Why is it so hard to admit mistakes?

No matter how strong your will is and how hard you try, it is inevitable: at some point in life, you will make mistakes. Mistakes are hard to digest, so we sometimes gamble instead of confronting them.

At this point, we are biased in our perception of the confirmation of the matter, leading us to seek evidence to prove our beliefs. For example, if there is a small dent on the bumper of the car that you plugged behind, it obviously means that the driver's fault. Psychologists call this cognitive dissonance, the stress we feel when we hold two conflicting thoughts, beliefs, opinions, or attitudes.

For example, you may think that you are a good, just person, but you will experience this dissonance when you rudely stuff yourself in front of other people. In response to it, you deny your mistake and insist that the driver should have seen you, or that you had the right of way, even though it wasn't.

Do you feel that it is difficult to admit mistakes because you are not mature enough, and truly mature people are people who can face their mistakes and take responsibility.

Because people are selfish, they will think that they are always right, and others are wrong, once they think that they are wrong, to admit this mistake, it must be difficult to say, which is equivalent to denying some of their previous judgments and slapping themselves in the face, so it seems that a simple admission of mistakes is still difficult to really do.

First of all, it is determined by people's personalities, because everyone is more competitive. They are reluctant to call their shortcomings and mistakes in front of others. And lack of a sense of responsibility, admitting mistakes means that you have to pay for your mistakes.

Feeling ashamed to admit your mistakes in front of others.

Admitting mistakes means taking responsibility, some people are particularly concerned about their own image, more self-centered, it is difficult to admit mistakes, sometimes they don't admit mistakes because they don't want to take responsibility, in fact, I have to think that these two types of people are not mature enough, the pattern is not big enough. People who can really resist responsibility and admit mistakes will not be bad.

It's mainly a matter of face, I remember my junior high school classmates told me this, that day the Chinese teacher asked him to admit in front of the whole class that he copied the homework of the representative of the Chinese class, in front of the whole class, there was a girl he had a crush on, which seemed unimaginable to him. Maybe I shouldn't have copied my homework because it wasn't right, but I would admit it when I thought it was reasonable. My classmates told me.

The ostensible reason is that admitting mistakes makes people feel unconfident. Admitting mistakes seems to show that you are worse than others, as if you have lost. And each of us is born with a need to maintain a good self-image, so admitting mistakes is self-destructing.

Especially in a collective or competitive environment, only by not admitting mistakes can we preserve our personal image and maintain our self-confidence. Therefore, out of instinctive self-preservation, it is not to admit mistakes.

And behind the façade of self-preservation, excessive accusations may touch our inner complexes of self-denial and doubt. On the surface, accusations are about discussing the question of who is right and who is wrong; And from the perspective of interpersonal relationships, the meaning behind the accusation is, you think I'm not good enough.

In fact, what we really care about is not whether it is wrong, but whether the other party should not blame us. I've done a lot of things, but you think I'm not good enough.

In order to protect their image, for the sake of dignity, and to put themselves in a high moral position, so it is cool for them not to admit their mistakes, and they feel that everything is under their control. However, it didn't take long for him to struggle with whether to admit his mistake. Even after a few days, I still feel heartbroken.

This state of excessive rumination triggers our long-standing self-denial and self-doubt, and we fall into a state of depression and despair.

There are many such people. There are very few people who can voluntarily admit their mistakes. This is also a sign of responsibility. If you make a mistake and always blame it on others, it is a sign of not taking responsibility. Such people will continue to make the same mistakes. Never progress.

More stubborn, more self-centered, they often think they are right when they do things, they can't see their own shortcomings, and they feel good about themselves, so when they do wrong, they don't admit that this is the reason, and some people don't admit their mistakes, because they are afraid of admitting their mistakes, if they admit their mistakes, it will make them feel very faceless, their self-esteem is too strong, and often they are unwilling to admit their mistakes, which are caused by people's psychological factors, a negative energy mentality, Such people are often not easy, accept the mistakes they have made, and dare not admit the mistakes they have made.

It should be said that few Chinese people dare to take the initiative to admit their mistakes, this is a major characteristic of the Chinese people, because the Chinese value face, feel that admitting mistakes is an extremely shameful thing, this society is not tolerant of people who are willing to admit their mistakes, up to the officials and dignitaries, down to the peddlers and pawns, few are willing to really do self-criticism, they can always find reasons for the mistakes they have made, and find excuses for the evil consequences of the species, so the Chinese can speak well, the dialectics is skillful, the white horse is not the horse, referring to the deer as the horse Gu already has, clever words make the color of the color of the kind. So I especially admire people who are willing to admit their mistakes, this quality is really very glorious, who can be without fault if you are not a saint? It can improve a lot.

Including you, everyone has grown up and has had the experience of not admitting mistakes or not wanting to admit mistakes. What did you think at the time?

In real life, some people are obviously wrong but don't want to admit it, in fact, it may not be that they don't want to admit it, but that they don't realize that they have made mistakes and still continue to persevere. And what kind of person will not recognize their mistake when they make a mistake and are unwilling to admit it, for the following reasons:

Because many people value their own face very much, and they feel that admitting their mistakes is not a slap in the face. And they also feel that admitting mistakes will be ridiculed by others, so there are often people who are reluctant to admit their mistakes because they can't save face.

Because such people are relatively strong, even if they are wrong, they will not admit it, this is a dead duck with a hard mouth, and such people will not correct their shortcomings and will never improve.

Because admitting that you are wrong, you will lose your face, and you will feel that you can't hold your head up in front of others, so you are unwilling to admit it.

Because many people have stronger self-esteem. And the personality is also relatively strong, so in this case I am not willing to admit mistakes.

Because admitting mistakes is equivalent to slapping oneself in the face, and for those who love face, such an approach is unacceptable.

Because if you admit your mistakes, you will feel that you have no face, and admitting your mistakes is more important than face, so you choose not to admit it.

Because admitting a mistake is equivalent to admitting that one's own statement or practice is problematic, which is something that a face-loving person cannot bear.

The main reason why I don't want to admit that I am wrong is that I feel guilty in my heart, and then I feel that I will become very humble after admitting it.

Because I can't save face. Sometimes people tend to have a lot of self-esteem, and they don't want to apologize even when they know that they are wrong.

Because I am afraid of admitting my mistakes, I am very faceless, so even if I know that I am wrong, I am not willing to take the initiative to admit my mistakes to the other party.

We will inevitably make mistakes in life, whether it is forgetting what we want to do, delaying others, or not finishing things and causing trouble to others! Mistakes made in the workplace, mistakes made in marriage, mistakes made in the process of educating children .........The common feature of these scenes is not just a kind of mistake, but that we often have a hard time admitting that we have made a mistake after making a mistake.

The worst case scenario is that we make a mistake due to negligence, and when someone reminds you, you can't accept it, you are a little ashamed, but you have to act right. At this time, it stimulates your personal desire to attack, and you want to fiercely defend the fact that you have done something wrong, and turn this fact into someone else's fault, or not wrong at all, or "you care too much"!

We admit that we have this general mentality, that is, it is difficult to admit our mistakes, and this thing happens naturally in personal life experience, and you may not be aware of when you have learned this mentality, and you may have done such a thing at a very young age - when others accuse you, you will not admit your mistakes.

And to take responsibility for all mistakes, sometimes it may be more difficult than just apologizing, because apologizing is when you admit your mistakes in thought, but take responsibility, and also actively face mistakes in action, so that mistakes will not become continuous damage.

Sometimes it's hard to admit mistakes, and it's hard for people who care about their image, who are more self-centered, or who have always had good feelings about themselves, to admit their mistakes, apologize, or make amends. Because if you ask the other person to overcome the problem of admitting that you are not capable or have a flaw in your thinking, it is equivalent to revising your view of yourself in many ways, which is a big psychological project for many people.

Acknowledging one's weakness and one's mistakes is the beginning of maturity! It is also the first step towards inner strength!

Difficult. It's very hard.

Few people are willing to look back on the road they have traveled, unless they have suffered a big loss, they will remember to understand it.

The confident smiling face and determined eyes convey that I don't admit defeat.

Not admitting defeat does not mean that you will not lose.

How can the judgment of affairs be foolproof, lose if you lose, start over, listen to people's advice, and eat well. Don't fall twice in the same place, and others won't question your character IQ.

If you habitually make mistakes in the same kind of thing every time.

Then I have to weigh it, if I am wrong, I must force the brakes, and run all the way, it will only be a retreat.

If you don't understand something, you just follow the instructions of others. Paranoid and reckless can only lead you to the abyss.

When the crisis comes, I never consult with you, the cordon has already been pulled, and I will not remind you again. It's your business that you're wrong, and others are mostly around **.

Don't be too stubborn, listen to the voices of all sides, everyone's wisdom can escort you to move forward steadily.

August 17, 2021 Ascend Oak Pray at night.

If you find that you have done something wrong, you will first apologize to the other party and admit your mistake.

Actually, admitting mistakes is not something to be ashamed of. On the contrary, in a sense, it is still a kind of possession"Heroic color"acts. Because the more timely the mistake is acknowledged, the easier it is to be corrected and remedied.

Moreover, admitting one's mistakes on one's own initiative is more likely to be forgiven by others than admitting one's mistakes after others have criticized them. What's more, a mistake will not ruin your future path, what will really hinder is the attitude of unwillingness to take responsibility and correct mistakes.

Some people say that the courage to admit mistakes is a sign of a person's maturity and shows a person's humble attitude, and some people say that the courage to admit mistakes is a person's excellent character. In my opinion, the courage to admit mistakes shows that a person's spiritual level is very high.

Victor Hugo once said, "It is the norm of man to make as few mistakes as possible; Not to make mistakes, that's the dream of the angels. Everything in the world is infallible. Mistakes are like a kind of gravity. ”

A person's life is spent in the process of constantly making mistakes and correcting them.

Sometimes, the more afraid you are of making mistakes, the easier it is to make mistakes. No matter how careful and cautious you are, you will inevitably make mistakes. It's not scary to make mistakes, it's your attitude towards them.

Everyone has a vague time ruler because people are in different atmospheres, environments and circles at any time, and they are more or less lucky, do you all remember when you admitted your mistakes?

Or when everyone says that he is wrong, in fact, you keep your heart beating, because this matter is your fault, and you dare not admit it in front of everyone because of the problem of face, think about it from another angle, if the person who is praised should be you, but you are praised by another person in front of you, you will definitely be unhappy.

People are always accustomed to throwing away mistakes and hanging honors on their heads to show off, no one wants to hang their mistakes on the head of Lapa Sun to show off, if admitting mistakes will make you get honor, are you willing to admit your mistakes? There should be a majority of people who will, because it is a wise choice.

Many times, when we mess up a thing, although we are willing to admit our mistakes, we will always find some reasons to justify, to put it bluntly, we lack the courage to admit our mistakes, and as we get older and have more experience, it becomes more difficult to admit our mistakes, just like people are more and more afraid to apologize.

It is easier for us to admit mistakes, faults, and shortcomings in our actions, but not in our thoughts.