My husband is a public examiner, where should I go?

I still want to open it a little, now that you are a pregnant woman, you must pay attention to avoid negative emotions as much as possible, which is not good for the baby and yourself; I don't know why you bring up your husband's low salary and compare it with you, this kind of thing should not be in the life of a couple, think more about him loves you, it hurts too much to care about this; Political and history majors either change careers, or just like that, try to communicate with him more, talk more about his plans for future life, he must still want to live a good life, the life of two people still has to be lived by two people, and it is right for women to have a career, so as to make themselves invincible; I think the child's problem should be within his ability, it is really inconvenient outside, then take it at home for a few years, and take it over when you go to kindergarten, you have to believe that even if you don't meet often, children still love their parents by nature; Since you are pregnant now, there must be a lot of negative emotions, but I think two people like each other, and life has not reached the point where you can't go on, don't take out the idea of 'giving up this marriage', it's too hurtful, it's really hurtful. If there is anything, you still have to be calm, think about what you planned at the beginning, and now that there is a problem, think about the solution, and don't make a decision blindly.

In the end, I still hope that you are happy, I also have such a big husband, I am one level higher than him, my life is very trivial, and sometimes I feel very poor, but think that two people can be together for so long, they are very happy, and you will be the same.

Tell him directly, once you can, twice you can forgive, three times I will have a strong wind, it depends on whether the emotional boat can withstand the wind and waves! If it's not windy, he always thinks that he can't walk in the creek, but when the wind blows, he clearly tells him that we are in the sea! Let him grasp it himself!

Habit! Habit! The words are used to the point of despicability, and if you can't do it, you will leave.

Since you can call your husband, it means that you are a legal husband and wife. Between husband and wife, each has a ghost child, and has different dreams in the same bed. Does it still make sense?

You need to communicate openly and speak your mind.

You're categorized in campus life, how can someone answer.

Maybe you should both sit down and have a good talk and see what the problem is? It's not okay to go to the civil affairs department, after all, it's not a matter for the two sides to get along!!

You work hard, hit her again, and if it doesn't work, you'll leave.

Some things still need you to make your own decisions, if my guess is right, in fact, you already have the answer in your heart, but you don't dare to face it!!

Love him, you can guide him to progress and work hard for him

Let's talk first, and if you can't talk, leave!

By law, or divorce

If you are wrong, learn a lesson, it is also wrong for your husband to beat you, review each other's husband and wife, and its benefits will be broken.

It's not right for your husband to beat you, but why did he beat you? In short, the man who beats his wife is unreliable.

Divorce, find another one while you're young.

Do you have children, if you don't have it, just leave and find a new love.

The relationship between husband and wife is like this, it slowly becomes dull, and it is good to get used to it.

Is he a woman out there?

You should care more about him, he needs more care now than you do!

Why? You're doing something wrong.

You like him a lot, he doesn't care about you.

It is better to change the world than to change yourself.

You've recognized your shortcomings: "I'm not the gentle type, and I'm hard to talk on the front page." Right.

In front of my husband, I said that I was not motivated, and I didn't read or study when I went home. Stir-fry salty. Bad living habits, snacking...

Whether you divide it or not, getting rid of these shortcomings can make your life better, and I wish you happiness!

Let's bear with it for now. If it doesn't work, ask your husband to sign a house for you if he betrays you, or give you a special amount of money as a mental loss fee for betraying your subordinates. The terms thus concluded are legally recognized.

This is the worst-case scenario. Secondly, I think you also have something wrong, your husband's family lacks a sense of security, but you may also look down on your parents-in-law in your heart, in short, you are already very good, your family does not have to pay the mortgage, and the pressure is lower than that of ordinary people. Try to hang out with your parents-in-law and buy them gifts from time to time.

I don't think there's much of a problem with you, maybe you're younger. Looking back in a few years, maybe these are nothing. Or how filial to your parents-in-law, at least that's your beloved parents, although he tells you how they are bad, but you can't say it, let alone say it to others.

The first two points are forgivable.

bai, I don't like to eat outside du, I think it's you

Point, the restaurant where the dao is now is really reassuring, ** belongs to your mother-in-law yelling, that is a matter between their mother and son. The last three points cannot be forgiven. These three points show that he doesn't care about you.

Marriage is a shoe that you put on your feet, and you know best whether it is suitable or not.

Read your narrative copy.

Feel the attack. It's still not objective enough, because after all, we don't know about your husband and your parents-in-law and the conflicts between you, etc. But the question you mentioned, I don't think I can understand. So it feels like your relationship has broken down.

If I feel right to you, it might be wise to divorce before you have children. In fact, divorce is not an unsightly thing, sometimes divorce is the real responsible attitude for both parties. But you can't say love and not love as you said.

For what you have narrated is an expression of your love. Therefore, love is the greatest motivation for people's lives.

If you still have feelings for him and want to save your marriage, you can calmly separate for two months and let him taste what it is like to be without you. Obviously, he has a woman outside, and if you don't feel good for him anymore, it's better to break up, while you don't have children yet. You're not here to babysitter him.

It's okay!! The main thing is whether there is still that reluctant relationship between you!! If there is, don't leave, people say, what is still the original match, your husband is not very bad!! Living frugally is a good habit! Or the couple have a good talk and communicate more!!

Understand your feelings, a home that can't give you warmth will make you want to escape. Let's talk to your husband and in-laws and communicate with each other. Then decide whether to leave or not.

Also, if you decide to divorce, you also have to discuss it with your parents, and your parents' support and opinions will help you a lot in your future life.

Such a family, I feel sad for you, if what you are describing is the truth, you are in a place that does not feel at home, such a few people, even if you try your best to do a good job, there is no way to undo it, this situation I am not good to make any evaluation of you, but in my personal opinion I am pessimistic!

Give yourself a month and give him the last month a chance, say that this month will get along well, there will be no disputes and no quarrels, just treat it as the last month of this marriage, cherish it. It's not that you want to tolerate it, but I just want you to adapt to him with such a personality, and at the same time let him understand what you want, and then whether he can do it depends on whether he meets your own requirements.

After a month, if there is no change, let's separate peacefully, either enemies or passers-by.

Let your husband see a psychiatrist, and then consider whether to divorce or not.

I don't think it's easy to say divorce once you get married, judging from what you wrote, your husband should have a lot of shortcomings, but fortunately, there are these shortcomings, if you are too perfect, I believe you will live more tired. Your relationship needs to be slowly run-in, if there is anything to say to him directly, and tell his parents that if he himself does not repent and then has an affair, then you can consider divorce, because it is too hateful.

I'll send you a word "leave"!

Needless to say!

In real life, love is non-existent or rare. Don't measure life by individual love examples. It can only be said that in life, husband and wife can be more harmonious, which is a good life.

Be more tolerant and you'll be better. While you are dissatisfied with some aspects of him, he is also full of complaints about some aspects of you. Don't try to change the other person, but adapt to him.

If you really can't adapt to him, just divide it. Don't remember that don't measure the feelings in your life by the label of love, you will hit your head and bleed.

In fact, there are feelings to be able to be together, and it is recommended to first implement the first step of reconciliation by changing your words and deeds.

In the real world, most families may have the same problem, even if you think that separation is a way to solve it, but there is a reality that even if you remarry, you will still have problems, perhaps worse than now. Of course, you may meet a husband who loves you more, but a bad family is not necessarily ......

Communicate a lot, always look at the merits, and the menopause of marriage will soon pass.

Personally, I think it's still emotionless, so let's leave.

It's really not to the point of divorce.

It is not easy for a man with such conditions and a standard of living like yours to meet in a place like Shanghai.

Not to mention that after you get divorced, it will be difficult to find the same conditions, let alone find a better chance.

Since he "didn't fight back before, he actually fought back now", it shows that he used to be very tolerant of you. If you know that you have your own reasons, then look for them in yourself.

Laundry, cooking, and cleaning the room are contracted by you voluntarily, since you are voluntary, don't complain, so as to bring out the emotions, otherwise, the direct "victim" brought out is him, and he will naturally feel annoyed after a long time.

With your standard of living, and you don't have any burden, you can occasionally hire hourly workers to clean up and so on, and free yourself from it. A little more time and energy to take care of yourself, he is not romantic with you, you can be romantic with him, of course, the expenses must be moderate, otherwise your husband's thrifty personality will probably backfire.

Let's talk about it one by one:

1. Although he attaches great importance to money and lives frugally, doesn't he treat himself specially, thrift is still for his family in the final analysis, and such a man is much better than a man who is only willing to spend money for himself.

2. His attitude towards your in-laws and your in-laws' attitude towards you are not the most important, they can be changed, your husband is not polite to them, but you have more room to play, making yourself more sensible and virtuous.

3. As for not caring about you, men are careless, what you need him to do, or what you want him to do, you can tell him clearly, but you have to talk about skills to be calm, otherwise, he doesn't feel that he has done a good job at all. Since it is understandable that I can't come to see you often because I am on a business trip, do you want your man to take a leave of absence at work because of his wife's miscarriage? The care of your mother-in-law's family is always only superficial, as long as the two of you are doing well, what can they do if they don't do these superficial efforts.

4. This is actually intolerable to most women, but don't you know him very well, what woman would really throw herself into her arms for such a "stingy" man, at most ambiguous. Instead of single-mindedly defending, it is better to improve your charm and direct his eyes and energy to yourself. When it's time to have a baby, let it be, maybe the arrival of the baby will completely change his values, and there is no man who doesn't spoil his child after becoming a father.

Isn't loving your children the same as loving you and loving your home?

5. There are no other problems, your relationship is good, his life is full, and he naturally has no energy and time to look at those **. It is precisely because of too much attention on these ** that he is more and more interested in you, so let's lure him away from these things little by little.

An analysis of the issues you have listed is as follows:

1, since you are in love with each other to getting married, you should know what flaws he has in dealing with feelings, and since you can accept and come together, you must understand and slowly help him improve, you say that he is selfish and stingy, so have you ever thought that he is used to this, from this question it can be seen that you lack sincere communication, and do not know and understand each other, so you always think about problems from your own point of view;

2, from your attitude towards his usual life, your mind is still very immature, there are so many entanglements in his heart, you don't help, you don't resolve, you don't understand, and you always think that your ears should be pure, you live together, don't just consider your own feelings, his mother has never disliked you, it means that he loves you very much and doesn't allow others to talk about you, this is actually his attitude, he always wants to get used to you;

3, you always think about your own feelings This is too selfish, you must know that maybe your husband's heart is more sad, and he still has to support to make money, you just need to lie down and recuperate, try to ask who is more stressed;

4. You think too much about yourself, and almost never consider his inner feelings, and he cares too much about you so he is always disappointed, and in the long run he will dislike you;

5. You never think about whether you are wrong or not, you are always looking for his fault, since you are willing to walk together, don't be too picky.

To sum up, your husband actually loves you very much and cares about you, and you don't actually love him, so you don't have a good word, no matter what, you made your own decision to live with him, and the decision about the happiness of your life is your own decision, and now you always talk about the other party's fault, in fact, are you better than him? It's very good not to dislike each other in your current marriage, besides, your husband and you are together alone, and he has never been under pressure and has never received your help, which means that he loves you very much and doesn't want you to suffer, you are content, otherwise there will be regrets