Is it because I love to care or my husband has never treated me as family?

I have been married to my husband for more than ten years, and I can be regarded as supporting each other and loving each other, but what happened recently made me have to re-examine our marriage again.

My husband and I are free to love and get married, when we get married, my husband's family background is very ordinary, there is no house, no gift money, and there is no so-called three gold or something, that is, to get a marriage certificate, hold a banquet, prepare a new house, buy a few pieces of furniture, even if we are married, we will buy these, we also owe 10,000 yuan of foreign debt, after marriage, my husband and I are also conscientious, diligent and diligent work, dare not have the slightest slack. Just to pay back the 10,000 yuan as soon as possible, even the child didn't dare to ask, because I was really afraid that there would be no money to raise the child, and finally in 03 years, the debt was repaid, and then the child was born, and the monthly husband paid a little more than 2,000 wages, paid the rent, water and electricity, living expenses, and after confinement, the child's milk powder money has not yet been settled. It's hard to put into words when you think about it...

At that time, I was really young, and I wasn't afraid of anything, but if I put it now, I really wouldn't dare to have children, hehe. This is the case, after a few months, I received a ** from my father-in-law, saying that he was going to starve to death at home, there was no money, and he wanted us to send money back, my husband heard this situation, and he was very anxious at the time, and immediately sent a thousand yuan back, who knows, it didn't take long, and my father-in-law called ** again, saying, there is no money, the money is spent, and I have to send it again. My husband was also anxious now, and said, there is no way, I only have such ability, and I don't have any extra money, and I still have children and wives and mothers to support here, so I hung up**.

For the sake of my father-in-law's affairs, I have said to my husband a few times, now my father-in-law is not old, only in his early 50s, you can go out to find something to do, at least it will not be very difficult to support yourself, we have just got married and had children, and our education is not high, and the money we earn now is only enough to support ourselves.

Later, the child was half a year old, with eczema, and a lot of red bags on his head, I took the child alone, and I had no experience, and I didn't see a few doctors, so I was very panicked, and decided to go back to my hometown and take care of the child with the elders, my mother's house and my in-law's house are an hour and a half away by car, like me, <>

Married for a few years, but also rarely stay in the mother-in-law's house, not suitable for living in the mother-in-law's house at all, only the child's grandparents want to have children, call ** over, I will take the child back, in fact, most of them live in their mother's house, every month the husband gives me a fixed living expenses, I forgot how much, once I was about to have a birthday, my husband had already called ** to my mother-in-law, let my mother-in-law go to the town to buy some food when I had my birthday, and have a happy birthday, at that time my mother-in-law had land, she said, When she came back from her work in the field, I would go to the town to buy groceries and eat whatever I wanted.

I thought to myself, this hot day, 3-40 degrees outside, and I have to go to buy vegetables by myself, forget it, I'd better go back to my parents' house, my mother-in-law grabbed me and said, what are you doing back, celebrate your birthday here, this is your first birthday in our house, I smiled and said, no need, you are so busy, I and my children here will only delay your work, <>

Let's go back to my dad's side, so I packed up my things and took the car back to my parents' house, and when I got home, my uncles, aunts, aunts, and uncles, as well as my cousins and cousins, all brought gifts, and my parents also made a big table of dishes, and warmly greeted everyone to eat and celebrate.

You're paying too much attention to him.

It feels like there's only him in your world.

It's all with you, which means that the feeling at that time is you, why are you still struggling so much? Forced him to figure it out, wouldn't it be good for you to leave you?

Do you not have your own friends, your own work, your own hobbies?

Personally, a good relationship is one that depends on each other but is able to live independently, you adore him and he dotes on you.

He won't be as good as you think.

You won't be as bad as you think.

Divert your attention.

Think about it, if your mother is talking to you in your ear about everything, you won't be annoyed.

"I feel like I love him and I always want to give him the best. I want to share delicious and fun things with him. "It's that you feel you love him, and that doesn't mean he thinks you love him.

So this may not be a plus, and it may even be useless. You need to do what he thinks is good.

It can also be said that your husband is not considerate enough, not careful enough, and does not know how to respect. You either talk to him and say that everyone has sensitive words, even if the person who said it thinks it's nothing, but the person who listens is still a little uncomfortable, let him be respectful and don't say these words again. Either be generous and don't mind the details.

First of all, there is no perfect person or thing in the world, so your husband is not, if you want to have self-confidence, then find out where your husband is lacking, that is the goal you should improve, his lack is your strength, is there a place for him to worship you? Your self-confidence will come naturally.

Stupid people have stupid blessings, your husband must have taken a fancy to some of your characteristics, be confident, it's okay, he loves you.

Your EQ is high, his IQ is high, balanced.

Be confident. You are the best. Don't feel inferior.

This is already a bit excessive, it is very inappropriate to call someone else's husband dear, you should communicate with your husband, let him understand and pay attention to these problems, after all, if this behavior is not curbed now, it may develop in the future, and then the problem will be serious.

I think it's better to take care of it, ambiguity is the beginning of original sin.

These are all small things, you think too much, and he gets angry and says that you didn't buy him a gift just a rhetoric when he is angry, and it may not really be angry because of this. It is true that getting along with husband and wife is a very deep knowledge, mainly relying on both husband and wife to have a tolerant heart, and there is no need to pursue things that are not principled. I think your husband is not a stingy person, he can buy you gifts on many holidays means that he is a person with a heart, he cares about you very much, everyone has a bad mood, just understand it, you can ask when he is in a good mood to know the reason for the anger, don't just hold on when he is angry.

If your husband is a calculating person, then you definitely don't just complain about such a small problem, but a big pinch of his stingy number of articles for netizens to judge, isn't it? I wish you all happiness!

Smart men have their sights set higher and farther away.

Marriage is a combination of two people who love each other for a common and beautiful future, and the "small contradictions" and "small quarrels" in marriage are just small sand in the long river of marriage.

When a man's gaze is not focused on the width and length of the river, but complains about how piercing those tiny sands are, the marriage is about to go wrong.

Sister Lin said that her husband didn't know if it was menopause or the peak of his career, and he was a little unbalanced, and he was always finding fault at home recently.

It's either that the nutritional mix of today's dishes is unbalanced, or that the ground is too dirty.

It seems that I can't do anything to meet his requirements now. Just don't do it, he also nags, nagging while doing it.

For this reason, the two have quarreled very frequently recently, and after every big quarrel, Sister Lin will shake her head helplessly: Is it worth arguing about such a thing?

However, my husband has to distinguish the winner and loser, and he has to prove that he is right, and he can't stand that he has to follow him in everything like a "mother" for a day.

Smart men only focus on the big things, and what about the little things that are inconsequential "follow" the woman?

Love is the best way to solve all problems.

Because I love you, I let you win; Because I love you, I let you have the upper hand; Because I love you, when two people have a conflict, I will give you a step down; Because I love you, I don't bother with you.

After Chiang Kai-shek and Song Meiling got married, in the face of Song Meiling's princess temper, Chiang Kai-shek did not "compare truth" with her, but chose to "take a step back and open the sky".

There is a song called "A Good Man Shouldn't Let His Beloved Female ** Cry", in which a sentence sings: Why suffer for the person you love?

Those senseless quarrels in marriage are actually the hard wounds of the couple's feelings.

Women have a sentimental glass heart, and the accumulation of contradictions will inevitably make women's hearts cold.

Therefore, smart men know how to back down. It not only shows the man's broad heart, but also harvests the woman's soft heart.

Only when a woman feels happy in her heart, the family will be warmer, and thus the man will be happier and happier!

Your husband is very interesting and loves you very much, the love is mutual, he just wants you to value him, and there is only him in your heart. Actually, I think my wife should buy clothes! As for the gift, it is a little gadget to surprise him.

Men are sometimes more like children, and it's not that you think too much, but if you make up the gifts, he will feel that he wants to get them, not what you are willing. I think buying two movie tickets one day and watching a movie with him is a surprise for him.

In fact, you two are so ridiculous, your mental age is not yet mature, and they are all trivial things, so why bother? Why be serious, husband and wife should understand each other, tolerate each other, trust each other, cherish each other, as long as you love each other, this is enough, why bother and care about some small things? It would be nice to grow up a little more, and I wish you all happiness forever.

According to your description, your married life is still relatively good. People's mental state is complex, the mood is not high for a while, or unhappy, composed of a variety of factors, such as personality, environment, physical discomfort, life locks, etc. can cause unhappiness, can be enlightened and dredged. Giving each other gifts for the anniversary of your husband and wife is just a "lubricant" to adjust your life, just pay a little attention, don't make it formal, but lose the original intention.

The relationship between husband and wife must not be as warm as when they were in love, and what to buy, don't worry about it, there are too many trivial things about firewood, rice, oil and salt, sometimes you will forget, girls don't do too much, maybe you think too much, live happily and happily!

Are married, old husbands and old wives still pay attention to these, who buys who doesn't use the family's money, and then it's good to look at the usual performance, it's enough to live in a family and care for each other, and these forms are enough, the two of us never send things but the relationship is very good, maybe some people say I don't understand romance, but I don't think it matters, what do you like to buy yourself.

I really envy you husband and wife, you can respect each other as guests, these details of life are done so perfectly, you are doing a good job, you are an example for us to learn, however, he is a little unhappy, it is not true that you did not buy a gift for him, maybe he may encounter a little setback at work, or in interpersonal relationships, but it cannot be solved for the time being, just to complain.

There is a problem with your way, since you are a husband and wife, you should not care about the gift. Whoever wants to buy it.

Your husband is a bit glassy, and you also subconsciously have the idea of comparing yourself with others, but it's just not clear.

Living at home, I always want to be better than others. It's all normal. But smart people generally just think about it, and don't say it.

And once spoken, the listener will always have an idea. Because you have to live your own life. Whether it is good or not, only you know.

When talking about others, whether they are good or bad, they also use themselves as a reference. Who doesn't have an idea?

Your husband has this kind of thought, it shouldn't be the first time you say that he is like this, it may be that you have said it too many times that he has this reaction. In fact, as far as your husband is concerned, there is no need to react too violently, and it is normal for lesbians to love to nag. But a man is the pillar of the family, and the happy life of the family depends on him, and the happiness of your family is inseparable from his ability.

If you say that, of course he will have an idea.

But as yourself, speaking like this, although it means no other thing, always expresses an idea. In the eyes of him, who loves you, he feels a little guilty for not giving you the days you want. But it doesn't always meet your requirements right away.

That's why he's annoying. You should put yourself in his shoes and think about it.

Actually, it's not a big deal, you can talk to your husband openly and honestly. After saying that, the misunderstanding is cleared up, and there will be nothing.

Wishing you happiness!

Out of a man's self-esteem, it's better not to say such a thing, turn it over and turn it over to your husband who is going to say that daughter-in-law, the girl is very good-looking, what do you think.

Sometimes the speaker is unintentional, but the listener is intentional! But you always tell your husband about the good aspects of other people's homes, and anyone will think about it!

It is recommended that you communicate with your husband and say that there is no other meaning, don't think about it, and don't talk about it in the future! Because these little things don't cause conflicts and affect the relationship between husband and wife!

If someone else's family is good, it's also someone else's! Whoever has it is better to have it than to have it yourself! Envy doesn't mean much, it's better to work hard yourself!