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<> "How to Awaken Positive Emotions.

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M has been feeling weak lately. She will always subconsciously avoid doing things she doesn't like, causing such things to accumulate more and more. In the end, the burden of remembering these things you don't like far outweighs the pain it takes to complete them.

She entered a negative cycle: self-doubt + self-criticism, which led to negative emotions, which led to a decrease in work efficiency, which led to more self-criticism and more negative emotions, and finally felt that it was difficult to do anything.

M made a lot of plans for herself, but she only stayed at the level of "making a plan", which was a disturbance of her grandson, and she couldn't take the step of action - she didn't know where to start, and she was trapped.

Step 1: Wait for the feeling?

When we feel depressed and stuck, we tend to become less active: we don't like to socialize, exercise, take care of our lives, and so on.

We find ourselves in a dilemma – we want to make a change, but don't have enough motivation to start; The more negative the positive behavior, the worse it feels.

We often tell ourselves that once we feel better, we start. But, contrary to popular belief, motivation is often not ahead of action, it follows action.

Step 2: Behavior Activation.

Many things can lead to depression, such as unemployment, work, and relationship stress. Whatever the reason, once we feel depressed, we tend to cut ourselves off from the things that make us feel good – emotional and physical resources are not replenished, and our "bank account of mental energy" is overdrawn.

When doing something, if you have to wait until you have enough motivation to start, it is too inefficient.

CBT takes the opposite approach because we usually have more control over our actions than our feelings. If we wait until we feel better to start acting, we may have to wait a long time.

Step 3: How to take the first step.

It's only when you actually start doing something (even if you don't want to) that you start to feel motivated.

One of the best ways to choose the "path of least resistance" to increase the probability of dust and action is to make the initial start easy enough that a small step in the right direction is better than a big step not being taken.

Step 4: Trigger the butterfly effect.

An effective change strategy is not to do big things, but to start small. Start with 1% and it will have a butterfly effect.

At this time, get up from your seat, open the window and drink water, and let the fresh air blow in; Suspend what you are doing, tidy up your workbench, make your field of vision especially clean and minimalist, and clean up all unnecessary items; Restart your phone, clean up unread WeChat messages, and organize your computer files; Take the initiative to say hello and give others a smile; A positive state starts with such little things.

When you are faced with a cleaner, more sunny environment, the engine of positive emotions will kick in.

Top 4 ways to regulate your emotions.

1. Target transfer method.

If you're feeling irritated and unable to concentrate because of something or someone, don't push yourself. At this time, the most important thing to do is to relax, do something to pass the time without consuming your brain power, you might as well listen to **, watch TV. Only when your mood is relieved and relaxed will you have the energy to do what you should do and want to do.

2. Cry appropriately.

Crying when you're grief-stricken can calm your emotions. Crying is a great way to relieve tension, annoyance, and pain. American psychologist Waferley believes that tears can expel certain toxins produced by the organism during the stress response.

From this point of view, holding back and not crying when you encounter something that should be cried means chronic poisoning.

3. Learn to self-debug.

Relax yourself in time to maintain mental balance and tranquility. In view of the long-term high mental tension, white-collar workers should learn to self-adjust and relax themselves in time. Such as participating in various sports activities; Soak in a hot bath after work and chat with family and friends; Saturday and Sunday outings; You can also use various ways to vent your suppressed emotions and so on.

In addition, you can also relax at work, such as listening while working**; Chat with colleagues and talk about jokes; Walking back and forth in the office, stretching your waist; Open the window, look out from the window, take a deep breath, etc. At the same time, in the complex and intense work, we should maintain psychological balance and tranquility, as the saying goes, "the heart is calm and naturally cool". This requires white-collar workers to develop good personalities such as cheerfulness, optimism, and generosity, and to be steady, tolerant, accepting, and detached.

4. Divert attention.

When the anger is rising, consciously changing the subject or doing something else to distract you can help relieve your emotions. When the residual anger is still gone, you can use legitimate and meaningful activities such as watching movies, listening to **, playing chess, playing ball, and taking a walk to relax the tension. Some people get angry and work hard, which is not only a kind of transfer, but also a kind of catharsis, which can be regarded as an effective method of controlling anger.

However, it is important to remind him to be safe, because when provoked, his movements are often not precise and coordinated.

First of all, there is some understanding of the true meaning of emotional intelligence, emotional intelligence usually refers to the emotional quotient, referred to as EQ, mainly refers to the quality of people who are frustrated within emotional inhibition and includes quotient, etc., and IQ is the intelligence quotient, intelligence is usually called wisdom, also called intelligence, is the ability of people to understand objective things, must use knowledge to solve practical problems. So if you want to combine these two things2, it is equivalent to a latent motivation in the human brain, and when there is a certain change in people's emotional intelligence, this motivation changes with this change.

Emotions should be controlled rationally, we should usually read more books, study more, read more seriously, increase self-control, control, and being too emotionally excited is also a sign of immaturity.

You must control your emotions well, and you can't let your emotions vent anytime and anywhere.

Integrate theory with practice, maintain a good mood, and practice a lot of good emotions!

2.When interacting with emotional people, care must be taken to remain calm and reasonable. Because emotional people are very easy to act irrationally in the process of interacting with people, causing harm to the other party, so when you interact with emotional people, you must remain calm and rational to avoid yourself from being affected by the other party's serious influence, so that you can make the same irrational words and deeds.

This is a very important issue that you must be aware of when dealing with emotional people.

3.You should avoid unnecessary interactions with emotional people. In your daily work and life, you need to interact with people frequently, and you can achieve your own goals.

However, it is extremely detrimental to oneself to be vulnerable to associating with an emotional humanoid scumbag. Therefore, you should pay attention to avoid unnecessary interactions with those emotional people in your daily life, so as to avoid unnecessary trouble for yourself, so as to effectively protect your own interests.

Each of us lives in a social group, so we all know that we have to live and interact with all kinds of people.

There may be some people who we are just one side, and there are not many people who have contact with stupid hail sheds, but there are also some people who we are together day and night, and we are more and more familiar with each other and understand each other after a long time. It even made us good friends and confidants with each other.

We know that in fact, different people will have different personalities and different characteristics, and there may be some people who are naturally more lively. Some people may be relatively dull, and there may even be others who may be very emotional. So some people just want to know what it's like to be with these emotional people.

Maybe for a small number of people, they feel that they can actually get along well with these emotional people, because they are easily emotional, so it is easy to be driven by our emotions. So some people feel that they can be very infected, and these people make them get along better.

But we see that for most people, they feel that it is difficult to get along with these emotional people, because they feel that these people are always easy to be emotional, and when they encounter a little bit of questions and things, they may have a lot of conflicts. This may eventually affect their relationship and even cause them to have a lot of misunderstandings, so they feel that it is difficult to get along with these emotional people.

So there will be a lot of different people around us, and these different people will have different personalities and characteristics. Some people may be more active by nature, and such people are certainly more liked by everyone, me. But there are also people who can be very emotional.

Some people find it easy to get along with these emotional people, because as long as we can get along with them well, it will make it easier for them to be with us. But for most people, they find it difficult to get along with these emotional people. Because it may often lead to some misunderstandings and contradictions between them.

But despite this, we see that many people will still try to get along with everyone, even if some people will be a little emotional, I believe that when we can work hard to get along with them well, this will eventually make us and each other become good friends, and in the end, it will also make people get along with each other more harmoniously, so that everyone can become very good colleagues and friends.