What kind of behavior do sensible parents often have after retirement?

Parents usually hope that their children will be happy in the future, but they don't know whether their parents will be wise enough to determine the happiness of their children when they reach the age of fifty or sixty and their children will start a family.

Generally speaking, it is wise for parents to have the following characteristics in retirement, and it is a blessing for their children to have them.

The boundaries are clear, and I know that my children should no longer take care of the affairs of the small family after they get married.

A friend once told me that she was particularly disgusted with her brother's daughter-in-law's lavish spending, and she once persuaded her mother to take care of it. But the old lady spoke: "Did your brother and sister spend your money?" "My friend said no, but she spent my brother's money and your son's money.

The old lady asked again, "She spent her husband's money." Her husband hasn't said anything yet, what are we outsiders doing here? "At that time, I thought that the old lady was very wise.

After the retired parents are idle, because they have enough personal time, they are particularly prone to fall into a misunderstanding, that is, they point fingers at their sons who have already started a family, which is mainly manifested in the dissatisfaction with their daughter-in-law and the criticism of the child-rearing methods of the young couple, but in fact this is thankless.

The daughter-in-law was originally the mistress of the small family, but because of the intervention of her in-laws, she would feel that her sovereignty was threatened, and she would naturally resist. Even if you don't blame your in-laws in person, you will count your husband behind your back. As the male owner of a small family, on one side is his wife, and on the other side is his parents, helping anyone will not fall well, which will make men in a dilemma.

After a long time, there are many conflicts between husband and wife, and the small family is naturally unstable, and no one can live well.

Wise parents who do not interfere in the affairs of the small family can solve this crisis. The husband and wife have few contradictions, have a good family atmosphere, and their lives will be prosperous, which can also be said to be stained with the blessings of their parents.

Even after retirement, they continue to work and take responsibility for their own retirement, not just their children.

The neighbor's sister-in-law has come to my house many times to complain, saying that her in-laws are only in their fifties and will not work, playing mahjong and watching TV at home all day long, and asking her son for alimony at the beginning of the month, even if she takes a medicine for a cold, she has to ask her son for money, and she often says "I have worked hard to raise my son, and now is the time for him to do his filial piety!" "But the sister-in-law's family now has two children, and the sister-in-law resigned because she wanted to take the baby, and the family relied on the eldest brother's salary to maintain, and the family was really embarrassed.

Like the neighbor's eldest brother, it really can't be said to be a blessing to meet a parent who is still able to work but plans to gnaw on his children. Sensible parents will also be responsible parents for themselves, they will not only put all the pressure on their children, even if they retire, they will try to work while they still have the ability to work, and strive to save more money to back up for their retirement.

My parents helped me with the kids when they retired, but they didn't live with me because they felt they had to give us a little bit of space and couldn't disturb us. They help us when we need us, they stay there for us when we don't, and parents are the most selfless.

They will find something meaningful to do when they retire, such as reading books, running for a run, and constantly improving themselves.

Do not get involved in the child's family problems. Sensible parents have a sense of boundaries and know that their children are not in the same family as themselves, so they do not participate in the affairs of other people's families.

There will be a lot less conflicts in the family, and your life will be more free, you can do what you want to do, and your life will be very happy.

Life is a lot simpler. Having a sensible parent will make it very easy for their children to do macro things, because as long as they are open-minded, parents will support them. In this way, life has become simpler.

It's a blissful experience. Because sensible parents will make themselves feel very relaxed, and they can also help themselves reduce stress.