How do you think you can overcome your character flaws?

I believe that everyone is not born perfect, as the saying goes: no one is perfect. Due to our character flaws, when we communicate with others, others may be hurt and unwilling to be friends with us, perhaps not intentionally, but may hurt each other's friendship.

Personality change is a very difficult thing to do, like a habit that we have developed and suddenly can't do anymore. Therefore, when we communicate with others, we need to pay attention to our own shortcomings from time to time and consciously change them slowly. Everyone is unique in the world, and their personalities are different, and we can't be the same as other people's personalities, and if all people in the world are the same personality, that's really a terrible thing.

So what we can do is to improve the bad parts of our character, although it is difficult to achieve perfection, but we must continue to pursue and improve slowly.

To put it simply, personality is more embodied at the level of consciousness, which can be clearly perceived by the person and the people around him, and often changes accordingly when the environment changes. For example, "This person used to be quite cheerful, why doesn't he like to talk very much recently", which reflects the phenomenon of personality. Personality is more embodied in the subconscious level, which is the deepest and most stable inner trait of a person, which often accompanies us throughout our lives.

As the saying goes, "three years old is big, seven years old is old", which refers to a person's personality. If it is indeed a personality problem, first carefully assess whether the so-called "defect" has really been reached, if not, there is no need to add unnecessary pressure to yourself; If so, you can either work on your own to seek change, or you can turn to a professional counselor if necessary. However, if it is a personality problem, it is difficult for the average person to make a significant change by their own efforts, or it is recommended to seek direct help from a professional.

Many times, it is difficult for us ourselves to realize some of the activities of the mind. Including, defense mechanisms, for example, whether you are stuck in repression, denial, fantasies, intellectualization, any kind of psychological defense mechanism that you may be very difficult to recognize. For example, you have been trapped in a fantasy for a long time, fantasizing that you have achieved fame, fantasizing about yourself, and finding a beautiful love.

But it's probably a big problem for you, and you don't know what's going on, and when you understand this state, then you can change. Because, when you recognize yourself, you have the power to change. In many cases, the reason why the change is not in place is either because there is no consciousness or because the understanding is not deep enough.

Character flaws are not a big deal, who can be perfect? If you want to correct the flaws of your character, you need not only a strong desire, but also long-term perseverance, and the ability to execute resolute actions. You can't think about everything, be prepared and act steadily.

Is there anything in the world that is ready? It's nothing more than a headlong dive, as for whether the water is a clear stream or a flood beast, it depends on your own creation.

Psychology will give some better directions, will give some confidence, if you really have nothing, you can pinned on, and you are afraid of going the wrong way, then at least, science has verified a lot of things, borrowing to walk, it will be much better. At the same time, when you understand the essence of the problem, there will naturally be a driving force that drives you to take action to solve it, because you already know the way, and there is no other way than to face it, that is, it is also an invisible driving force.

Discovery is the beginning of change. But change is a long time, you should first learn to accept yourself, even if you find a bad character, you must be able to accept it from the bottom of your heart. Then slowly change, constantly improve and improve yourself.

You are far more powerful than you think. If you are aware of this, it proves that you will figure it out, that you will observe and think. Then don't worry. Find an environment where you can be at peace, feed yourself, and leave it to time. ‍‍

I find myself talking out loud and laughing out loud when people don't have a problem with me anymore, and their opinion probably wants you to speak.

Introverts are not good at socializing, so finding a partner and finding a girlfriend is tantamount to a problem for them, so you need to change your personality.

First of all, I think you should be clear about what causes your introversion, some people are introverted because they are born with a good personality, and some people are introverted because of family and educational factors.

Before you change, you have to be mentally prepared that the process must be painful. Introverts tend to have social phobia and are more timid and passive, afraid to speak up and make friends. Well, I have a few suggestions that I hope will help you.

Start with a conversation with a person.

Introverts generally don't like or fear socializing, and it's really unrealistic to say that you suddenly fit in with a group of people, so start by communicating with one person. You will definitely meet a lot of people every day, so start with the person you have long wanted to communicate with, and treat every communication as a practice, and over time, you will not be afraid to communicate with other people, and you will even be able to find happiness in the group.

Overcome low self-esteem and not be afraid of making a fool of yourself.

Some people's introversion is also accompanied by low self-esteem, so they generally dare not express their thoughts, and are always afraid of being ridiculed by others if they say something wrong.

When you change your personality, you find it easy to communicate with people. It's extra easy to find a partner.

Ways to compensate for character flaws:

1. Cognitive improvement method. Such people are distrustful of others and are sensitive and suspicious, hindering their ability to receive any kind advice. On the basis of mutual trust and emotional communication, the educator or psychologist should comprehensively introduce them to the nature, characteristics, manifestations, dangers and correction methods of personality defects.

2. Friendship training method. Being proactive in making friends can help make change"Social distancing"Nature. Sincerely meet each other and communicate with sincerity. Try to take the initiative to give all kinds of help to your close friends in the relationship. Pay attention to the principle of psychological compatibility in making friends.

3. Introspection. The self-reflection method is to write a diary, recall the scene of the day's actions before going to bed every day, and conduct self-reflection examination by Liang He, which helps to correct paranoia, and is a very effective training method to change one's own psychological behavior, and has obvious effects on shaping sound and excellent personality quality and self-education.

4. Hostility correction training method. Paranoid people with personality defects tend to be hostile and distrustful of others and their surroundings. Psychological training and education methods can help to overcome hostility and confrontation.