learn to refuse to help others and protect myself.

Perhaps, many people, like me, find that they are too kind and too easy to fool after going through some things. To be a man, you must have a good heart and do good deeds, but you must see clearly who the other party is, you must see the truth of things, and really don't give kindness to others in a daze.

When a person becomes unkind, it is not his nature that has changed, but often for the following three reasons. As the saying goes: "People are good at being bullied, and horses are good at being ridden."

A kind person is not easy to bully, but trusts others too much, and when he experiences some special things with Laye, he will also know how to protect himself.

Hello, you feel that you are not kind, which means that you are a kind person at heart.

I believe that you are a kind person at heart, so you can see your own shortcomings and want to change, the more tolerant people are, the greater the blessings, and do not do to others what you would not do to yourself.

There is a delicate balance in this world, and if you treat others well, you treat yourself well.

Everything in life is not counted, but good; The breadth and narrowness of the mind, the pattern that determines fate, how much you can tolerate, how much you can have. Qin Qing can see everything, think through, take it, and let it go, learn to endure his temperament, know how to restrain his desires, and be rational when retreating, so that he can adapt to his own situation.

In fact, in real life, if a kind person encounters something, he does not get the corresponding return, and he does feel a little uncomfortable, but the character cannot be changed, and the innate kindness cannot be erased.

I am a person who does have some introverts, my mother also said that I am a kinder child, I meet some people who need help, I want to help, although I don't have any money, but if there is a need I will be closer when I just live, a little power.

In fact, the kindness of my faction also makes me suffer, I am a divorced woman, with a child, the house was my mother-in-law's family at the beginning, and I said that after getting married, I would go to my son, that is, my husband, and then I had no property, so now I am still renting a house because I have nothing in the divorce, and my wife is not very profitable, just like people say that there is nothing. Others say I'm stupid, even my parents say the same, but I know they are angry, at first I may feel very aggrieved, very angry, but now I want to open, although I have experienced a lot of things, there will be some differences in my heart, that is, I have become more independent, but kindness still exists, so Feng Envy can also affect my child, so that he has always been kind to life.

Kind people are often not praised by the world for the following reasons:

There are people in this world who will not be grateful to you for your kindness, your dedication, or that you can be treated well. Because of the individual's differences, the upbringing and conduct vary greatly.

The reason for this is that good people don't argue with others, and they take forbearance as the main thing when they suffer a little loss, and this attitude is considered weak and easy to bully in the eyes of others. As the saying goes, if a person is good at being bullied by others, and if a horse is good at being ridden, others will gain an inch and become more arrogant, and the situation of a kind person will be more difficult.

Learn to be kind to yourself :

1. Be kind to yourself, while busy with life and work, don't forget to eat and sleep on time to ensure a good life.

2. Be kind to yourself, even if you are busy, you should take time to relax yourself, do what you like to do, and eat what you like to eat.

3. Be kind to yourself, don't be happy with things, don't be sad about yourself. Don't be jealous because others have it, and don't feel inferior because you don't have a sedan chair.

4. Be kind to yourself, a person's life cannot be as calm as water, and there will always be setbacks. Smile in the face of difficulties.

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I'm such a filial person, that is, sometimes when I encounter something, I will say that I will never do this again. Thing. It is that he has been a good person, but he has not been regarded as a good person by others.

And sometimes it's like the title says. Instead, he was regarded as a bad person or did a bad thing. But when this thing passed.

If I ever had something like this again, I would still sit in front and do it. Because of this quality of mine, I can't go against some of my own thoughts, even if some people think I'm a bad guy in the process. I don't agree with what I'm doing.

But after the pass, if something like this happens again, I will continue to stick to it, and I will continue to do it because of my kindness. In my work, this kind of thing happens a lot.

My job is a service job, so I have to deal with a lot of people in this job. And man is the most difficult to deal with, because he is always changing, especially his spirit and his thoughts. So in my work, I have been very serious about communicating with others and getting their opinions.

And then do what they mean and do it very sincerely. But sometimes after I've done it, people see the results and suddenly they seem to change their minds, and they say I haven't talked to him, and that's not what he meant. It seems like I've done everything for nothing, and I'm doing it wrong, completely not in the way he intended.

At this time, I was the object of reproach. I found that I was so sincere to others, so sincere to be a kind person, but in the end I didn't get kind results, and sometimes I feel very helpless.

But after some time. The idea that I didn't want to be a good person anymore will disappear. Because I always want to be a kind person, and this kindness will always be the bottom line of my life, and I can't go against my bottom line.

Even in the process of doing it, I suffered something, but. I'm still going to stick to my goodness, that's who I am.

A person is very kind and soft-hearted, this is not a problem, this is a good thing, this is a person's noble character.

A kind-hearted person must do something based on thinking about others, which in the eyes of some people who are not very kind. In fact, a kind person gives people the impression that it is beautiful and permanent, although others are silent, but others still admire you, recognize you, and accept you in their hearts.

There is a good saying: "Those who are blessed come to come, and those who love love to return." ”

In real life, there are too many such examples.

When selecting talents, we must first think of good moral character.

When looking for a partner, you should also find someone with good character.

When making friends, you should also look for someone with the right mind.

If the parents are good people, the average child is not far behind, and the child is a mirror of the parents.

The heart is kind and the heart is soft, it can't be changed, and there is no need to change it. However, although there is no intention to harm people, but the heart of defense is indispensable, don't think that there is only Snow White in the world, in fact, there are also big bad wolves. It is still necessary to be more careful in everything.

Because he is kind-hearted and soft-hearted, he is always bullied, and if you want to find the reason why he bullied you, he can't bully you.

If the person who bullies you is because of his bad character, you should stay away from him, and if you can't leave, you must guard against him and not be hurt by him.

If the person who bullies you is the kind of snob, you will stay away from him.

In short, you can't fight violence with violence and fight evil with evil. The person who bullies you will be prevented at least and the law at worst!

Be kind, yes.