Why do we sometimes quarrel and have conflicts with our parents?

Because we have not yet been able to deeply understand the pressure of life, and we have not had the experience of facing the darkness of society.

When the society is unfair, unjust, fraudual, vain, and indifferent, you will feel that the society should not be like this, you will feel that there should be more trust between people, the pivot between you and your family should be affection, not money, and you should not be ridiculed and criticized when you speak your heart to your loved ones. Sometimes, you will feel that the society lacks positive energy, and you are willing to start from yourself, treat everyone sincerely, and do not cheat or cheat.

But parents will think that this society is like this, there are so many bad people, if you don't deceive people, if you don't play tricks, you can't live, you can't gain a foothold in society, they think that society is already like this, even if you are alone, you can't change this society, you will only become the object of being fooled, deceived, and bullied.

But you will think that if everyone thinks like this, then there is no hope for this society, because this society cannot be improved by one person's efforts, so it is more important to start from yourself and no longer acquiesce to the darkness of society. I can't control others, but I can control myself.

So, the contradiction came.

It's easy. This kind of thing, it doesn't matter whether it's right or wrong, arguing, arguing, it's pointless.

At least, it doesn't mean anything to you as a family.

This is the form of today's society.

You don't have to quarrel, everyone thinks differently, they can't convince each other, quarreling will only make everyone angry and aggrieved, every time you talk about this kind of topic, you should decisively change the topic, let time prove all this, maybe you can still stick to your moral bottom line, maybe you will slowly agree with the unspoken rules of this society and agree with your parents' views, but these take time.

I used to go to work, and I was isolated from the world. Now I am in a small business, and I am often arguing with my parents, making conflicts, it is not easy to make money, I think, I am still dying.

When you integrate into the big dye vat of society, but you can still bloom your own purity, I think, we should be able to see you.

Because we look at the problem from different angles, there will be contradictions!

And because of the age gap, the different views of right and wrong, and the different value orientations, coupled with the impulsive and rebellious psychology of young people and the eagerness of their parents and the eagerness of their parents to become Jackie Chan, the collision of the two psychology will naturally spark sparks and quarrels!

Hey, let's know how to compromise and understand each other, and let everything go away!

As I grow older, my sense of autonomy gradually increases, and many things have my own ideas; Parents think that we lack life experience and social experience, and we will always be children who will not grow up; We and our parents will be different in terms of life attitudes, concepts, interests, hobbies, behavior patterns, etc.

Because of our age gaps, our values and perceptions are different, so our judgments are different.

Because the era of parents and children are different, it is normal to have conflicts with parents, but as Zimin's poor daughter and parents, everyone must tolerate each other, don't think too much, normal people will have contradictions, just care more and not much, more and less will be tired, choose not to care, will live a very simple and happy life.

Because you have different ideas and lack understanding.

What parents expect from their children is that they want their children to be obedient and do things according to their parents' ideas. The child's expectation of his parents is that his parents should be considerate of me and let me choose freely. Children who have always longed for the approval of their parents often believe in the denial of their parents.

Therefore, both sides have different expectations, and the reactions generated during communication will also be different, and both sides take it for granted that the other side changes, and when neither side changes, problems arise. In order to communicate with parents to understand each other, it is necessary to improve the following:

1. Take the initiative to communicate with parents, communication is the foundation of a good relationship.

Usually communicate with your parents more about your own experience, tell your parents about the problems you encounter in study and life, and need your parents' help. You can also share your achievements and share happy things with your parents. Establish a good communication relationship with your parents.

2. Listen carefully at all times and respect your parents' opinions.

Although the two generations grew up in different eras, the experience of their parents is also the experience that has been honed by life. Listen to your parents' advice and respect their opinions. Even if you oppose your parents' advice, it's best not to get angry, control your emotions, talk to your parents calmly, and listen to your parents' reasons.

3. Be more empathetic, be considerate of your parents, and take the initiative to apologize to your parents when you make mistakes.

If you really do something wrong and your parents reprimand you, don't talk back to your parents at every turn, think more from the perspective of your parents, and understand your parents' feelings and difficulties. Even if there are some things that may not be your fault and you have suffered a lot of grievances, don't rush to argue just yet.

You have to learn to be considerate of your parents, maybe your parents are too tired or have troubles, so they will get angry. You can change the time and place and communicate with your parents again, and it will have unexpected effects.

4. Take your parents to travel more often to broaden their horizons and enhance their relationship.

Parents are busy all their lives, the circle of life is small, and the mind is also resting on their laurels, and they have time and conditions to take their parents out to travel and play, so that parents can open their eyes more, and traveling with their parents will also help to enhance their relationship with each other.

When we reach adolescence, we have our own minds, we begin to act independently, and we desire our parents to treat us like adults. In the eyes of our parents, we are always children who do not grow up, have no life experience, and do not have rich experience. Their love for us has not changed, but they are more demanding, and we will feel that our parents are nagging, so it is easy to have conflicts.

The age gap between us and our parents is the direct cause of the generation gap, and the essence of the generation gap is the multiple generational differences behind the age.

Wishing for a son to become a dragon is the common wish of parents all over the world. Our conflicts with our parents are often based on our parents' high expectations and strict demands on us. This kind of "strictness" that seems to us to be somewhat harsh reflects the love that our parents have for us.

Most children will not quarrel with their parents, because what their parents do is for the sake of their children, so they will not quarrel with their parents because of some small things in life, but there will always be normal times with their parents in life. So why quarrel with your parents? What causes this?

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Sometimes I hate myself, and the environment I live in is always envious of what others have, thinking that my parents are not as good as others, but in fact, this situation is also very negative, because when we discuss together, there will be some comparison, then at this time you may accuse your parents of not providing enough environment and conditions for yourself, if this situation is more and more, then your heart will begin to blame your parents, and when you encounter some small things, you will ignite the anger in your heart, and you will quarrel with your parents, But in fact, when I grew up, I found that it was very naïve, because it is also a kind of happiness to be able to grow up happily in a family. <>

And there is a generation gap between parents and children, and the values will be different, parents always want to give their children what they think is good, but they don't think about whether the children will like it, so some parents think that their children should get married and have children when they reach the age, but they want to have a fight, so the different values will lead to arguments. And this generation gap is very big, and it is difficult for us to break, if we blindly follow one side, then we must adapt to accept to be able to change, so we should find common ground with our parents and try to ease the relationship with our parents. <>

Parents will treat their children as treasures, and parents will also give their children more patience and forbearance, and they will also break their hearts for their children, so every time the source of investigation may be because of different opinions, so they will stubbornly want the other party to accept their ideas. Parents and children are the closest relationship in the world, a special existence, this kind of blood relationship, will make the father and son more bound to each other. Therefore, you can reduce the number of quarrels, understand the temper of your parents more, patiently observe your parents' likes and dislikes, understand more, and quarrel less.

Of course I will, usually because of the blind date, they want me to go on a blind date, and I don't want to go.

I'm going to fight with them, I'm going to fight with them because I don't want to get married, and they're always urging me to get married.

Definitely quarreled with my parents, who didn't do this when I was a kid, mainly because he wasn't allowed to play games and watch TV, I wanted to play.

Clause. 1. The child is insecure.

Parents are the closest people to their children, and children do not allow anyone to abuse their parents and speak ill of their parents. In a child's heart, parents are all they have.

But if the parents quarrel for a long time, it will make the child insecure, and the child's only reliance is on the parents, but the parents always quarrel and fight. In a quarrel, it is inevitable to say some radical words, these words, on the surface, may have no impact on the child, but in fact, these words have a great impact on the child.

A child who has grown up in a quarrelsome family for a long time will also grow up insecure. So for the sake of the children, please don't quarrel.

Clause. 2. The child's character defects.

Long-term quarrels between parents can cause children to become introverted and withdrawn. Children who often live in this kind of family atmosphere tend to have low self-esteem, sensitivity, and cowardice, and many times they are also influenced by their parents, becoming very irritable, and even violent. If the parents quarrel a lot, it is easy for the child to quarrel with his or her significant other over small things when he grows up and has a family.

So for the sake of the children, please don't quarrel.

Third, reluctance to communicate with others.

Parents are their children's first teachers and role models. In the process of children's growth, long-term quarrels between parents will lead to children's insecurity, distrust of social people, and reluctance to communicate with others. At work, I don't want to cooperate and share with others, and in life, I don't know how to communicate with others.

When I grow up, I will only be picky, quarrelsome, and even violent towards my other half.

So love children, please don't quarrel in front of your children, just like us husband and wife, if you want to quarrel, you have to wait until the child is asleep, or when the child is not at home. Many times the quarrels between husband and wife are because of trivial things, and I put up with it at the time, and when I calmed down, I found that it was all trivial.